here's the truth

[Humabdos]

... in response to here's the truth, posted by MsDuong on Aug 16, 2002

OK what are you waiting for? CALL THE INS NOW ! REPORT HIM!

You have been set up. Don't waste another day or dollar.
I'm really sorry to hear this. :-(  Humabdos

[Nathan]

... in response to Re: here's the truth, posted by Humabdos on Aug 16, 2002

One can hope for the best, but the symptoms we hear point to monkey business. Happy newly married husbands can manage
more than "correct" weekly calls.

  Nathan

[Humabdos]

... in response to Re: Re: here's the truth, posted by Nathan on Aug 17, 2002

Ask Howard about hoping for the best.

Your right. I talk to my Sweety every night if even just for a few mins.  
She should fry his balls in a wok and send him back to the rice patty.
The fact his inlaws have stopped talking to her is a BIG RED FLAG!   This reeks of Green card scam!  

 

Humabdos

[Nathan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: here's the truth, posted by Humabdos on Aug 17, 2002

I was being kind about hoping. If it is as she says, it smells like fraud. Suggestions to go along with it for $
seem like pretty bad advice...advice to participate in a felony usually is...

Nathan

[Matthew]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: here's the truth, posted by Nathan on Aug 17, 2002

Paricipate in a felony?Oh please...the fraud was on their part now the woman is stuck.No jury in this land would convict her of fraud.What would your alternative be that would help recover expenses,show the family that you are not a chump,put the fear of God in ole Thai and return a feeling empowerement back to you.

tito Matt

[The Walker]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: here's the truth, posted by Matthew on Aug 17, 2002

You are giving very bad advice. She WILL be prosecuted and most likely found guilty if found out.

Once you accept the filthy lucre, you then legally become part of a green-card fraud conspiracy. Try overcoming a conspiracy charge in federal court sometime. Fed courts aren't the OJ trial. All the jury will see is an American woman in league with the evil foreigners. All her lawyer's protestations that she was duped go out the window when she shakes them down. I don't think Lori wants to let the state raise her children while she does time, or even if they go easy on her, long probation and heavy fines. Plus the family will then be able to claim that Lori was the one who married the young man and brought him over here, and shook them down for money by threatenig to send him back. "Oh, we tried to help the marriage work, we even sent him to California to learn a trade at our own expense..." blah, blah.

What she CAN do is teach her in-laws a lesson in economics, by suing the family for their conspiracy by tricking her into believing she was marrying for love when all along they were playing with her affections (if it turns out this is what is happening). They have a business, they can afford to send her husband to California for weeks at a time. They own homes and cars. They have assets a court can reach out and touch. Instead of being an evil co-conspirator, she is now a put-upon American woman who was an unwitting victim of evil foreigners who used her natural trust and love and Harriet Nelson/Donna Reed purity of purpose for their dark purposes. I ten seconds, every woman in the courtroom will be on her side.

She will be a hero for uncovering a green card scam and woman's groups will cannonize her, instead of looking like a greedy shaker-down of immigrants and a cold-hearted co-consprator.

We all know Lori is a sweet gal, but federal prosecutors are some cold-hearted SOB's. Especially after 09/11. And scheming in-laws can make lawyers look like angels.

Lori I do hope this is all a misunderstanding, but if it isn't, you need to be snowy-pure in thought and deed or else you may get caught up in it all. Don't go over to the dark side. That's what lawyers are for. They have no souls so it is easy for them.

Don

[Matthew]

... in response to WRONG! Bad Advice!, posted by The Walker on Aug 17, 2002

Ok,I asked for an alternative.You gave a good one.She sues the family,the family's case is not really winnable,they settle out of court and Lori gets the money(less legal fees)A legal shakedown!Brilliant:)I stand corrected.

tito matt

[Humabdos]

... in response to Re: WRONG! Bad Advice!, posted by Matthew on Aug 17, 2002

Turn loose the blood sucking leaches on the whole bunch!

Hum

[Jimbo]

... in response to Yep !, posted by Humabdos on Aug 17, 2002

nt

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: here's the truth, posted by Matthew on Aug 17, 2002

I agree with Nathan.

Assuming our suspicions are true......

First, he conspired to commit fraud to get to the USA.

THEN...at a later time she would be conspiring to allow his fraud if he would reimburse her.

I agree that a jury would not convict her.  But we're talking about the US Government.  I don't trust them any more than I would trust the IRS.

Just my thoughts.

Stpehen

[Ray]

... in response to here's the truth, posted by MsDuong on Aug 16, 2002

Hi Lori!

Well, that sux! I hope things work out for you.

Have you thought of using that week off to go to California?

Ray

[Howard]

... in response to here's the truth, posted by MsDuong on Aug 16, 2002

Lori,

I know when I was having my well documented nervous break down I used to get very upset when I would post here not get the answers I wanted.  The nay-sayers would irritate me to no end.  I was coming here for support and all I seemed to get was negativity.

Slowly, I began to realize that the people here were not only giving me advice that I needed to hear, but they were the ones who cared about me and wanted to see me succeed.  My mind wasn't right for most of my marital struggles, but everyone here helped me get my head together far more than anyone in my real world.

With that said, I am not starting a campaign to deport your husband, but I would like to offer you a few words of advice.  No matter what your heart may tell you, your head will know the truth long before. Things that you may not share with the group, that you just dimiss as the dreaded "Cultural Differences" may in fact be just what they seem.  Not saying that this is what you're expiriencing, this is from my personal expirience, but rudeness, lack of communication, lack of consideration, etc... are not cultural differences.  They are exactly what they seem to be.  

In my situation, I was told numerous times that I was over reacting and that everything was "fine" only to find out that my earliest fears were correct.  I sincerely hope and pray that this is not the case for you

I will keep you in my prayers and hope that everything works out for you and Thai!

Lean on us Lori... that's what we're here for

Keep the Faith

H

[Jeff S]

... in response to here's the truth, posted by MsDuong on Aug 16, 2002

I was wondering how it was going with you. I almost made an "anyone heard from Lori" post last week, but decided against it. You know, many of us think the world of you Lori and wish you only the best . If I can do anything for you from out here in Southern Cal you have my e-mail address. Best wishes.
-- Jeff S.

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: here's the truth, posted by Jeff S on Aug 16, 2002

You know, I was thinking of Lori last week also.  I wondered why I had not seen any posts and wondered is something was up.

Best to you Lori.  I'm sorry.  I don't have any infallible advice to give you.  You hang in there.

Stephen & Tess

[Bubba]

... in response to here's the truth, posted by MsDuong on Aug 16, 2002

I have followed your story from the beginning and it was interesting because it's from a woman's point of view.  I hope this works out but this looks like a red flag to me.  I hope they didn't use you to get him here.  Please keep us posted and I will say a prayer that everything works out for the best for you.