withdrawing sponsorship

[MsDuong]

I called the ins and I have to deliver a letter of withdrawl to them. In it it has to have Thai's Alien # and the date we filed the aos. I don't have either. but i do have his SS#.
Alos I have togive a reason why I am doing this. What is a good enough reason?? I have no clue.
BUt here is a draft of what I have so far:

To Whom it may concern:
I would like to withdraw my sponsorship application for Thai Van Duong. I brought him to America  on a K-1 fiancee visa. We were married on  March 26th 2002. Since we have been married he has continued on and off  to sleep at his  brothers house. On or about may 15th he moved to California. On September 10th he came back to Council Bluffs, but continued to live with his brother. We have not had a marrital relationship since he came here. I am currently seeking an annulment or a divorce based solely on fraud. I have tried several times to contact Thai  at his brothers house, but get no answer.

I honestly believe that Thai and his brother( Duong Van Duong) have  commited fraud with me and with the United States Government. I believe now that Thai's Brother sought me out as a vulnerable single parent, knowing that I deserately wanted a husband to help me raise my daughters. I believe the sole purpose of our marrage was to unlawfully enter the United States so that Thai could earn money to pay his brother  back thousands of dollars that had previously been sent to Vietnam. I believe also that Thai's Brother forced him into marrage with me.

That's all i have, anything I should add or take away.

BTW-I still have not heard from Thai or his family.And the more I think about it, maybe Thai's family forced him to marry me. That was one of the things I wanted to find out when I went to Vietnam. But he seemed so happy with me then. But Thai has told me that he owes his brother about $8000.(That was before his brother paid for his "school" in california) Maybe that's the reason he was so happy to co-sponsor him here. I don't know.

MsDumbazz

[Jimbo]

... in response to withdrawing  sponsorship, posted by MsDuong on Sep 18, 2002

Lori,

In the archives, your "Time to relax" post on 4/29/02 states that you turned in the AOS.  Maybe you turned it in on that day, or the day before?  If you read that post it might refresh your memory.

Jim

[Patrick]

... in response to withdrawing  sponsorship, posted by MsDuong on Sep 18, 2002

It's time to drop the Duong from your name.  I've changed your user name back to Lori.

Good luck with this and keep your chin up.

[Tim]

... in response to withdrawing  sponsorship, posted by MsDuong on Sep 18, 2002

Lori, do you have the first or second Notice of Action  (NOA) letters that the INS sent you when his I-129F was being processed ? His Alien number will be printed on those. Also look for his fingerprint appointment letter. His A# will be printed on that. His EAD card will have it too, but I doubt you'll have access to that.

Did you make copies of the AOS papers when you filed them ? (most people do, it's always safer to keep your own copies) His A# will be on those copies as well.

I am assuming you don't have his A# because he took all this stuff with him, but just in case I wanted to give you suggestions on where you can look.

Regards, Tim

[MsDuong]

... in response to Suggestions for finding Alien number, posted by Tim on Sep 18, 2002

I had cleaned out a dresser for him, but he never used it. Most of his things were at his brothers. He carried a duffle bag to my house and that is what he lived out of here.

[MsDuong]

... in response to Suggestions for finding Alien number, posted by Tim on Sep 18, 2002

He took everything with him. He's not as stupid as I was. Maybe because he was just a little more aware of what was going on.

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: Suggestions for finding Alien number, posted by MsDuong on Sep 18, 2002

You said Thai took everything with him (all INS papers) that indicates to me that he was really up to something devious.

Tess

[Stephen]

... in response to withdrawing  sponsorship, posted by MsDuong on Sep 18, 2002

September 18, 2002

   Re:   Thai Van Duong
      SSN: xxx-xx-xxxx

Gentlemen/Madam:

Please be informed that I am withdrawing my sponsorship application for Thai Van Duong.

I brought Mr. Duong to America from Viet Nam on a K-1 fiancee visa.  We were married on March 26th, 2002.  Since our marriage Mr. Duong has continued on and off to sleep at his brother’s house rather than live with me.  On or about May 15, 2002, Mr. Duong moved to California.  On September 10, 2002, Mr. Duong returned to Council Bluffs, Iowa; however, he continues to live with his brother rather than with me (his wife).  I want you to know that since our date of marriage he has only resided with me for a period not exceeding 3 weeks.  We have not had a marital relationship since he came to America.  In fact, we have not had a sexual relationship at all.

Since Mr. Duong arrived in America on _______, 2002, I have learned from Thai Van Duong that he owes his brother who lives here in Council Bluffs, Iowa (Duong Van Duong)  nearly $10,000.  Interestingly, it was his brother that told me about Thai Van Duong and urged me to start a “pen pall” relationship with his brother.  

It is my earnest belief that Thai Van Duong and his brother( Duong Van Duong) have committed fraud with me and with the United States Government. I believe now that Thai's Brother sought me out as a vulnerable single parent, knowing that I desperately wanted a husband to help me raise my daughters. I believe the sole purpose of our marriage was to gain entry in the United States so that Thai Van Duong  could earn money to pay his brother back thousands of dollars that had previously been sent to Vietnam. I believe also that Thai's Brother forced him into marriage with me.
   
I am currently seeking an annulment of marriage from Thai Van Duong based solely on fraud.

Sincerely,

Ms. Lori

[MsDuong]

... in response to How about this sample letter, posted by Stephen on Sep 18, 2002

Thank you so much Stephen. I'll put you on my "why I can tolorate lawyers "list. I am going to the ins office tomorrow. The immigration officer has to noterize it.
I am wondering if they have ever denied a withdraw?

[HappyInBrazil]

... in response to wonderful, posted by MsDuong on Sep 18, 2002

I had the impression from some of your posts that your marriage was at one time "legitimate".

http://www.planet-love.com/wwwboard/asian/archives/display.php?archive=000089&id=30663

It seems like this isn't what you want to hear right now, but it seems like at one point your marriage was legitimate.  Maybe I am misinterpreting the things you wrote previously, and maybe I misinterpeting some of your comments that led me to believe that you and your husband at one time agreed to being "together" twice a week.  I know you are having a difficult time now, but aren't there a lot of things archived here that would indicate that you did have a legitimate marriage?

[Stephen]

... in response to Hey, sorry to bring this up, but...., posted by HappyInBrazil on Sep 19, 2002

That's a fascinating handle name you have.

Could you tell us about yourself?  Do you live in Brazil?  Are you American?

See, you have me curious to know more.

Very good handle name.

Stephen

[HappyInBrazil]

... in response to Hey Happy...., posted by Stephen on Sep 19, 2002

Ugh, my handle doesn't fit anymore!  I'm back in the States.  So if any of the creative posters here have any ideas, I'm sure they will be good.  HappyToNotFillOutAnymoreForms is too long, hehe.

Thanks for the interest.  My wife and I corresponded, then met prior to all the Sept 11th stuff.  We initially tried to get a student visa for her to come here but really didn't realize until it was denied that it was unlikely to come through.  After some thought and discussion, we decided that I would come and live in Brazil, where we were engaged, then got married.  Unfortunately, my visa ran out, even after extending it to the max, so I returned to the US.  After about another month or two, my wife was able to get her visa from the consulate and we are settling down and trying for a normal life now that the government(s) aren't distorting it so badly.

Brazil is very beautiful and diverse in many ways.  It's a country that's over 500 years old, and I think most people are like myself and don't realize what a rich history it has.  In the part of the country where I lived, the French and the Portuguese fought it out for control of the Amazon Basin.  It was also the area where all the worlds rubber came from until the British snuck out some seedlings to Malaysia (or Indonesia, I'm not sure I remember correctly).

It's been a real wirlwind time in our lives, It's a little difficult to figure out what to say about it all.

[Lori]

... in response to Hey, sorry to bring this up, but...., posted by HappyInBrazil on Sep 19, 2002

First Stephen was the one who said we did'nt have a sexual relationship. It WAS far and few believe me. More like a one night stand. But you know when you are trying to make things work, you will tell yourself enything and find an answer for everything.  

But anyway, I have went back and read the archives. It seems to me in that thread I WAS having problems. I was trying to jusify everything he was doing. There were things I never mentioned, because I knew if I did, people would give me the advice to leave him. I did not want to do that. So, I only put a portion of it out there

It was when he returned from California that I realized the way things REALLY were. I was being made a fool of.

[HappyInBrazil]

... in response to Re: Hey, sorry to bring this up, but...., posted by Lori on Sep 19, 2002

I wish you didn't have to go through this, and I hope that your situation will get easier soon.

[Stephen]

... in response to Hey, sorry to bring this up, but...., posted by HappyInBrazil on Sep 19, 2002

When she got married back in March, 2002, she apparently thought things were fine.

Since then he's spent most of his time with his brother.  And the rest of the time he lived in California.  He's been with her in the house about 3 weeks during that time.

She does not believe that that is a legitimate marriage that she want to be a part of.

Thanks for your inquiry.

Stephen