Christian family

[NateD]

I've been posting a fair number of religion-related questions here lately, and I'd like to thank everyone who answered.  Those questions have caused me to examine my own values a bit, and I've come up with one more question:

If I wanted to have a family based on God and Christ, in which the husband and wife love each other as the Bible says they ought to, in which the children are raised to know, love, fear, and respect God--a Christian family, in other words--would Filipinas be a good choice for me?

Thanks for all the help,
NateD

[Gerlie]

... in response to Christian family, posted by NateD on Jun 11, 2002

Nate,

The race of a person is never an assurance that she can be a good wife/mother. But being a Filipina I think is a plus it's simply because we're being raised to have a strong family values. The most important and the best way to have a children with good morals is that the parents must set an example for them. They should be their role models. Having a different religion can be a conflict when it comes to your chilren but one can sacrifice, though it's NEVER a sacrifice when it comes to your family.. You do it because you love the persons concern..

Gerlie

[Howard]

... in response to Christian family, posted by NateD on Jun 11, 2002

Nate,

Good to see you posting so much

My expirience has been--Please notice Disclaimer  LOL--that there is always a happy medium.  I am spiritual and some would even call me {gasp!} Religious, but I am not someone who feels they need to be in a church to talk to God.  I am a member of a church, the one my family goes to, but I am an absentee member.

That being said, it is extremely important to me that my children are rasied in a God-Fearing enviroment until they are old enough to make their own decisions.  I honestly don't care in which religion they are rasied as long as it is not fanatical and is Christian.  I think that a religious foundation teaches moralality better than any other. What they do with it is up to them when they are adults, but when they're on my watch I want to give them every advantage that a well balanced, conservative upbringing will.  My kids, my opinion

To answer your question, in a round about way , my girl is a pretty serious Catholic.  I have no problem raising my children Catholic, if that is what their mother wants, but if she expects me to attend, I will suggest Lutheran.  I will go to church more regularly to set and good example for my children.  If it's important to Gerlie I will go more to make her happier, but I will always maintain my beliefs.  Any christian religion is good for children because they are just learning the fundamentals.  I'm not too particular in which denomination my children are raised, just that they are raised with that solid foundation.

Obviously, you are more devout than I, but I thought I'd share my opinion

Keep the Faith!  (No pun intended  LOL

H

[Jeff S]

... in response to Christian family, posted by NateD on Jun 11, 2002

I'm certainly no expert, and I always thought Catholics were Christian? It seems to me, a Catholic girl who believes in Jesus, would be a far better choice than a girl brought up in Shinto, Buddhist, or Taoist faiths. Many of the Filipina internet postings seem to specify wanting a God-fearing man. The details of whether eat meat on Friday or whatever the minor details of each religions are, ought to be able to be worked out. If you two can't seem work those out, I'd say there's not much hope of working out the big issues facing marrried couples. Just MHO.

-- Jeff S.

[greg]

... in response to Christian family, posted by NateD on Jun 11, 2002

located all over the Philippines. Most non Catholic Christian Pinays post their Profiles on Christian marriage websites or not at all. I went Church hopping while visiting RP, was amazed to find sooo many Churches that  practices old fashioned Holiness, "Jesus is Lord". You can even find a lot of Filipino Christian Churches in America. My opinion is that devoted Christians should marry of the same faith, otherwise their House can be divided. For example those of the Catholic faith may believe that its okey to party, drink, smoke, gamble, etc...But non Catholic Christian may believe in living a life of Holiness and not be partaker in attending bars, parties etc. Can become a problem in the relationship. Different beliefs in raising the children..The Hubby and Wife should attend Church together as a family united. My Son's mother shares my beliefs, so we both agree on how our Son should be raised in Christ.  I know alot of Catholics that became devoted Christians once they arrived in America, or from working overboard in other Countries. Don't be surprised, the Christian faith is strong among the Filipinos in the Philippines, they take their worship of Jesus seriously. Guys shouldn't have any problems at all finding God fearing non Catholic Pinays all over the World. It's possible that the devoted Catholic Pinay would join Her Hubby in his Faith of worship.

[Alvin]

... in response to Christian family, posted by NateD on Jun 11, 2002

The only church that would pose a problem is Iglesia Ni Christo.  This is a Filipino Church that demands that you convert to their religion before marriage to a church member.  If you marry without coverting then the member is expelled from the church.

My wife and I took The Basic Life Seminar (phone:630-323-9800) which covers every aspect of a Christian based marriage including the rearing of children.  It is a very intensive 5 day course that can improve any Christian based marriage.

Everything depends on the person that you choose.  You are very young and would have a lot of women interested in you.  Most of the men who choose Filipinas are much older and seeking an ideal partner.  

I wrote a post for you discussing Fil-Am marriage below.  I hope that you will read it.  It is a reality post so that you will understand that people are people regardless of their origin and you have to be very careful so that you will make a good choice for a wife.

Ephesian in the Bible discusses marriage and in law relationships as you already know.

Good luck in your search.  I see that you are a college student from your profile and obviously very intelligent and introspective from your questions.

You should go back in the archives and read about the problems of some of the board members. You will be absolutely amazed.  I was very lucky to marry the right person.  Our marriages grows stronger every day because of our dedication and commitment to each other. I have strong support from my wife's family.  We do not send any money to the the Philippines because my wife's family are all professionals with good incomes.  Most men who marry Filipina sent money to her family monthly.  It is generally expected and some families can be very demanding.  
Alvin

[The Walker]

... in response to Christian family, posted by NateD on Jun 11, 2002

Yes, but you are still going to run smack into the Roman Catholic Church in about 65% of the cases.

This is something you will have to discuss extensively with your intended.

-Don

[Jay]

... in response to Christian family, posted by NateD on Jun 11, 2002

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