A Question

[Keith Smith]

Hi Party People! How's everyone? Fine, I hope. Normally, I post on the Latin Board; however, I will make an exception. Ever since I began my search, I've always used the written correspondence route. I've written to Latins and Asians (Filipinas) in particular. Most of the ladies I wrote to were Latinas; however, the ladies who always responded to my letters were Filipinas. Any particular reason for this? Comments? Suggestions? NOTE: Lately, I've been thinking. If I can't have a Latin woman as a girlfriend (and future wife), then I would go for an Asian (Filipina) woman. Thanks.

[Dave H]

... in response to A Question, posted by Keith Smith on Oct 19, 2002

Hey Keith,

I haven't got a clue why the Latinas didn't respond. Maybe you didn't use the right bait. Try sending a photo of yourself standing next to a Ferrari. ))) Seriously, have the Latin Board guys offered any insight? If you want a Latina, just move here to South Florida...that's about all there is. I wanted some peace in my life and was considering a midwestern or British lady, although I prefer darker petite women. My Filipina wife has shown me that I can have the best of everything. Good Luck!

Dave H.

[Keith Smith]

... in response to Wecome to the Asian Board!, posted by Dave H on Oct 22, 2002

Thanks, Dave.

[outwest77]

... in response to A Question, posted by Keith Smith on Oct 19, 2002

Hi Keith,
Im Mike, in New Mexico, and i think i can offer a perspective.

I have dated latin women i New Mexico and Colorado for 20 years, and have dated a few asian ladies , one thai in Denver, and another Thai in New Mexico.

I was going to go to South America for about a year since its closer, cheaper airfare, etc, but i found the same problem with the language , althoug i speak passable spanish, and converse to THEM, easily, its understanding thier fast paced conversation to me is difficult.

I made the choice to go to the Philippines last april after talking online with a girl for about 6 months, I can only say that the country and the people of the Philippines are
so refreshing, and different you cannot even imagine, yes
they speak english, but not all with great ability unless they are college graduates. The newpapers in manila are all printed in english, the major ones, and the schools are taught in english, however, they dont, as a general rule speak english to each other, only to foreigners.

The main difference i see in Filipinas, i cant speak for other asians, as much, is that they are EXTREMELY affectionate, and interested in the mans happiness, to a degree i had not experienced before, Of course i only have experience with one, my gf, but from other stories i have heard it seems to be a common trait among filipinas.

Also they are very playful, and love to laugh, and they love to sing, kareoke is like a religion over there, and my gf loves to sing to the kareoke songs on the tv channel specifically devoted to that. I cant really explain why im so enamored with the country and the culture, but you will find out when you go there, its a wild adventure like you have never experienced before.

I have never in my life been so comfortable with a woman, and im not sure quite why that is the case. I also think
that the filipina women tend to be more gentle in their manner if they disagree with you, and to me that is very important.

All in all, i think it would be very worthwhile for you to go to the phils, The beauty, gentleness of the women, will
enchant you, and you will be hooked for life. I am a reformed latin lover, however, bear in mind that the philippines was colonized by the Spaniards in the 1600s and they are a mix of Spanish, malay, many races.

Ok i will stop rambling now , hope this helped you.

[Keith Smith]

... in response to I think i can offer a perspective, posted by outwest77 on Oct 22, 2002

Hi Mike. I really appreciate your perspective. Earlier this afternoon, I contacted the Tourism Board of the Philippines (in Manhattan). I requested some information regarding the country, airlines, etc., and hopefully, I should receive it before this week is over. Don't get me wrong; I haven't given up on Latinas (at least, yet), but I want to look in other places for that special woman. I believe Filipinas could be a very good bet. The reality is: I want a foreign woman for my girlfriend and future wife. Thanks again. Take care.

[outwest77]

... in response to Re: I think i can offer a perspective, posted by Keith Smith on Oct 22, 2002

[This message has been edited by outwest77]

Hi Keith,
feel free to email me, at my email address in my profile.....outwest7177@nospam.com   i have tons of cheap travel info that will save you
lots of money, including hotels etc, or courier flights
if you know what that is..
take care
mike

[Keith Smith]

... in response to Re: Re: I think i can offer a perspectiv..., posted by outwest77 on Oct 23, 2002

Thanks, Mike. I will keep in touch.

[Jeff S]

... in response to A Question, posted by Keith Smith on Oct 19, 2002

Welcome to the board. I'm not sure I understand your question or comments. Are you saying you write to Latinas, but somehow Filipinas respond to those letters? Or are you saying that you advertised yourself and more Filipinas than Latinas responded to the ads?

It's possible many Latinas have been ingrained with the notion that it's the men's responsibility to make the first move, and if they do so it may make them seem less desirable to Latin men. Contrast the normally aggressive style of many Latin men with normally shy Asian men. It's possible that when Asian women make the first move it's seen as more socially acceptable - even desirable by Asian men. Such is the case in Japan, often women make the first moves and the men are usually the shy ones.

I may be way off base, though, since I know very little about the Philippines or Colombia, but do know quite a few Japanese, Chinese and Mexicans.

-- Jeff S.

[Keith Smith]

... in response to Hi Keith, posted by Jeff S on Oct 21, 2002

Hi Jeff. About six years ago, I placed personal listing ads in two companies (Cherry Blossoms and TLC). I remember receiving only three answers from Latin women. However, I received about a dozen replies from Filipinas. Seriously. I still write to Latinas, but I don't receive replies. I'm considering writimg to Filipinas again. If I could achieve correspondence with a particular Filipina, I would likely visit her. What do you think?

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Hi Keith, posted by Keith Smith on Oct 21, 2002

Bryan is right, language is a big issue - all Philippine people speak English, even if haltingly. It's a requirement in school and if you've ever been to Latin America, you know that few speak English. I even have women working for me who have been in the US for 10 years and still can't speak a word of English.

Another aspect is that the Phils has had along  history of intercultural marriages whereas a Latina marrying outside her nationality is considered an oddity, something only done in the very recent past.

Anyway, you really didn't say why you were interested in Latinas. The differences between Latinas and Asian women are substantial. Of course I'm predudiced, but as I said in my post below in response to Chevy (Under Carl's post) "I have  50 Mexicanas working for me at any given time (over 200 in the past 8 or 9 years), many young, cute, and  built like brick you-know-whats, but I wouldn't trade my Japanese wife in on any one of them - not even
close."  It's more a guess based in anedotal evidence, but I'll bet that a far higher percentage of Asian/American marriages work out than Latina/Gringo ones - even if you just consider the guys who post on the two P/L boards. Most of the guys on this board who have their marriages or relationships with Filipinas go sour, are mostly back looking for another one.

The general personalities, education level, cultural marriage relationship expectations, etc, of the typical Filipina MOB vs Latina MOB are very different, so only you can answer the question about which is right for you. I have two friends married to Latinas and they both seem happy. For me, though, I made a great choice with my Asian wife. Maybe Dave H will comment about the difference. His ex was a Latina and his current wife a Filipina.

- Jeff S.

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Re: Hi Keith, posted by Jeff S on Oct 22, 2002

Hi Jeff,

I was trying to avoid starting a board war. ))) These are just my opinions on the matter. I have found Latinas and Filipinas to be similar in many ways. Yes, I was married to a Latina (although born and raised in Third World Miami) for 13 years. I have dated Latinas almost exclusively (most LA countries and mixed nationalities) for the past 30+ years. Latinas can certainly be very beautiful, as can Filipinas. Most of the Latinas I have known, with a few exceptions, have had somewhat fiery temperments that didn't take much to set off...maybe it was just me. LOL To me, Filipinas seem to have some of this same Latin temperment and character, but milder and more rational. Latinas tend to unleash their anger, while Filipinas hold it in. After you learn how to handle a tampo, it is much easier to deal with. It is also cheaper, since you don't have to replace or repair your broken or damaged possesions. ))) My Filipina wife would never think of causing a scene in public, with Latinas...I've been in a few. ( The few Filipinas I know seem to be much less materialistic. In fact, they are not impressed by displays of wealth, but find it in poor taste.

Dave H.

[Jeff S]

... in response to ROFL! I'll Bite..., posted by Dave H on Oct 22, 2002

Now tell us how you REALLY feel LOL. No I think you hit the nail pretty much on the head.

- Jeff

[bryan]

... in response to Re: Hi Keith, posted by Keith Smith on Oct 21, 2002

My guess is language, its so important and alot of Filipinas write/speak english. I always think symbolic interaction first when assessing  soc/psych concerns.

[Keith Smith]

... in response to Re: Re: Hi Keith, posted by bryan on Oct 22, 2002

I do speak and write Spanish, although not fluently. Personally speaking, Ive always been attracted to Latinas; however, I have seen and known some nice, intelligent, and attractive Asian women, as well. When I wrote to a Latina, I would write in Spanish in order to make it easier for her. Unfortunately, I seldom received responses. On the other hand, if I wrote to a Filipina, I would receive a response quickly (approximately a three week turnnaround- NO LIE). Seriously, it does make me think...