Why do you guys want a foreign mate?

[Lori]

... in response to Re: Re: he he he, posted by alumnagirl on Sep 22, 2002

go away

[alumnagirl]

... in response to Unfortunately, education..., posted by shadow on Sep 21, 2002

Nah.....Clinton's family background would be slightly on the unsuitable side.

[alumnagirl]

... in response to Re: Then dating..., posted by stefang on Sep 21, 2002

a university education?  You can't just go out and be a doctor or a lawyer, or even a certified teacher.

[donb2222]

... in response to As far as I'm concerned,, posted by shadow on Sep 21, 2002

p

[Lori]

... in response to Why do you guys want a foreign mate?, posted by alumnagirl on Sep 21, 2002

We do it because we are looking for something better than what we think we have here. We think a certain culture will bring about a certain  lifestyle we desire. Some of us think America is so corrupted, that we can not find a mate with "old world" values.
Maybe some of us don't like the dating scene, and think this is the easiest way to find a mate.
Maybe it's something as simple as the fact that we may be attracted to the asian look.
Maybe we love the asian culture.
What attracted me was the fact that most Asian families are really close. They look after eachother. Of course, I am attracted to the look also. But there are alot of things that are mysterious about the asian culture. Maybe that's why some of us are attracted.

[Nathan]

... in response to Re: Why do you guys want a foreign mate?, posted by Lori on Sep 21, 2002

If that is what one prefers...well you like what you like
and that is what freedom is all about.

[NoNamePinay]

... in response to Why do you guys want a foreign mate?, posted by alumnagirl on Sep 21, 2002


Hi AlumnaGirl,
You seem like you're doing a survey here in the P-L Board because I noticed that you've asked Questions such as;
*Bi Cultural Weddings?
*Why do you guys want a foreign mate?

Anyway,
here's mine, My ideal man is no other than but my own husband.

My ideal: He is 19 years senior than me with (not necessarily in order):

-a steady job

-from the right or wrong family (it doesn't matter as long as we love each other)

-well educated or not (don't have a bachelor's degree just H.S. is fine with me as long as He treats me real good)

-sweet/sensitive, very romantic & understanding husband & great father to our child.

-He is not so religious but believe in God.

Looks DOESN'T matter but for me, He's the MOST handsome guy in the whole universe . (Remember, "Beauty is in the eyes of beholder.") I don't care if He's fat, overweight, bald guy or who is twenty years my senior. However, I'm happy, contented, & lucky for being married with him. Any Comments??? Good Luck in finding yours!!!

NNP

[Carr]

... in response to Re: Why do you guys want a foreign mate?, posted by NoNamePinay on Sep 21, 2002

'He dont mean a thing if he ain't got that swing'.

I just want someone to love me just the way I am.

[NoNamePinay]

... in response to Paraphrasing Duke Ellington, posted by Carr on Sep 21, 2002


Hi Carr,
Nice to see you here again "Welcome back to P-L!"
'He dont mean a thing if he ain't got that swing'

that's exactly is! but don't get me wrong I love everything about my husband and actually, He is NOT fat, overweight, bald guy and He even looks younger than his age so I couldn't ask for more .

NNP

[Ozymandias]

... in response to Why do you guys want a foreign mate?, posted by alumnagirl on Sep 21, 2002

Hi Alumnagirl,

There's nothing inherently wrong with the people here - here relative to me, is Denmark.

There are several reasons for choosing a bride from a different country/culture.. My reasons are primarily based on the process of pen pal courtship, the desire for someone of compatible faith, and a long interest in several of the Asian countries.

I don't know if I will actually write, pursue and marry an Asian girl from Asia, but I'm considering it. If I meet a nice girl at the library who is not scared off by my geekiness, and is comfortable with my faith, then I certainly won't turn her down, and head off for Asia. ;-)

An ideal woman?

- Intelligent.
- Self confident, and sure of her principles.
- Rational but not without compassion.
- Affectionate and loyal.
- Able to accept me without reservations.
- Shares the major part of my values and goals.

I don't want someone i find physically repulsive. All else equal I would prefer a woman of Asian decent, as I find Asian women very attractive. Wealth is unimportant, as long as she is not heavily indebted or careless with her funds.

If I can't find a woman satisfying this ideal, I prefer to remain single.
--
Best regards,
Arild

[Bob S]

... in response to Re: Why do you guys want a foreign mate?, posted by Ozymandias on Sep 21, 2002

Have you met Tjien?  She doesn't live far from you (relatively speaking as far as pen pals go).

"Matchmaker matchmaker, make me a match..."
8-)

[Ozymandias]

... in response to Ozy in Denmark?, posted by Bob S on Sep 22, 2002

Hi Bob,

Haven't met her - it would take me 10-12 hours to drive to Amsterdam.

I don't have much to offer a lady at this period of time, regardless of the distances involved.. In a couple of years time perhaps. :-)
--
Best regards,
Arild

[NOX1967]

... in response to Why do you guys want a foreign mate?, posted by alumnagirl on Sep 21, 2002

One of my biggest motivations is that the goals and intentions of the woman, as well as mine, are open from the start. We have the goals now let's see if we can go there together, as oppossed to making half a journey only to find you have different destinations. This is how American courtship often works. It really sucks spending time getting to know somebody, getting attached, and then finding out that they can't have anymore children. If you haven't gone through that experience, I highly suggest that you avoid it.

It is very rare to find an American woman without children. Many have children by more than one man. If these men have visitation rights or shared custody with their children the baggage of those relationships isn't going away anytime soon. What do you do when your mate's former man insults or attempts to abuse her, verbally or otherwise, in your presence? You must defend your mate, but to do so you must hurt your step children's father. I never want to put myself in that position.

I like the idea of the long distance courtship as well. It takes much of the sexual element away and saves it for later. I'm not at all against pre-marital sex. But when you think about it, in America we really do jump into the sack too soon. Trying to build a relationship afterwards is nothing short of an anti-climax. I have had several potential relationships go bad because of this. When you start with that kind of fire it burns out quickly. I think I'd like to start with a piece a flint and build those fires slowly for a change.

Ron

[alumnagirl]

... in response to Re: Why do you guys want a foreign mate?, posted by NOX1967 on Sep 21, 2002

My father works in NYC and there are plenty of single, 30-something women without kids.  Or are those gals too high class for ya?

[Jimbo]

... in response to Where the heck to you live?, posted by alumnagirl on Sep 21, 2002

..those gals will be 40-something women without kids (and still clueless), unless they chose the Rosie O'Donnell route :-)

Jim