... in response to A conundrum, posted by Hamlet on Oct 1, 2002My only advice would be not to let yourself feel pressured into making a quick decision to marry someone. Many guys who've spent more than just a few months in search of a foreign mate feel the pressure. Sometimes a lady you're really interested in marries someone else while you're still making up your mind. With all the time, emotional energy, and money people invest in this, it's easy to feel that you have to make a decision before someone else takes her away by marrying her.
Have you ever traveled to meet someone and decided soon after meeting her that she's not the one? I have. Lots of people have, and it's not just based on looks. Stay patient and make a good decision. Until you meet and spend considerable face time with someone, you should be nowhere near making a commitment, especially marriage.
Maybe you should consider starting over again, but this time concentrating on one area, even one city if you can manage to develop enough contact with ladies there to make it possible to meet several on one trip. I know it hurts now, but 6 months to a year down the road, I think you'll be glad you made the decision to move on.
