Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Sucks!!!

[Jack]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

Well Scaught, it has been some time since we heard from you.

Sorry your having a bummer of a relationship, it does happen.

So Scaught, you did not see these problems in the first 90 days?  You mean she was different in the first 90 days and after 90 days she turned into this helpless baby?

I don't know what your answer will be with regards to how she acted during the first 90 days but if there were any problems or things you did not like, then WHY did you marry her?

Now in an attempt to help other guys not make the same mistake as you did, please explain how you went about your search.  Did you meet many ladies, a few ladies, or just your bride?  How many years age difference between the two of you?   How much time did you spend with your bride before you proposed the K-1 to her?   When she arrived into America how long did you wait before you got married?

[Scaught]

... in response to Well Scaught, posted by Jack on Apr 12, 2004

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Yes, Jack-- it has been a while. I have suffered... suffered... suffered greatly during this absence.

She was a beet-ching, whining, helpless freak since she the day she got here. I saw she had culture shock, and gave her time, being the patient, understand gem of a guy that I truly am. She insisted that I buy her tickets home before the 90 days was up. I did it--- twice! Weird things happened which never happened before regarding the tickets (they were freak acts of nature reported in newspaper headlines). She simply COULD NOT leave. The 90-day period was gone. It seemed god did not want this woman to leave until I had learned my lesson completely-- since 90 days was not enough, we got married to see how things would develop. (This was just a few months ago.) Now I can see life with her is always going to suck. Now I bet the plane tickets will come through!

This will absolutely not help anyone find a good woman in the FSU, but I will play along: I dated a Ukrainian girl in the US, I dated another FSU gal who was in the US from a different FSU country, I later wrote to many when looking for a wife and then chose this one who seemingly had her act together, spent three years visiting her, traveling, met the family, etc. We have ten years age difference, which makes her the oldest woman I have ever dated in my life. We waited 90 days to get married-- we maxed that visa sucker out.

Everywhere we go, guys notice how gorgeous she is. It never ends-- but that's the fun part. I don't have a jealous bone in my entire body, not even in my head. That's not the point. The point is her beauty makes this suffering hardly worth it. I don't care what she looks like. I just want her outta here, like a Ken Griffey Jr. homerun.

I will be so happily thrilled when she's gone! Jack, I'd like to invite you to the party I'm gonna throw!

Jack, I know you are happily married. I am really happy that things are working out so well for you, Tbird and the handful of other guys that post here. The Magnificent Seven show others that it can be done, although this experience, I believe, is not at all representative of what most will encounter.

[Bobby Orr]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

Sorry things are not going well for you.  Could you remind us on where she is from, how long she has been here, what your age differences are, if you are from a city or country spot here in the US?

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly..., posted by Bobby Orr on Apr 12, 2004

See my reply to Jack: He got it all out of me with splints under the nails-- a picnic compared to the hell of being hitched with this FSU witch. I gladly spilled it all.

About the country or city: she has been out of the house several hours a day and on vacations out of state. That girl gets around!!! There are dozens of nice stores within walking distance. We have a very comfortable home.

[Frank O]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

Well my wife is not here yet so I'll see. HOwever she IS fluent in English & already has work lined up (grooming dogs which is her love). Sorry to hear you feel that way but like other's have mentioned she DID ditch her whole life to come here with you. I know if I MYSELF were to move to Ukraine to be with Diana I would probably be so incompetent & dependent on her it would NOT EVEN be funny. The other thing is like the Bible says you should have "count your cost" before you started this endeavor.

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly..., posted by Frank O on Apr 12, 2004

Hey Frankie Baby:

I have a good feeling about you. Getting the dog grooming gig is seriously gonna be your buffer zone and help her adjust. This girl here has no life of her own. No hobbies. Oh, sorry... torturing me is her hobby. She is the most boring soul on earth to be tethered to.

If she ever makes you crazy, don't even think about swinging that BC Rich Mockingbird, or whatever vintage model it is.

Music will keep you young!

I have counted my cost, and am selling before I am completely drained by this FSU virus.

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: Re: Being Married to This FSU Lady H..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

VERY beautful. I might dare even say THE MOST beautiful women I ever saw IN PERSON & definately the most beautiful I ever dated. But dang she was BORING!!!! It was all about her. Looking back in hindsight I'm glad she ditched me before I ran out on her. By the way my axe is a BC Rich Gunslinger. My wife likes to sing so we get along great. Still not sure how she'll handle the Texas heat though...

[Scaught]

... in response to She sounds like the Marina I dated...., posted by Frank O on Apr 13, 2004

You guys are going to have a lot of fun together.

The Gunslinger covers a lot of sonic ground, but I'm sure you want to Rock Out on it.

Maybe you'll have her come either before the real heat, or when it is subsiding. But with the dog grooming, the music connection you two have, and no doubt other things, the weather probably won't really matter much.

That Marina and this one here don't fit the popular description. It's great that she ain't in your life. You have nothing but good things to look forward to.

Take care-- Scaught

[Stan]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

We been married almost 3 years now,,,,,, and while I understand what you mean, I just don't agree with you. At moments, yes it's been trying to say the least. The few "downsides" have been almost exactly what I expected, but the "upsides" have far exceeded anything I have dreamed of. I personaly would never marry an AW again, but, in the same breath, I would'nt recomend marrying a RW to anyone either,,,, It's not for everyone!
My 2 cents

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly..., posted by Stan on Apr 12, 2004

Hey There in Paradisio:

I am glad, believe me, that your experience with your woman is different. I wish this woman here only on Bin Laden or Saddam Hussein. She has to go back before there are more American victims.

I was weakened by this parasite and couldn't write for a while. Now I am gaining strength.

Boy, do I count my lucky stars! Remember those guys that were accused of stuff by their FSU babes and had restraining orders or whatever? Knock on wood, this parasite hasn't come up with that one yet!

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

Well, I don't know...

I would say that you DO need to modify your life. You are right, it takes more time to be married to someone coming over here, who barely speaks the language, and doesn't know the customs, and (probably) doesn't drive.

But, then again, she DID leave her family and every thing she knew to be with you. Her life kind of got upset to... doncha think?

I agree that this is definitely not for the self-centered, who wants their life to stay the same...

On balance, though, (since you asked) it's approaching 1 1/2 years for us, and my life has definitley been upgraded.

I'd do it again in a heart-beat.

YMMV (and apparently, does...)

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly..., posted by MarkInTx on Apr 12, 2004

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Maybe we are both self-centered. She definitely is all for herself. I was very willing to help her a lot-- at first. No more. In any case, it's not working and it never will, nor should it. I didn't want my life to stay the same. I wanted it to be better. However, she has caused singlehandedly a tremendous negative sloping downgrade in the quality of my existence on this planet--- Would anyone like to refute this factoid? I would never refute the fact that your life has certainly improved.

I am really glad that your relationship is going great. You are doing everything right. You show it can be done.

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Re: Re: Being Married to a FSU Makes Me ..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

Of course it CAN be done...

It can be done with AM/AW, RM/AW, AM/RW

Let's face it... it CAN be done...

As for your quality of life going downhill... how could I refute that? I only know what you tell me... You may be 100% correct.

All I am saying is that each man and each woman is unique.

There is no such thing as a Russian Woman Species...

If you say you married a woman who made your life miserable, I'll believe you.

But -- believe me -- it's not because she is Russian.

The guys who go over the first time, and who think that ANY Russian Woman will make them happy just because she is Russian are sure to be disappointed.

But, likewise, guys who come on here and who say that all Russian Woman are b*tches, and will make your life a living hell if you marry them are likewise myopic.

Sorry it didn't work out for you Scaught... I feel badly for both of you...

[slimjimco]

... in response to Maybe... and maybe its just being marrie..., posted by MarkInTx on Apr 13, 2004

In several months I will be going on three years with my Olga, and every day is like the first month.  If you choose to experience these daily tribulations as an adventure and make the decision to go the long haul and ride it out, you may end up with a fun life.  
They like to run the house and that is the way they are.  If you accept this, you will probably survive better.  Their bedroom is their private domain and castle, and you are their guest.  You MUST accept certain changes.
Every day can be an adventure.  We just got back from a month in Paris last week, and they can squeeze a dollar 'till Washington screams (or whomever is on the Euro coin).  You must learn what is important to them, and make your decision to marry be determined by what changes you will accomodate.
They bring their experinces with them (as you do, as we and every woman does).  The first thing you MUST tell them is do NOT NOT NOT put the bacon grease in the garbage disposal drain!!  Mine has a short fuse, but all is forgotten by the next morning.  Treat them well, and they will often reply ten times better.  Understanding relationships helps very much.
Don't forget that they are adjusting to you more than you are adjusting to them.  Very often, if you give them 110%, you may receive 400%.  Very often, a problem can be caused by a misunderstanding, and sleeping over the problem can help.

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Maybe... and maybe its just being ma..., posted by slimjimco on Apr 13, 2004

It's clear you've never run into this gal: You give 100 percent, she wants 9 trillion percent and offers nothing in return.

I am glad you found the right woman for you.