More Information on Asian Women already here

[terry]

... in response to SC?, posted by BrianN on Apr 25, 2002

aahhhhhhhhhh holanta, yes

[MarkInTx]

... in response to take a vacation about 800 miles east.., posted by BrianN on Apr 25, 2002

It's like you're writing posts in reply to someone else's messages...

I have no idea what your ex and a clan of nurses has to do with an Asian Dating Agency...

If there is a connection, I fail to see it...

[BrianN]

... in response to OK... you've completely lost me, posted by MarkInTx on Apr 25, 2002

Mark, that was a joke.  I just found a bunch of 'em here that are friends with my ex, that were the real thing.  Here in atl, we have our own section of town that's called chambodia.... but it helps if you know someone, to meet someone.  

(back to the sidelines to watch my hair fall out).

[Bob S]

... in response to OK... you've completely lost me, posted by MarkInTx on Apr 25, 2002

I think he and his ex are starting their own home office Filipina dating agency to fixup her friends with nice guys. Send him a photo and a profile (and a check to cover his web-hosting expenses).  Good luck!

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: OK... you've completely lost me, posted by Bob S on Apr 25, 2002

Please e-mail me with your address. Both your work mail and hotmail accounts seem to be kicking back anything I try to send to them.

- Jeff S  kmsauto@pacbell.net

[BrianN]

... in response to Re: OK... you've completely lost me, posted by Bob S on Apr 25, 2002

have a section on the asian sweeties website with profiles and pics of available men for asian ladies.  May had her pic up there for a while, maybe that's how she met her new love?

Don't know but it wouldn't be too bad of an idea.

[may10]

... in response to Maybe jeff could do this., posted by BrianN on Apr 25, 2002

Wrong, Brian.....*grin*

Didn't even make a mark.....LOL.  Thanks for the compliment anyway.  *S*

[Jeff S]

... in response to no!!!.....no!!!....no!!!.....*S*, posted by may10 on Apr 26, 2002

How's everything?

-- Jeff S

[may10]

... in response to Glad to see you're still lurking May.., posted by Jeff S on Apr 26, 2002

Thank you, Jeff.  *s*  Everything's just wonderful, never been happier.  

I try to browse thru the posts and read see what's interesting to keep up with what's happening to friends here.

I just couldn't resist responding to Brian's post.  *grin*  You, more than anyone else, knew my reservations when I posted that pic and the words to put there.  *grin*  It seems my reservations were somehow right.  *grin*  

Give my regards to Mariko.  *s*

[Jeff S]

... in response to Maybe jeff could do this., posted by BrianN on Apr 25, 2002

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[Bob S]

... in response to I don't think you understand, posted by MarkInTx on Apr 25, 2002

I agree that it looks like an advantage in every way, except as Don pointed out items 5 & 7.  If she is here on a visa and does not yet have permanent residency, you cannot be certain she is not a green card shark looking to marry you so you can help her adjust status.

The agency seems like a great idea (similar results w/o either the high cost of Great Expectations or a trip overseas).  But I would want to see some changes before using their services.
1. More biographical info on their female clients.  I can understand them not wanting to divulge too much (or you would just look them up in the phonebook and call to arrange a date yourself without paying the agency).  But they should at least provide First Name, Age, Occupation, Marital Status, # of Children.  Obviously you might not want to waste money joining if it turns out all their female clients are 20 years your senior (unless you're into that sort of thing).
2. Provide legal status of residency.  Are they a Citizen? Permanent Resident? Temporary Visa? Asylum Visa? Other?  You could then pre-screen for ladies who truly are not in need of your citizenship to stay if that is something that worries you.

It would be hard to provide for any sort of money back guarantee.  What is guaranteed?  That you'll find a wife?  Why should they be forced to refund if the male client is a buttugly troll or total arsehole on his dates and scares off the ladies?  You could ask for a guarantee of at least 3 dates, but how would you know if they weren't just paying the girls to show up and sponge off your dime for an evening?  In the end, the money for membership fees is all part of the risk, just like the money spent on addresses, tourist visas, and plane tickets.  Nothing guarantees your UkrW won't turn into a nutbag while you're there (or worse yet, after she arrives here on your sponsored visa {BTDT}).

[The Walker]

... in response to I don't think you understand, posted by MarkInTx on Apr 25, 2002

Reference #5. Don't count on it. After 09/11 there are changes brewing in INS. They may require her to return to her country of origin to apply for a change of status to wife. This is all up in the air, as is the very survival of the INS in its current form. It may not affect foreign brides very much and then again it may. Especially if NOW and the woman's congressional caucus has their way.

1. As do many Asian women, especially Filipinas.
2. Good point.
3. Another plus. Vicky and my phone bills were outrageous.
4. Don't believe that, either. The agency that you join will probably try to sell you everything from airline tickets to her home to see the parents, to "help" changing her INS status, to "special" phone cards to call her homeland. But for a thousand bucks, they'd better give me a handjob if I don't connect. That is steep. A lot of freebeies had better come with that fee.
5. See first paragraph.
6. Understands, yes; likes, maybe. There are aspects of American society and culture Vicky doesn't like/understand.
7. Not necessarily. A visa and a green card are two entirely different animals. Ask anyone with a foreign wife or read the adjustment of status posts here in the archives.

Choosing an Asian woman already here can be a good choice. She is partially "Americanized". But you do not see her in her native habitat, under "normal" conditions, as it were. Still, I do not see any reason to choose between methods. Whatever makes you both happy. True, she will not suffer as much culture shock as a gal from a tiny village on Leyte or from a rural province in China. She has been exposed to the big, bad world and she can survive here. On the other hand, maybe you want to "Americanize" her without the less savory influences she can find here on her own. Six of one, half dozen of the other. Either way if you take your time to really get to know the woman, I don't think it will make much difference. Although traveling to her homeland will broaden you as to her roots and why she does some things the way she does. I always recommend travel. Makes you smarter and more tolerant. And besides, winning a woman's heart SHOULD cost you some treasure. A good wife is worth the trouble and money, correct?

-Don

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Re: I don't think you understand, posted by The Walker on Apr 25, 2002


OK... first off... my search has heretofore taken me to the FSU, and recently Brazil... so I am certainly no expert on an Asian woman.

My only experience was with an American girlfriend who was Half Thai... and she wasn't steeped heavily in the culture, having been born and raised here. (She was, however, the most beautiful woman I have ever dated...)

However... as for the agency selling me other services... I really don't think so.

I agree that $900 seems steep... except like I said, it favors when compared to one trip overseas.

My plane ticket alone to Kiev is going to cost more than that.

Also, it compares favorably to other dating services. I don't know about "Great Expectations" but there is a "Christian" service here in Dallas called: "Equally Yoked." It's more of a dating club than a matchmaking service, but it was something like $1500 for a year's membership...

Now, as for travelling to her homeland... I would expect to do that, regardless if we met here or there.

If I marry a woman from Brazil, Or Russia, or Japan, I fully expect to take a trip to her "home" at least once a year. If I make her go with me to Pittsburgh once a year... it's the least I can do to go home with her once a year, as well ;-)

As for spending my treasure for a good wife... absolutely. After having had a bad wife, I know the value of a good wife. But the problem is that sometimes a trip overseas is not spending your treasure on your wife... it's wasting it on the search...

I would much rather not do that, if I didn't have to.

And, when I finally DO find my wife, I think she would be happy to find I still had some money in the bank for both of us...