Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Sucks!!!

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly..., posted by Travis on Apr 13, 2004

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Believe me, I am getting her out of here before something strange happens.

[jrm]

... in response to Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly..., posted by Travis on Apr 13, 2004

I brought a "beautiful" blonde here, made me miserable, so she went back! Better to be alone than, married to the wrong person.
She never walked past a mirror without admiring herself, I thought about putting a mirror in the bottom of the pool to "get rid of her"! ;-)

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Hone..., posted by jrm on Apr 13, 2004

Hey JRM:

This one must be her twin sister. She makes me late with her hour-long mirror checking every morning. I don't have a pool, but I could try a full sink: )

Mega Dittos with everything you said. You been there, man... life's too short for this crap.

[Ken W]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

Marrying outside of your culture is a challenge, no doubt - but there are rewards as well.

How many times in your life will you ever get the chance to watch someone become a cosmopolitan, educated, world-traveller? When will you ever be welcomed into a new (and I mean FOREIGN) family and way of life? When will you ever get to observe the processes of forming new opinions from a completely blank slate? Isn't it nice to occationally get a point of view that is not somthing parroted off of the evening news? The most rewarding thing about going beyond your own borders is the discovery and growth that comes with it - I tell ya, I wouldn't trade it for anything. The other side of the town where I live is utterly blase compared to the experiences that I have had as a direct consequence of my marriage.

I had loads of fun introducing Lena to what I thought were the greatest things about my country, while pointing out it's shortcomings and not sugar-coating it. For that first year, we went everywhere together, saw some cool sights, did things that seemed commonplace to me but utterly fascinated her. ("Mexican food? Whats that?") I grew up on the beach, but Lena had never seen the ocean before I took her there - seeing that expression of profound gobsmack on her face is something I will never forget! Likewise, I was impressed when 30 people from her hometown turned out for a shashlik party in my honor. "Southern hospitality" has nothing on the way Russians treat their guests - and they know how to party, yes indeed

I also had the pleasure of teaching a willing and motivated student. I taught Lena how to drive a car and change a flat, use chopsticks, write a check, make a collect call, convert F to C, and a hundred other things. I enjoyed it - not sure why, perhaps just because I got to show someone the RIGHT way to do things for a change.

Of course, YMMV according to innumerable factors. I got lucky, she got lucky, lucky breaks on meeting the right people in town, and lots of hard mofo'in work. Nothing is easy, but I don't see how it would be any easier with an American chick either. You just trade up to a different (not harder) set of problems going global.

Sorry things didn't work out for ya, but don't fall into the trap of blaming it all on FSU, women in general, or any other thing - it just didn't work out. I found a keeper, and a lot of other men have too, so it ain't all about the FSU. I don't mean to cast aspersions or anything, but it seems like every divorced guy I've ever met sings the same song.

Just remember, borders are for chumps. Good luck man.

[Scaught]

... in response to The upside, posted by Ken W on Apr 13, 2004

Hi Ken:

I am truly happy that you have found happiness. My intention is not to point out that some of these marriages won't succeed.

If I were plopped down in the middle of Russia tomorrow (remember, she's had years to prepare for this, with extensive hand holding once here) with NO prep, I would take care of myself. I have plenty of experience in foreign countries.

This childlike dependency really turns me off. I want a relationship with an equal, not a baby to toilet train.

I want to be a husband, not Big Daddy.

On the side about experiencing other cultures, I personally found most of her folk wisdom to be BS. I have heard the most illogical crap spout from her gums. Most people over there are very ill informed. If my kids ever repeatedly any of that crap, I'd go for sole custody. Thankfully, we have no children.

[KenC]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

Scaught,
Sorry to hear of your misfortune.  Marrying a foreign woman certainly has some burdens that cannot be seen beforehand, but I have a question for you: Using your 20/20 hindsite, was there any indication, before you brought her here,  that she would behave this way?

I for one, appreciate your post here because it will help others understand that this quest to find a foreign bride is not all peaches an cream.
KenC

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly..., posted by KenC on Apr 13, 2004

Hello Ken:

There were signs before she came that our relationship would fail, and also signs it would succeed. I took a lot of time with her, but you don't know until she comes here and face the nitty gritty. Until then, it's all signs: positive and negative. So we had our trial marriage to see what would really be, and it's clear that it just can't work out. I honestly can't imagine anyone staying with this woman. That's why I can't be jealous. Anyone hooking up with this harpie is going to hades in a handbasket.

[jrm]

... in response to Re: Re: Being Married to this particular..., posted by Scaught on Apr 13, 2004

This is a real risky business for both parties, and both parties should be aware of the "dangers".
It is easy to get suckered, but not so easy to get "unsuckered". Don't let the little head tell your big head what to do. And proceed with caution.
I am going back next month for my most extended stay, to see a woman I met 18 months ago casually (not online, agency,etc.) She was married when we met. She got divorced in January. She is not the most beautiful, but is a hell of a lot more fun to be with.

[tim360z]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

Sorry to read your story Scaught.  She is so Americanized.  Completely self-centered,  very very AW thing,  she learned well and quickly.  I understand your trauma as I have known a few AW's that sound just like your FSU wife.

The best thing about them...is when they are gone.  Peace.

[Scaught]

... in response to Sounds Like She's Americanized!, posted by tim360z on Apr 13, 2004

Right, there is no future with such a self-centered beast. When I wasn't feeling well, she was angered that I couldn't take her places. There was no concern about my well being, at all. This disappointment she expressed was completely open! At least she doesn't try to hide how disgusting she is.

Yes, when she is gone, there will be PEACE, at last... but the party's gonna be first!!!

[mudd]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

how do you expect someone to comment on a short letter with not much info. FWIW did you think it was going to be easy, and she would adjust in a month or so?

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly..., posted by mudd on Apr 12, 2004

Why do so many think that if you don't want to go on forever with one of these FSU loser beetches that you must be stupid???

Look for some good details under Detective Jack's post. He got it all out of me with his halogen flashlight in my eyes.

[Philb]

... in response to Re: Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Suck..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

[mudd]

... in response to Re: Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady Suck..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

How could someting go so wrong is such a short amount of time? sounds like my Ex

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Being Married to a FSU Lady ..., posted by mudd on Apr 12, 2004

Good question:

I think this FSU species is very high strung by nature. Also, some of them have heard bad stories and are poised to jump on the guy at the first sign of discomfort.

I am not going to play this sick game. It's just not healthy and life's too short to put up with women like this.