... in response to Re: lesson for genoramix, posted by Frank O on Aug 22, 2003I felt the same way on my trip report as well. I ended up writing and posting a trip report but it was very short. I tried to make sure there was nothing in it that I could get blasted for. At the time, I thought to myself, how sad and I am sure there are many others that feel the same way. My original intention was to do a very detailed report, starting from the beginning. I have even kept a sort of diary of everything I did and why I did it. It does not mean it is the correct way to do it, it would have only showed people how I did it. In the end I decided against posting it because I KNEW parts of it would get blasted by people and I am not on here to defend myself. I want to be here to share my story and read about others as well as maybe making new friends. Maybe I am too sensitive but I hate it when I see personal attacks on people that are just trying to share their story.
Now, having said this, I do not imply that all critism is bad. Far from that. I feel critism is needed to keep things balanced. The problem is sometimes critism turns into personal attacks. That's when people tend to crawl away and no longer post. For awhile, this group was doing very good. Lately there have been very few trip reports and the reason is simple. Most people are probably afraid to.
I just wish people would step back and not personally attack anyone that doesn't do this the "textbook" way. I was happy to see an apology from LP on his post. Then other posts he was able to get his point across without personally attacking the poor guy. I saw some very good information in those posts. Others posted good info as well but some people resorted to personal attacks. No wonder there are very few trip reports on here.
Listen, there is no right way or wrong way in doing this. I tried to say this before in many posts. Yes, I agree there are some things you can do to increase your chances. There are also things you can do that will make any chance at success a fat chance in hell. Overall, we are all humans and last time I checked we are all different. Just because someone failed doing it one way, doesn't mean everyone else will fail the same way. Just because one person can tell, within a few minutes, if they want to continue or not, does not mean everyone has to do the same. I for one believe people have bad days but that is up to the two people involved to decide.
I am only saying this because 2 others posted saying why they do not like to post here. I am a 3rd and I am sure there are more out there. I know you are all trying to help out and make sure we don't make a mistake. It is good to have people care like that. All I am saying is to please try to leave constructive criticism, not the personal attacks that sometimes happen.
Z.
