Blonde preference

[Tjien]

Hi, I'm new here

Before I'll post, I'm not writing/posting this message with racial prejudice. I believe everyone is equal, regardless of their skincolor. These are just my observations. (Just to make sure we won't end up in a flame war about racism, because I don't intend/it's the last thing I want to happen.)

So far, (almost!) every single guy I know has prefered blonde (or Western for that matter) over Asian. However, they do tell me (I'm Asian, living in a Western country) that Asians are "very attractive, but just not my type".

How come so very few (Caucasian) men fall for Asian women? Is it because they are afraid of the culture? Because it's different and perhaps new to them? And also: how come there are so many Asian men who fall for Western women? Is it because of the media? Are there too little Asian models/movie stars compared to Western models/movie stars?

Why?

Tjien

[kevin]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002


At first I was surprised when you said that not too many white men were attracted to Asians.  Then I learned that you are living in the Netherlands.  That might explain it.

It is my impression that it's pretty much in America, and probably the rest of the New World (especially Latin America) where mixing is generally acceptable by society.  I may be mistaken, but it's my impression that in Europe that the sentiment in each nation is to preserve the original identity of its stock.  Asians in the Netherlands or other European countries are probably regarded as outsiders, compared to the United States or Canada.  Such men, perhaps through social conditioning, are probably aprehensive about courtship with somebody outside their race, but perhaps true desires are repressed.

- Kevin

[Mita]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002

Tjien,
Here are my theories/observations from being married to a Caucasian man:
The attraction to Asian women is probably more on the personality rather than the physical.  Asian women are more used to taking the role of supporter, being "behind" the husband.  No matter how sophistticated an Asian woman is, that is deeply ingrained in her. She may fight this tendency, but the instincts to care for her man will always surface. If I were a Caucasian male, I would find this very attractive.  On the physical aspect, Asian women might seem daintier (thus more attractive) to the Caucasian male.

Whatever nationality, there will be a majority of us who will choose to marry someone of our own kind.  This is the more traditional and socially acceptble thing to do.  Maybe they don't want to bother with the cultural differences as well as the male-female differences couples always encounter.

Mita

[Missy]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002

[Dave H]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002

Hi Tjien,

There's not a lot of Asians in South Florida. The different nationalities maintain close knit social groups, making it difficult for outsiders to establish a relationship. It is not very common to see Asians involved with non-Asians. Even at the local high school, they tend to congregate together. To make matters more complicated, many Asians here are from the Caribbean and Latin America, adding another cultural twist. It's not unusual to hear Asians speaking Spanish. My brother loves big buxom blondes, but I have always preferred petite darker women...just a matter of taste.

Dave H.

[Tjien]

... in response to Welcome To P-L!, posted by Dave H on Sep 17, 2002

"The different nationalities maintain close knit social groups, making it difficult for outsiders to establish a relationship."

At my school, there are a lot of Asians (almost 30%) and I see very few of them in a relationship with someone non-Asian. We sort of stick together, in a way, and it's true that it would be hard for an outsider to meet someone.

I guess that it scared off the rest of my school... "Oh! She's Asian! Maybe she belongs to that 30% that stick together, let's not approach her."

Tjien

[Ray]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002

Hi Tjien, welcome aboard!

Speaking for myself, blondes may be nice to look at, but they don't smell nearly as good as Asian women do. Yes, even when they are eating dried squid, Asian women smell much better than those blondes :-)

Where are you from?

Ray

[Tjien]

... in response to It's all in the scent, posted by Ray on Sep 17, 2002

Thanks! I'm from Holland

Hahaha, I guess I'll have to take your word on that one!

Tjien

[Ray]

... in response to hahah, posted by Tjien on Sep 18, 2002

That's great Tjien.

Maybe you should ask our resident Dutchman, Windmill Boy, why he prefers Asian ladies :-)

Ray

[Tjien]

... in response to From Holland?, posted by Ray on Sep 18, 2002

LOL, okay

Tjien

[kevin]

... in response to It's all in the scent, posted by Ray on Sep 17, 2002


I just can't imagine a blond farting.  It's just not "ladylike".

- Kevin

[Dave H]

... in response to For some reason . . ., posted by kevin on Sep 17, 2002

Kevin,

I can just imagine Anna Nicole Smith exploding! She looks like she has been holding it in for months. Poor Howard and purple-haired girl. ;o)))

Dave H.

[Kreeger]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002

...MOST blondes in America are fake blondes who color their hair in hopes of winning the "attention" of the men you speak of. Yes, ever since Marilyn Monroe set the standard for the "American Woman" back in the 50's, the media has used that image as what American men should be attracted to. If you show a picture of a blonde, fair-skinned caucasion woman (with at least decent looks) to most Filipinas, they will respond that she is "beautiful". I was shocked when my fiance thought that I would not love her as much as the "fair-skinned, blonde, beautiful American women". Actually, I loathe blondes... the only blondes I have ever known were the worst examples of suitable partners in the average man's eyes. I just don't like the fact that someone will try so hard to become something they are not, by changing their looks... just to attract a "suitable" (rich, perfect, etc.) mate.

[Bob S]

... in response to Blonde preference, posted by Tjien on Sep 17, 2002

"However, they do tell me (I'm Asian, living in a Western country) that Asians are 'very attractive, but just not my type'.
How come so very few (Caucasian) men fall for Asian women?"

What?!  What primitive sh!te-hole land are you living in where men would say such things?
Statistically, in America, the most common cross-racial relationships involve black men and white women.  But in California with its large Asian populations, it seemed to me that white men and Asian women couples far outnumbered them.  The only Asian women who remain dateless or eternally single are those whose families forbid them to date outside their ethnicity.
In Asian countries (I'm a Westerner living in an Asian country), it is common knowledge that Western expat women are often left for the most part dateless as their Western brothers pursue the native women. (That is not to say that the Western women aren't desired by the native men, but the native men are often shy and awkward leaving it to the women to be in the uncomfortable role of pursuers to get the ball rolling.)

"how come there are so many Asian men who fall for Western women?"

Hmm, for the most part, it's gotta be the boobs.  Few Asian women have the cleavage to even closely compare to the manga porn fantasy women. (-;

BTW, in the nearly 4 months I've been in Japan, the only Asian man - Western woman couple I've seen was at the Sumo tournament I went to yesterday.  There was a well dressed Japanese businessman with his gorgeous blonde Russian hostess-club (prostitute?) date.  How did I know she was Russian?  When he went to the can, I chatted her up. Dobre dien! Kak dela!  Oh Gawd, am I a glutton for punishment or what! 8-D

[Tjien]

... in response to Barbie doll fantasy, posted by Bob S on Sep 17, 2002

"What?! What primitive sh!te-hole land are you living in where men would say such things?"

I'm from Holland. You'd think we'd be evolved along with the rest of the world, guess we got stuck in the ice-age or something

Tjien