children

[Bear]

... in response to Re: Gosh!!!, posted by SingleDad318 on Jun 7, 2002

would not have allowed me to have our children.  She would have taken me to the cleaners so I did the best I could - I stuck it out so the kids could see both sides of the ways to do things.  Not that I was perfect but I tried harder to do things right so they when the time comes would know if I could, so could they.

I was amazed after we divorced how many people became closer friends and said that they didn't want to be friends with me/us because of her.  Even priest asked me how I had had so much patience.  But the treasure I have now makes it all a forgotten moment of my past.  I hardly ever recall the being married to her anymore - I was so proud when I realized I had forgotten our old aniversary.  Having the right woman can cure a lot of ills.

Bear

[SingleDad318]

... in response to My "ex", posted by Bear on Jun 7, 2002

I did not give my ex an option, I had to pursue the "best interest of the child" and consider the long term ramifications. It was difficult but I know I made the right decision. My lawyer told me that eventually due to her personality that she would be less and less involved and that type of personality tend to weed them selves out and that is exactly what happened. I figure that in another year or so she probably wont be involved at all, that is just the way she is(was).

I enjoy wearing multiple hats!

Jody

[joemc]

... in response to children, posted by stefang on Jun 6, 2002

Hi stefang,
       your post hit a note,my wife stay at home
       for the first eight years of our marriage.
       My two kids are three years apart.she thought
       it was important to do so.  it was tough
       for me I worked alot of two jobs at once.
       I think for now it has paid off.
                                        thanks
                                                joemc

[Jeff S]

... in response to children, posted by stefang on Jun 6, 2002

.. .but in Japan the term "mother with an outside job" is an oxymoron, especially with little ones. Opening a day care center in Tokyo is about like opening a furnace store in Manila. Maybe after the kids are in middle school and are gone from 7:00 AM til 6:00 PM (yes you read it right - my step daughter commuted over an hour each way on public transportation in early grammar school in Yokohama,) they'll consider something part time, so long as they have enough time left over to take care of the household. My wife has always considered her motherhood, job #1.

-- Jeff S.

[bigjiro]

... in response to children, posted by stefang on Jun 6, 2002

my wife quit work as soon as she became pregnant and stayed home until our son started school at age 5. my son never spent time at a daycare.