jealousy

[chevy]

Are philipinas know to be jealous like the latinas are? Especially of former girlfriends. I have had latina girlfriends who insisted on knowing all the details about prior girlfriends and my intimate history with them. They were open about their past as well.
 Do philipinas talk about their past if asked or do they follow a don't ask,don't tell policy? I read on one site that it is considered a great offense to ask a woman about her past.

[Humabdos]

... in response to jealousy, posted by chevy on Oct 29, 2002

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Humabdos

[Jeff S]

... in response to jealousy, posted by chevy on Oct 29, 2002

I don't know about Filipinas, but my Japanese wife doesn't have a jealous bone in her body. She trusts me implicitly and I have never given her any reason to not. We've never discussed past relationships at all but she did meet one of my ex gfs. It's my first marriage and her second (the first was arranged.) She knows I got around when I was single and I know she'd dated some, too, but neither of us have much cared to discuss it or quiz the other. Most of what I know about her first marriage came from her family and not her either.

Jeff S.

[The Walker]

... in response to Re: jealousy, posted by Jeff S on Oct 29, 2002


I have never given Vicky a moment of doubt, either. Doesn't help sometimes, or, rather, it didn't. She is not jealous of me now but very much so of other women. She no longer thinks I will stray, but she seems to think other women are not to be trusted and puts the green eyes on any attractive woman that smiles at me.

Funny but thankfully she has never seemed to have been upset by Mrs. Mayor. For newbies, the Mayors are our best friends. Mrs. Mayor is a tall Texas blonde who used to be a beauty queen and could still pose for Playboy I am sure. She and Vicky became fast friends almost at sight. She will come into the house, flop into my lap, give me a kiss and stick her finger in my ear and proposition me just for funsies. Mr. Mayor could casre less as he trusts his wife. Vicky just laughs. Any other woman who would walk up to our table at a public restaurant and ask me for the time would have to pull a half-dozen imaginary daggers out of her body as she left. Vicky is one Filipina that can freeze other women with a look and she freely dispenses the talent.

We finally got over the jealousy hurdle a while back. She made some noise over a woman I had helped in some small way out of the goodness of my heart. So I decided to make an issue of it. I asked her if she thought I was a liar. That stopped her cold. I told her I gave her my oath not only in her religious ceremony but in mine as well, and that I do not appreciate my veracity always being in question. That seemed to solve it.

For the record I do not frequent "titty" bars or clubs or else flirt with women. As a young man I got what I could, I was a young dog alright, but even during my first marriage, once I had the rings on, my word was my bond. Vicky does not go to Chippendales shows and I do not go to titty bars. Besides, why should I go and stare at something I cannot have, when I can go home to the real thing? Doesn't make sense to me.

Don

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Re: jealousy, posted by The Walker on Oct 29, 2002

I gave up titty bars with the invention of silicone back in the 70s. Somehow perfectly hemispherical, hard as a rock, imitation breasts don't do a thing for me. Might as well look at an injection molded plastic characature of a woman's figure. I'd also, rather be home snuggling with my warm, soft sweetie any old day.

- Jeff S.

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: jealousy, posted by Jeff S on Oct 30, 2002

N/T

[Dave H]

... in response to jealousy, posted by chevy on Oct 29, 2002

[This message has been edited by Dave H]

Hey Chevy,

I have found out the hard way that Latinas and women in general, don't tell you "everything." But, whatever you say will probably be used against you at a later date. Leave your unrelevant history buried in the past with Filipinas also. Keep it to the obvious facts and temperate in detail. I have a problem with being too honest when it isn't called for or helpful. I concur with the others. I have found Filipinas to be more jealous than the average AW, but milder and more reasonable than most Latinas. The jealousy of Filipinas and Latinas is most different in the way it is expressed. Upon suspicion, a Filipina may tampo (sulk), while most Latinas are ready to fight. Perhaps a Filipina who witnessed an infidelity might fight or pull a bolo. Many Filipinas that I know don't really have a "past" that would include anything more than hand holding or a kiss on the cheek. Often you will be "The First."

Dave H.

[The Walker]

... in response to jealousy, posted by chevy on Oct 29, 2002


It is a double standard. Don't ask her and don't tell her anything she does not need to know. ;-)

Seriously, Filipinas are quite jealous as a rule. Mainly because they have seen so many of their men being so adulterous. A seemingly submissive young Filipina can suddenly turn into the Exorcist if she sees you laughing and talking with another woman. It takes them some time to get used to the idea that an American man can have a nonsexual relationship with another woman. If you are very friendly with another woman, make sure you tell your Filipina in advance and introduce them as soon as possible. Maybe even get this woman to help your Filipina adjust. As for former girlfriends, former is the word. Unless you work with them she will expect you to give them up totally once you are married. Not a bad idea, anyhow. They can only cause trouble.

Filipinas are far worse than American women about jealousies and suspicions. One man wrote an article abvout a Filipina who checked herself into the ER with breathing problems. When her hubby showed up rightly concerned she told him if he was not having an affair she would not be ill. Her evidence? At work he was slow answering his cell phone, and since he always kept it in his pants pocket, he must have had his pants off. Why would he have his pants off? Whilst banging some woman at work, of course.

Not all Filipinas are as bad as that, but it does take them a little while to get used to the idea that you are not a Filipino and that you are not trying to lay every woman for whom you hold the door or for whom you reach something off a high store shelf or for whom you change a tire along side the road. American women will think you gallant for aiding a strange woman while they are with you. Not so Filipinas. Even if they are on your arm while you aid the strange woman, they will think you are trying to flirt under her nose.

Thankfully, they usually get over this pretty quickly. Vicky was average in jealousy, except for when it came to Mrs. Mayor (thank heavens). She has just about gotten over jealousy about other women.

Don

[Nathan]

... in response to Re: jealousy, posted by The Walker on Oct 29, 2002

Well, Don is right that "Filipinas are far worse than American women about jealousies and suspicions". However, having lived in both of these areas of the world, I can say that compared to some Latinas, most Filipinas are pretty reasonable. I found that many Latinas are jealous to the point of serious disfunction within realitonships. One problem within Latin culture: Latinas tend to be outraged when their boyfriends or husbands cheat, but think they are whimps if they don't try and mothers are often quite proud when their sons have multiple girlfriends..."Jorge is such a stud!"...

[outwest77]

... in response to Re: jealousy, posted by The Walker on Oct 29, 2002

You are slow to answer the cell phone so ur pants must have been off, LOL, my gf is very jealous, but she is mild in her mood about it, its unfounded, and all i get is hmpts
when she gets jealous, but now she is getting better about it.