Thai finally contacted me last night

[Lori]

He said he had a letter for me.  Remember I have not heard a word from him since the first night I posted about this situation.
In the letter he said he thought of us still as husband and wife. He said he was going far far away to earn money. He said he does not understand what has happened. He said I kicked him out of the house and made him stand in the rain. That is not true. I told him I thought he should leave and when I returned from picking my daughter up from school, he was gone.
Also he said in the letter that his nephew said he saw me at the movies with a man. Not true. Although I did go to the movies with my oldest daughter reciently.
ARRRGGGG---this is just a bunch of crap. I do not hear from him for about 2 weeks and he shows up at my house like everything can be worked out?? He must think I am stupid.
Maybe he has gotten a letter from the ins?? who knows.
btw--just venting---lori

[littleflower]

... in response to Thai finally contacted me last night, posted by Lori on Oct 3, 2002

Hi Lori,

I was following your post and am so sorry about what has
happened to you. You may want to consider that Thai or
one of his friends follows this board and everything you
say here he reads.  So he has an idea what your plans are.
Be very careful, and don't let him trick you in any way.

Good luck,

[greg]

... in response to Thai finally contacted me last night, posted by Lori on Oct 3, 2002

Yourself from that Fraud. They could be trying to set You up for Abuse(could even have someone video taping his encounter with you, or a recorder hidden on his body). Best to have nothing to do with him, his true intentions are Magnified.

[Jay]

... in response to U should Distance, posted by greg on Oct 3, 2002

[This message has been edited by Jay]

Hi Greg,

Yeah, he might even be digging an underground tunnel complex like they did at Cu Chi. I suppose Lori better watch for sappers in the wire too, eh?

Jay

[Jay]

... in response to Re: U should Distance, posted by Jay on Oct 4, 2002

Your right, she should distance herself. She doesn't know what he might be up to.

Jay

[Jeff S]

... in response to Thai finally contacted me last night, posted by Lori on Oct 3, 2002

I don't think he could have gotten a letter so soon from the INS, but you never know. I know it's easier said than done, but try to resist lashing out either verbally or in writing. Your best bet now is simply to keep your wits about you, say as little as possible, and don't argue about the details. Just document everything, and calmly and quietly go about your plan (divorce or annullment, contacting the INS, etc.) If he indeed, still does consider you married, then the burden will be on him to communicate. Eventually, he'll have to tip his hand.

You know, Lor, I for one am really sorry this has happened to you. I, like I'm sure plenty of other guys on this board, have given this lots of thought and have had our protective instincts kick in (it's a guy thing) but are unable to do anything about it except sit on the sidelines and cheerlead. Having your hopes and dreams dashed is bad enough, but having that all happen on a public board adds gasoline to the fire. My very best wishes that this all works out in the long haul, and for you to find the kind of love we all seek.

-- Jeff S.

[Kreeger]

... in response to Thai finally contacted me last night, posted by Lori on Oct 3, 2002

It seems that someone has coached him to concoct that story so that he could claim abuse. I hope things work out for you and I hope he gets deported... he deserves the worst...

[Lori]

... in response to Someone has coached him..., posted by Kreeger on Oct 3, 2002

I wonder why he would admitt that he was going far away. That would be pretty stupid, huh?

[Bubba]

... in response to Re: Someone has coached him..., posted by Lori on Oct 3, 2002

He said that because he claims you kicked him out in the rain and he still considers you married.  He is going far away so you can't abuse him anymore.  This letter is his first step in claiming abuse, you need to respond to this letter directly to the INS with his letter attached and explain what you think he's trying to do.