I wonder... Why do guys look?

[SteveG]

... in response to I wonder... Why do guys look?, posted by Tjien on Dec 2, 2002

Tjien,
 I don't know you or the guy who keeps talking to you but I can assure you that a man doesn't repeatedly approach a woman he's not attracted to!  

 OK, I know that no matter what he may think of you, it sure would make you feel better about yourself if your skin would clear up, right?  I think I can help you.  My wife had the very same problem about a year or two after arriving in the US from the Philippines.   She had never had any skin problems at all before comming to the US and was surprised when acne started to appear.   It got bad too, completely covering her face.   We went to a dermatologist for about 2 years and she recommended treatment after treatment with no results.   Finally I saw a TV infomercial and ordered some face wash and treatment.  The stuff worked just like they said within a month or so!   We still get it now years later - she has had no reoccurrence whatsoever.   We initially ordered it in 1998.        
The company is called:

  PROACTIVE Solution
  P.O. Box 11448
  Des Moines, IA 50336-1448

  1-800-950-4695

 The cost is about $45 for a 3 month treatment - well worth what it does.   I can't guarantee it would work for you, but I know what it did for my wife.
                       Good Luck,
                       SteveG

 PS - I just found their website  http://www.proactiv.com/index.php?acnt=GTPZO01H

[Tjien]

... in response to A Suggestion, posted by SteveG on Dec 2, 2002

Thanks for the suggestion Steve, I'll take a look at the website =)

Tjien

[The Walker]

... in response to I wonder... Why do guys look?, posted by Tjien on Dec 2, 2002


My darling is busy and will be for the next two days so I am writing.

I think the "wandering eye" of men goes very deep into their genes. Men were the traditional hunters. Movement attracts hunters. Don gives everyone that passes us the "once over" he calls it. He sort of looks them up and down. Mrs. Mayor says he is "eye frisking" them. True his eyes linger a little longer over pretty girls darn it but he is after all a man. But his eyes also linger longer over anything unusual too so it is of no matter. He gave one man in a suit a long look and I asked him what was the matter. He said the guy must be a policeman, or so he hoped. I asked why and he said "because he is packing heat" which I have learned means carrying a concealed handgun. I looked and I could not tell but then I do not have experience with concealed weapons. I think men have the hunter's look. Anything that moves catches their attention for at least a second. If they are curious or it pleases them or there is something unusual then their look lasts longer. Surely Roseanne Arnold or Rosey O Donnell do not rate more than a passing glance except for their celebrity. And Mrs. Mayor gets looked at well wherever she goes and she loves it. When I am out alone looks sometimes frighten me a little.

When we are back in the Philippines my husband gets looked at very much by all the women, and I would like to scratch their eyes out for it too. My darling is very gwapo indeed and the girls all circle him like sharks. Even my little neices all flirt with him outrageously, all the way down to the six year olds who hug his legs.

Oh, for all the old cow people here the criminals that cut the fences and chased the neighbor's cows all over creation have been caught and tried. They were stupid activists and the judge was not lenient. They got a week in jail apiece and fined for vandalism and for creating a public safety hazard. More than one of the cows caused a trafic accident. The neighbor is going to sue them in common court for damages. It would be funny if they have to pay to replace lost cows and for all the fencing and Don's and other people's time to assist him to recapture the cows. These are not poor people and now that their money is threatened instead of our neighbor's money they are all of a sudden very concerned. They should have thought of that before creating mischief. The damages will run into many thousands of dollars alone, then there are punishment damages added on to that. Then there will be lawsuits by insurance companies and people who were injured and had their cars ruined when they hit a cow. I imagine that these will be very poor activists when this is all over.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: I wonder... Why do guys look?, posted by The Walker on Dec 2, 2002

There's a new book out called "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps."  It's really well written, funny and brings lots of the differences between men and women to light. Anyway, it's true, men's eyes work very differently tham women's. Men have much less peripheral vision tham women and tend to focus much more narrowly while women can take in lots of things around them with a glance. It's probably why men get caught looking at women but women, who look just as much as men, rarely do. Men have far more spatial orientation than women also. This is the hunter gene that goes far back in time, way before civilization.

Anyway, also in this book is a description about men not noticing faults of women they're attracted to.  I always noticed that whan I was dating. Girls who I thought were very attractive at first, after getting to know them and not liking what I learned, I suddenly realized they weren't nearly as pretty or well built as I thought. This is why when women ask their husbands,"Am I getting fat?" or some other question about appearance, most men thruthfully answer, "You're perfect for me," which most women reject as some sort of appeasement. The fact of the matter is that men REALLY DO think see her as perfect even though othersmay mumble something about thunder thighs. It's likely that's what Tjien is experiencing.

- Jeff S

[Tjien]

... in response to Good Call Vicky., posted by Jeff S on Dec 2, 2002

As I said earlier in another reply, it almost always is age-dependant. We're both 18 and well, still growing up. I'm not sure how he feels about it, but if he DOES look beyond my (temporary) skin condition, I'm more than happy!

Unfortunately, I still don't know =(

Tjien

[Bob S]

... in response to I wonder... Why do guys look?, posted by Tjien on Dec 2, 2002

Women tend to be a lot more critical of their own looks and of other women than men are.  He's probably looking past a few minor blemishes to, what? Pretty eyes? Silky hair? Full pouty lips? Nice cleavage? (Gasp! An interesting personality with simiilar interests?)
Yes, men can be simple superficial creatures.  Use that to your advantage!  You are worried about something he may regard as minor and transitory.  What about you is he staring at?  If he regards that as your best feature, fine.  Don't sweat the things you can't do much about.
(If it sounds like I'm rambling, sorry. It was a long trip today from Hong Kong to Tokyo, and I'm kinda groggy.)

[Tjien]

... in response to Mountains & Molehills, posted by Bob S on Dec 2, 2002

Thanks for replying, with all the grogginess Haha, just kidding!

Sometimes when I talk to people they twitch their eyes. When they do that, I KNOW they are examining my face, from top to bottom. Whenever I talk to him, he either looks at the floor or looks me straight in the eyes. He doesn't make me feel uncomfortable when he looks, he rather makes me feel interesting.

[ "Yes, men can be simple superficial creatures. Use that to your advantage!" ]

Do you mean using (what he thinks is) my best feature to my advantage? I don't even know what that is (to him), that is why I'm so insecure about the whole situation, I have questions like: "Is he really looking past my red spots?" "If he isn't looking at my red spots, what IS he looking at?" and "How?"

But I'm afraid he's the only one who could answer that... =(

Tjien

[outwest77]

... in response to I wonder... Why do guys look?, posted by Tjien on Dec 2, 2002

[This message has been edited by outwest77]

http://www.earthwormherbals.com/eczema.html#retail

Not sure how expensive it is, on the retailers link it says 25 dollars for sample kit but it looks like they know what they are talking about, or at least i hope so.
My condolences to you i know im a bit self conscious about
my thinning hair, to the point i wear a baseball cap alot
but still im told Im very gwapo in the phils whenever i go there. even though i tell my gf they say that about all white guys

Hope that link helps you.

[Tjien]

... in response to try this, posted by outwest77 on Dec 2, 2002

Thanks for the tip, I'll certainly look into trying it =)

Tjien