Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Sucks!!!

[Scaught]

Hi gang-- it's been a while. It's so boring now on this site, so here you go...

How was the first year or half year for some of you? How many of you would describe it as a living hell? How many of you are ready for a 20/30/40-year old helpless little baby that can't do anything on her own? It IS fun-- for the first few days.

My point: If you have a pretty full life and a few serious hobbies, you might find yourself devoting  every waking moment to her needs, with her wanting more! It's just not worth it IMHO. It shows you the great advantage of having an American woman. I would say the quality of my life has been downgraded many fold due to this woman in my life. This one will very likely get shipped back.

[LP]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

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...This is so good it has just got to be fattening. It's almost enough to make me come outta retirement and offer a few opinions...but I won't.

All I'll say is that these are obviously not the actions of two people in love, two people who "knew" each other for four years before the marriage took place. People who seemingly based their motivations for marriage on something other than the right stuff. Also, I'm not taking sides but I remind you of one thing: The only consistent feature of all your dissatisfying relationships will be you.

Having said that, it's still good to see you've come to your senses. These women aren't worth it, no woman is. If you think otherwise you have bigger problems than any chick is gonna solve, FSU or not. No question they be lots of fun...from a distance. Close up the risk/reward, the cost/benefit analysis, is more than laughable. Unless of course you're one desperate
hombre...

Scaught Man, I wish you luck. When you pay to learn, you learn. A pity it won't mean a thing to the MOB cultists waiting in line for their Kool-Aid. Time to fill that hole in your soul a smarter and better way, a way that puts your interest's first and not those of an FSU floozie looking for a better life. (That would be 95% of them btw.)

I feel for you but it takes two to tango. Ah well, kinda funny in a way. People will deny it but there is no greater satisfaction than soaring on one's dream...except maybe watching MOB dreamers who have nowhere to land but in the ocean of reality.

Lets hope they're good swimmers.

[thesearch]

... in response to Well now...., posted by LP on Apr 19, 2004

I thought that the entertainment would be too much of a draw for you to stay away too long.

[LP]

... in response to Re: Well now...., posted by thesearch on Apr 21, 2004

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Hi Doc. Nah, just stopped by because a little birdie told me about Scaught's tale of woe. Like a woman whose been raped, it took me months to feel clean after getting away from this biz. I'm already getting creeped out again so I won't be back if I can help it.

Glad to see yer doing OK. Believe me, you dodged a bullet by blowing this nonsesne off. Best leave it to losers like MtMav and others who can't see the forest for the trees.

Adios..

[MtMav]

... in response to Well now...., posted by LP on Apr 19, 2004

at what the wind blew in ..... "ol' full of himself L.P."
In your last post (and I do remember) you pompously stated: "My work is done here." (I wasn't the only one who noted your typical pomposity). Not exactly a man of your word. Obviously, you can't contain yourself. Is this the sequel?  Will it be followed by "The Passion of the L.P." and ascension into heaven in a biblical 40 days?
  You wrote: "These women aren't worth it, no woman is." Why then would you be taking up with the blond whose picture you briefly posted? A bit hypocritical!(BTW, nice pauch! How long did it take you to "grow" that?) Obviously, unlike your atypical, condenscending post to Scaught, YOU haven't learned. Desperate, Hombre?
  Socrates was right ..... "Character is destiny." Once the blond discovers YOUR true character ..... pompous, arrogant, condenscending, know-it-all, full of yourself etc. ..... she too will leave you like your first wife. Junior, there is still time to change although it is doubtful you will.
  Go away and, more importantly, ...... stay away!

[LP]

... in response to Well now, look ........, posted by MtMav on Apr 19, 2004

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....I can rile one the Axis of A-holes.

1) The "pauch" is now gone thanks. Comes from sitting in the front of a jetliner counting huge amounts of money. Along with free travel and lots of young women who don't seem to mind it. How you doin? Seems that uniform and crappy GI salary didn't work out as well huh? Or are you too busy these days dreaming of the invasion and occupation of Halley's Comet?

2) First wife didn't leave me, I left her...for another blonde. Long time ago too. It's why I can have this blonde and all the others at the same time. Again old man, how you doing?

3) About the blonde. Whatsamatter? Jealous? Ain't getting the same quality are ya?

4) Nice to see yer still here while life continues to pass you by, I guess there *is* something more satisfying for me to see after all.

5) Guess my work here isn't done. Since you miss me so much I may stick around just to please you with my pomposity. After all, if that's what riles you then that's what I'll use. Lol, when are *you* gonna learn?

Nice talkin at ya, F U very much

[thesearch]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

if you do, that it will be easy to send her back? I would like to have to follow up on that one for everyone.

[Scaught]

... in response to so, why do you think, posted by thesearch on Apr 14, 2004

I love you all.

[Travis]

... in response to so, why do you think, posted by thesearch on Apr 14, 2004

Sending them back after the divorce isn't exactly a walk in the park even if they REALLY deserve it. I'm getting some expeirience in this endeavor but it takes as much if not more patience than bringing them here and being married. I didn't follow an exactly orthodox method myself but then again, this kind of marriage isn't exactly orthodox :-)

[Scaught]

... in response to Sending them back, posted by Travis on Apr 14, 2004

An offer of (1) a free ticket back and financial support for a reasonable period of time OR (2) nothing, should do the trick. If she stays here, I will divorce her right now, and she'll have no legal status in this country and I won't be responsible for her, and I won't care what she does. Now is the two-year waiting period. I was told by BCIS that if we get divorced during this period, she has no legal standing in this country. My wife was present during the same conversation. Back at home, I repeated this to her as justification why she must return home. I told her there is no choice. She doesn't want to live the life of an illegal immigrant; I know that for certain. She is basically a really good person at heart. She just has no business living with a member of the opposite sex.

[Apk1]

... in response to Re: Sending them back, posted by Scaught on Apr 15, 2004

I think if you look at the INS web site, under permenent green card application...that you are misunderstanding the situation for your wife.

The only way she can be sent back is if you have not gone through the AOS interview....after she gets her temp. green card it is very easy for her to submit her own papers after a divorce prior to the 2 year anniversary of her interview...this web site does describe that divorce does happen, at no apperant fault of each other and that if she can provide info that she was married and legally lived with you (to prove the marriage was not a sham) then she will get her permanent green card without your blessing.

I am not sure even after divorce if you are off the hook for financial support for the 10 year period, some have said that it will not stand up in court...some have said they have had INS remove the financial support paper...and yet others have said that they have been totally screwed over by this contract and paid out large sums to buy it out.

Buyer beware....

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Re: Sending them back, posted by Apk1 on Apr 17, 2004

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haven't had an aos interview

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Sending them back, posted by Scaught on Apr 18, 2004

haven't had an aos interview

[leslie]

... in response to Re: Sending them back, posted by Scaught on Apr 15, 2004

Your wife has a third alternative and she can find it very simply by looking at the russian women abroad website.....

The law may state that she must go home but the law is not applied in this way.  If she takes legal advice from someone in the Russian community she will be told the truth.  She will be granted a green card following her divorce from you. THIS IS INS POLICY. They will only deport her if she commits a felony. This FACT is not published but is common knowledge in any immigrant community. They will also tell your wife that she can hire a "junkyard dog" divorce attorney who will send his bill you....

Did you sign a prenup??

No Then if your are not living in a community property state she can sue you for half of everything you own.  

Yes.  Well I hope you did it properly.  Your wife should have had a professional russian translation of this document and independent legal advice before she signed it. If you did not do this any competant divorce lawyer can have the prenup set aside....

In reality you have no legal right to send your wife back to Russia on your terms.  She will decide whether she stays or leaves. A judge makes the divorce settlement.

You really have presented yourself on this thread as an arrogant controlling guy.  All your wife would have to convince a judge of this would be to print out your posts here over the last few days.....

Your strategy depends on your wife trusting what you have told her.  You better pray that she continues to believe you and returns to Russia because if she finds out the truth your ass will be toast!

[Globetrotter]

... in response to Being Married to a FSU Lady Honestly Suc..., posted by Scaught on Apr 12, 2004

Sorry to hear of your troubles...tis a rough game.  I don't doubt you as I've met takers over there as well.  My problem wasen't as yours, but a lack of trust.  You just never know how long they can be a good actress, if that's their game, thus a good reason for looking for red flags.

I haven't seen too many "gunning" for you, as the boys did me.  I just pulled the plug before I tied the knot.  You will do well, not too much damage, and now know that girls are the same the world over, and you're smarter than before.

Just thank your lucky stars you didn't play any longer than you did.  

When I went into this, I thought of what I would do if I wasen't "convinced" after 90 days that it would work.  I thought, send her back, and if we feel better about it at a later time, bring her back over.  Hell, the paperwork would have already been done, just have her get another police report and another physical, and resubmit, and wait again.

Anyway, good call, and good luck in the future.