Quote from my wife
My wife and I have been discussing Nate's concerns regarding religion.. I totaly agree with my wife (I sleep better that way). I know of Fil-Am divorces, Filipina deceit and Filipina abuse.
The first divorce occurred between an American Filipino general surgeon who had purchased his wife a million dollar house. This was an arranged marriage between a rich Filipina from Luzon who married her 35y/o husband when she was 17y/o. She never loved her husband and made her husband miserable. She finally divorced him 5 years later when she was 6 months pregnant with their child and she later married an American that she loved dearly but he ended up leaving her for an American woman.
The 2nd divorce involved an Filipina who married a wealhy American only to divorce him as soon as she got her green card. She is now living with a young dude who cannot pay the rent and is in debt and avoid her former friend because she owns them money. Maybe she will began to understand how good she had it. The husband loved her dearly but has moved on with his life, he is really a wonderful person who would have cared for her the rest of his life. I feel sorry for her future.
Another Fil-Am marriage is doubtful due to the fact that the wife only married for financial reasons. She still has a relationship with her boyfriend. She goes to the RP and stays up to 5 months. Flew her boyfriend to Manila one day prior to returning home for the night at her husband's expense and spend the night a the hotel with him. She even sent her boyfriend on vacation with her husband's money. She insists that her husband attend church with her every Sunday. Then she acts like she is not with him (sits 4 feet from him and ignores him) and then leaves him at church to go home alone while she goes out with her church friends and their husbands for the day but she will not take her husband. He has designed a 5000 sq ft house for her with completion scheduled this year. He sends money to her family but it is never enough - no one in the family works and he pays for the delivery of all of her neices and nephews. He loves her dearly and would not beleive anyone if they told him the truth. They have been maried since '97 and still the INS has not issued her a green card. There is a God.
Another couple represents the worst. A 27yo Filipina is married to an American. She called my wife last week to tell her that she could not move. Her husband had beaten her severely. He beat her even before they were married. They have a 1y/o son. She is in the US on an expired TOURIST VISA. He will not apply for a spousal visa so that he can control her. Actually a "nice" guy who has called me to talk but has a bad problem with alcohol. She was told that she could file to stay here because of the abuse but has no funds and her father wants her to stay with her husband. He sends the family money monthly.
Another Filipina nurse from Butuan left her husbandly suddenly but the reason is unknown to us.
Now we know plenty of happy Fil-Am couples at our church which is non-denominational. Our church dwells extensively on marital relationships and how to relate to each other. Religion is a large part of our life and has strenghten our marriage tremendously. We come from different relgious faiths.
Alvin
