for Peter Lee

[SteveB]

... in response to Re: for Peter Lee, posted by Peter Lee on Mar 24, 2003

This is Julietb Steveb's wife. I'm so interested to answer your post. Maybe you wonder why? Well to tell you honestly, I'am a registered nurse In the Philippines and after I received my license in Nov.1999, there are no hospitals hiring nurses at that time so I searched for a job and to make a long story short, I got a job in a supercat as a vessel nurse. What I'm trying to say is I've been through  all the classes that your fiancee is saying it's a requirement to have these classes before you can work on board.  I think I still remember, I payed only 5,000 pesos for( PSSR, fire fighting and Solas classes)last year 2000. I took that class at the University of Cebu Mambaling.  When I read your post, i'm in shock, because she is asking you for too much money to take that class. I think she told a lie, thats all I can say.

Julietb

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Re: for Peter Lee, posted by SteveB on Mar 24, 2003

Hi Juliet,

How are you? Nice to see you on the board. Marife says hi through IM.

Dave H.

[Peter Lee]

... in response to Re: Re: for Peter Lee, posted by SteveB on Mar 24, 2003

Yes, thank you for your letter.

I have just finished chatting with febtember for about one hour.  With your letter and my call to the school in Cebu there is no doubt that the tuition was highly inflated.  The question was why?  When I talked to the director Mrs. Psamos she knew my fiancé personally.  She gave her character high marks and continued to talk about what a great student she was.   She was well liked and carried herself better than most among the almost all men school.  She also let it known that she was to be married in July to an American named Peter Lee.  Now I know this girl myself for over 20 days and have chatted with her since Jan 03.  Yes not a lot of time but enough for basics.  She has no jewelry, no watch, her clothes are basic.  Where would the inflated extra money go?   When I courted her at her house she was always working so hard for her aunt.  Cleaning, cleaning, and washing clothes, cooking, fetching water busy, busy.  All aunts kids had a cell phone, she didn't.  Aunt's kids slept allot, didn't do chores like her.  A Cinderella story.  It was because of aunty that we got to know each other in the first place.  So the money had to go someplace?  I think aunty has her by the string.  She owes much to her aunt, knowing me and the chance to go to school.  There was a plan when I was asked for 48,000 pesos.  Stupid anyway coz if we were to get married as planned she would never go to sea and it would be wasted money anyway.  When I said no to the high tuition she just said ok and changed the subject, as if she had promised to bring it up.  Aunty gets on the web and emails to guys that think it is her daughter.  So Febtember and I figured out it was her Aunt that was behind the inflated tuitions and extra expenses.  Her Aunt was getting the extra money.  When I called the Aunt last night she didn't know anything about tuitions and the prices.  Aunty was the one paying for all these tuitions before I got there, she had to know.  I think I got part of the story now to get the other part.  If I get my fiancé’s confidence she may tell me about her Aunt, I will try
Your letter surly confirms what we found, now we want to find out why?  If this is true she had to choose between me and her Aunt.  So she lied to me and paid off aunty.  Does this make her a bad girl or a victim?  
 

[Bear]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: for Peter Lee, posted by Peter Lee on Mar 25, 2003

many are at the mercy of family and you have to give them strict limits so they can honestly tell family members they can't do whats asked of them.

[Dave H]

... in response to Its ;oke I said..., posted by Bear on Mar 25, 2003

N/T

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: for Peter Lee, posted by Peter Lee on Mar 25, 2003

What you gonna do if she 'comes clean' and tells you the aunt 'made her do it'? Gonna beleive her? Gonna 'rescue' her from the aunt? There is a difference between being 'fooled' and being 'a fool'. The first somebody else does to you, the second only you can do to yourself.

This is not meant to be a personal attack, it is meant as sincere advice.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Bad girl or victim? Does it matter?, posted by Michael B on Mar 25, 2003

... and you end up with a distressed damsel.

- Jeff

[Dave H]

... in response to Bad girl or victim? Does it matter?, posted by Michael B on Mar 25, 2003

N/T