I have not been close to marriage proposals for any of my FSU lady friends. However, I have been very emotionally attached to a few of them and they felt the same.
For those who I dated a few times and I didn't want to follow up with any longer, I send an e-mail just saying business, blah, blah, blah would prevent us from meeting again.
For those whom I had spent several weeks (cummulative over several months or a year) with, I sent very long messages stating how well they had treated me mostly, reviewing our good times together, and detailing some of the problems I saw that necessitated an end to our relationship.
Just this past week, I had to send one of these long messages. It was very painful for me to do such. We were almost a perfect match, but there were a couple of major things (for me) that we just could not match up on. Although we had discussed these issues some, she had no inkling that I would ever send the 'Dear Jane.'
Mostly, these ladies will never respond at all after receiving the 'Dear Jane' message. At least that has been my experience. And most all of my lady friends have e-mail at home or work, so its no big sacrafice to send an e-mail.
What has been the experience of others regarding responses to their 'Dear Jane' messages?
