... in response to Re: More from Kiev, posted by thesearch on Jul 22, 2003All of the women I met told me stories of their experiences with American men, one has even been to America using the K1 visa but decided not to marry the man and returned. I asked all of them very honest questions and answered their questions about myself with complete truth. I have met five women, all who appear to have excellent character, two of which appear ready for further correspondence. One woman wishes to show me more of Kiev and interact with me more before I leave, the other wants to meet for dinner to discuss my intentions tonight. Both appear interested in who I am rather than "what" I am, there is no sign of desparation or a desire to marry a stranger. I was quick to tell them all that I am an average, middle-class American, nothing special. They were quick to tell me they want to find the "right" man, not neccisarily an American man either. But I will say that many Ukranian women are attracted to American men regardless of what they know of the man. Just like we are to them, right? ;^)
Three of the women were obviously uncomfortable, whether it was with me or because of their own expectations, I do not know. I will contact them, thank them for meeting me, and wish them best of success. Whether they had materialistic feelings, I do not know, I only know the sensations of our meetings. What I was being told and what I observed and felt were different, the famous "red flags" that everyone talks about but many men fail to understand. So really, I cannot say truthfully that the women that I will meet again have materialistic intentions or not. I can only say what I sensed in their actions was consistant with our discussions. They were genuine, as am I.
Cal