Pulling the plug on a K1 Visa app.....

[Philb]

Any one know what the proper procedure is for this?  Do you send a letter or just do nothing?  Just wondered if anyone else had any experience with this.

[Travis]

... in response to Pulling the plug on a K1 Visa app....., posted by Philb on Jul 8, 2004

wish I had!!!

[RickM]

... in response to Re: Pulling the plug on a K1 Visa app......, posted by Travis on Jul 9, 2004

A friend of mine visited a lady and sent in all the K-1 papers but things went sour for him when she began haunting him for money before she even arrived here to USA.
He dropped her like a bad habit...

Basicly,he notified INS and told them he changed his mind about everything.They told him everything was approved already and in the mail to both of them but that they'd notify her Consulate and put a stop to it right there.It happens!!!

And Travis...Sorry to learn about your situation,maybe I'd seen your post earlier about your fast divorce but forgot the details.
Geesh,what went wrong?Did she have to return?Did she get you financially or support or for alimony or anything???
Better luck in the future...

[Travis]

... in response to My Friend Did...And Question Travis ...., posted by RickM on Jul 9, 2004

She married me strickly to get into the country. Two weeks after we were married I found an email she wrote to a friend of hers telling her she was depressed because she hadn't been able to find a boyfriend. Then she played the false abuse card...that was at the three week point. She's currently still here but it isn't going to last I think...I had a long conversation with INS :-) She did attempt to take my house and 3 years alimony but all that was denied. The worst was the legal bills and missed time from work because she faught the divorce as hard and long as she could.

[RickM]

... in response to Re: My Friend Did...And Question Travis ..., posted by Travis on Jul 11, 2004

learn about such a story.What city was she from?
Man,you didn't see any of it coming?
How long did you spend with her when you met?Was it in her city and home?
Best wishes for the future and for your financial recovery.
I'd assume your done with RW?

[Travis]

... in response to Wow!!!...What A Snake...I'm So Sorry To...., posted by RickM on Jul 12, 2004

I saw a few red flags prior to getting married but I chose to ignore them. I guess you would have to know details of her past and my overall character to know why I did. I still believe I made the correct choice because at the time I didn't know her intentions and I really didn't believe she would stoop so low as to play the abuse card. Most of the problems occured within a few minutes of "I Do". She figured she had me at that point. When I told her I was filing for divorce she just smiled and said she wouldn't give me permission. Her friend (co-conspiritor) told her both spouses had to agree to divorce...LMMFAO...thank God Texas is a no fault state I just told her I wasn't asking for permission and I was just letting her know what was about to happen.

She's from Kaliningrad, or at least close to there. Evidentally I didn't spend nearly enough time with her but hind sight is 20/20. I'm a firm believer in you reap what you sow, so I think her problems are just beginning and she brought them on herself. As we used to say in the Navy, stand by for heavy rolls

Yes, I'm done...I figure I'm better off with some good ole home grown misery I still read this board just to provide a little advice to those that care to read it. I'm by far not the most expierienced or knowledgable in this whole endeavor but I do possibly have more expierience with dealing with things when they go WAY bad. For an example, the Affidavit of Support can be removed...go figure...folks always told me it couldn't.

[RickM]

... in response to Re: Wow!!!...What A Snake...I'm So Sorry..., posted by Travis on Jul 16, 2004

That's great Travis...I'm glad to hear things are landing your way.Seems your correct,her problems are just beginning...Great news about the no-fault and affidavit removal...Seems you selected one of the few bad ones in the bunch...I think most RW are very good natured and unless they have someone here already schooling them negatively,I don't think it is in their scripts for them to try and take advantage of you...I think they simply look for a better life and after being there and seeing how they live,who can blame them?

So what red flags did you ignore?

I have a few friends considering this idea of a RW.I can only offer as advice to a newbie to try and spend as much time there in her home area with her,her family and friends and to listen to her very clearly.Ask every and any question over time...

My wife is a carbon-copy of her very first letter to me after the intro-letter...
What didn't I see? It's more what I didn't realize...
At times,she's more like my daughter than my wife.She loves being taken care of and despite her high education,she has had no desire to bear any bread to this household.(She very quickly learned how to drive and how to spend...)

She wanted to have a child and be married and that is exactly what she got and she is happy with that.I give her credit,she's an "excellent" wife and mother.She excepts and fulfills that role perfectly.She is just a "tad" surprized to learn that almost all American mothers here work as well as take care of a household.It's a little bit of schock to her

It should be interesting soon because the baby starts pre-school soon and I told her she needs to at least find a part-time job doing something somewhere...Maybe she'll surprize me...

All-in-all...I can't complain.I'm an older guy with a very beautiful younger wife and her beauty inside matches.Very religious,believes the man is head of household.I could leave for a week on my own vacationing to Vegas or someplace and she wouldn't even ask me a question...Try that with an AW wife...

[Frank O]

... in response to Wow!!!...What A Snake...I'm So Sorry To...., posted by RickM on Jul 12, 2004

That is unfortunate. Those are the posts that are REALLY informative albeit tougher to write. Thanks for sharing the info. Were there ANY red flags prior to any of this? If you hadn't found the email/letter would you have known any of this was up?

[Travis]

... in response to Re: Wow!!!...What A Snake...I'm So Sorry..., posted by Frank O on Jul 12, 2004

I wouldn't have known for fact what was up but I had a feeling. I never thought a single email would save my a@@, but it did. It was admissable in court and INS also wanted a copy...It showed intent to do the things she did (false charges) and it also proved marriage fraud. Maybe she shouldn't have married a network engineer

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: Re: Wow!!!...What A Snake...I'm So S..., posted by Travis on Jul 16, 2004

Glad to hear you DID get to see that e mail. Pretty scary to think if you had NOT found it. Man that could have turned into a REAL mess.

[Bobby Orr]

... in response to Pulling the plug on a K1 Visa app....., posted by Philb on Jul 8, 2004

I sent them a short general letter basically saying that things were not as I once thought and the right thing to do was to pull the plug etc.  It seemed to work.

[Jack]

... in response to Re: Pulling the plug on a K1 Visa app......, posted by Bobby Orr on Jul 8, 2004

That is correct. Just write your service center a letter. Include the receipt number you were given and tell them the engagemnent is over. It happens often, it will be no big deal.