... in response to Re: Americanization, posted by Jersey Mike on Jul 23, 2003So sorry to learn that things didn't work out...
Wouldn't it be nice if we "all" could predict the future...
I'm in year 2 of my marraige to former FSU gal and it is almost 15 year diffeence...
Has had it's moments...I'd be lying if I said no....But for the most part,her personal family values don't seem to allow for family failure...At least while the little one is still so young (18 months old)...Maybe that has been the common bond...Many,many,many RW post they dream about happy family life...
I wonder how many guys realise how importantly that fits into their equations
As for materialistic with my wife...It took about 1 year for her to begin to understand everyone here is not millionaires and that money does not grow on trees...
I said "NO" to a lot of things spending-wise right from the very beginning...Now,I tell her she knows how to spend well but I'm waiting to see her learn how to earn as well...She does not have a credit card because she has no way to earn and pay the bill...If she doesn't keep the "FREE" $30,000.00 car made available to her use clean,she will hear about it from me...I tell her if "SHE" was out working for it she'd take care of it for certain...Believe me,she ask for very little other than necessity and she is just as happy in a dollar store as she is in JC Penny...She buys only what she needs and likes having a stash for a rainy day...That seems to be one thing she learned and likes because I don't think it was a possibility in her previous life...
Finally,I gotta say this...She always knows the door swings both-ways for "both" of us...We get out of this marraige what we put into it...I think I'd survive starting over again a hell of a lot easier than she would...Hopefully,it will never come to that...She takes good care of her self and our love seems to be growing...If anything,it would be ME with my American born attitude of "nothing is never good enough"...The all American disease....