Blonde preference

[Jeff S]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002

While it may be true that lots of Asian men seem to have a thing for blondes, the reality is that there are far more Asian women/Western men couples than Asian men/Western women ones. I'm in an interracial marriage myself and notice these things. Whether this is because of blonde women, or Asian men, I don't know. My guess it's a bit of both.

When men say, "I prefer blondes," or "she has to be really slender to turn me on," or any other purely physical aspect of women, they're probably pretty immature. It's my contention that most men who are attracted to Asian women are attracted to their attitudes and presence rather than on a purely physical level. Don't get me wrong, Asian women's tendency to be attractive, demure, and slender is certainly a factor, but should be considered as just part of the whole package. After all, women aren't attracted to men's biceps or butts only, no matter what they may scream at Chippendales. To most on this board, and many men I've talked to who prefer Asian women do so because of factors like being feminine, less confrontational, more loyal, and other non-physical characteristics.

If a man tells you that you're not his type, it may be that he's speaking on an immature, purely physical level (in which case, why would you be interested in him in the fiirst place?) or he may be put off by somthing else, but it's certainly not because of a lack of Asian movie stars. I know few guys who don't drool all over Lucy Lieu, Tia Carrere, or Phoebe Cates.

You sound a bit young, and perhaps a bit lonely. The right guy will come along and I'd advise you to stick to your standards. Don't succumb to the level of typical young American women, trying lto act like they're men with hookups, tatoos, foul language, and an attitude that men and women are interchangable in everything (modern feminism.) The truth is they're just not - they're opposite and equal like day and night, hot and cold, yin and yang.

- Jeff S.

[Tjien]

... in response to Re: Blonde preference, posted by Jeff S on Sep 17, 2002

"Don't get me wrong, Asian women's tendency to be attractive, demure, and slender is certainly a factor, but should be considered as just part of the whole package."

I suppose it has to do with how "blondes" act and how "asians" act. I don't mean this the wrong way, but in general, Asians are more reserved when it comes to flirting. (Of course, this is another one of my observations There are MANY exceptions of course!)

First impression is pretty much crucial, and I guess that men's expectations of a "fun girl" are easier met when they're more outgoing. It's not that Asians are not outgoing (I'm living proof!), but it's different, I guess... Still, I agree, it should be part of the whole package.

I think guys my age are just impatient when it comes to getting to know a girl When their mind is set on something (and in my case, that would be a some "blonde gal" who happened to hop into the picture...), unfortunately they stick to it, regardless of anything really

Tjien

[Tim]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002

If you have the chance to look around some of the bigger cities in America, ones that have large Asian populations (San Francisco, LA, New York come to mind), you will see many Caucasian men with Asian ladies. I don't think we are necessarily scared of their culture, its just we don't have the oppportunity to meet them locally, and few guys will use resources like the internet to do it. (The men on this board are the exception, and in the vast minority in America.)

When the opportunity arises, we can see that not only are they attractive but by and large they ARE our type (exception being those who have become too radically feminist).

I see from your profile that you are relatively young. I think men your age are attracted to what is exotic (even older men are, but by and large our reasons for interest in women are different). Women of a different race are definitely exotic.

There are as many Asian actors/actresses as western ones. However, few of them have the same promotional assets at their disposal as their western counterparts. There are some exceptions like Jackie Chan and Chow Yun Fat. As for Asian female actresses, I would pick Michelle Yeoh over Julia Roberts ANY day of the week. But that's just me, and everyone has their own personal preference. More importantly, western media tends to just ignore them, out of ignorance, and focus on the western superstars.

Just my opinions, your mileage may vary.

Regards, Tim

[Tjien]

... in response to Re: Blonde preference, posted by Tim on Sep 17, 2002

"I think men your age are attracted to what is exotic (even older men are, but by and large our reasons for interest in women are different). Women of a different race are definitely exotic."

Maybe it's different for the men here, though I can't imagine. I mean, men will always be men! No matter where they're from

[jon]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002

Actually, the blonde image has been so shoved down my throat by the media, that I could care less about blondes.  Pushed me down the road of pinays.

Jon

[kevin]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002


in my opinion that "blondes have more fun."  I think "pinays have more fun".  (When I was a teenager,older guys would typically favor blondes when talking about girls.)

But everybody has different tastes.  Some in my family have it ingrained in their subconcious that "I have a problem" because of my preferences to southeast Asians (specifically Filipinas).  Some are convinced that if my preferences were for white westerners, then my love-life would be balanced.  On the other hand, I can't comprehend what some guys find attractive in choosing partners.  But I guess it's better that not everybody is attracted to all the same girls (or guys).  If somebody is attractive, there's enough competition anyway, but it is not all 100%.  What one guy may regard as very beautiful, I'd regard as a "plain Jane".

- Kevin

[Tjien]

... in response to It's a myth . . . , posted by kevin on Sep 17, 2002

"Some in my family have it ingrained in their subconcious that "I have a problem" because of my preferences to southeast Asians (specifically Filipinas). Some are convinced that if my preferences were for white westerners, then my love-life would be balanced."

Could that be one of the (main) reasons why Caucasian men do not want/try to get involved with Asian (or any other race than Caucasian) women?

Tjien
(curious)

[Nathan]

... in response to Re: It's a myth . . . , posted by Tjien on Sep 18, 2002

   There are more Asians on the West coast than most areas of the USA. Perhaps that explains why in my experience Asian women are popular with white men it seems.
I am married to a filipina and I have yet to experience a negative reaction with my friends...usually it is very positive....envy perhaps...then, " Does she have any friends that are single?" I believe that Asian women married to white men is in fact a growing trend...I have heard some US asian men comment on it. There is a large Asian supermarket nearby in Oregon, and the number of Asian woman/white man couples is pretty striking.

My 2 cents worth....

Nathan

[Jimbo]

... in response to Asian woman- white man, posted by Nathan on Sep 18, 2002

..in the Boston area.  Men are always asking my wife if she has a sister or a friend.  They usually ask if she's from Thailand.  Everytime Sally takes the car to my mechanic the guy says, "Sally will you find a wife for me?" :0)

Jim

[Nathan]

... in response to same here..., posted by Jimbo on Sep 18, 2002

I was reading today that within less than 10 years,
men in the 30s-40s group who often look to marry women younger than themselves will outnumber this younger group of women by a ratio of 2-1...that would lead one to believe that the interest in meeting women overseas  will only increase a lot.

Nathan