Red flags and blinkers

[Pordzhik]

[This message has been edited by Pordzhik]

A couple of recent threads caught my attention; Cals and Svanos, and to paraphrase a recent reply, if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck, it sure as fluck ain't a swan.

But it's your life, your wallet, your heartbreak and your call.

Balance a few months of writing against the heartbreak that can result?

[T P Cornholio]

... in response to Red flags and blinkers, posted by Pordzhik on Apr 24, 2003

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[Pordzhik]

... in response to Are you blinkers sluggish?, posted by T P Cornholio on Apr 25, 2003

My signals are ok thanks, got to re-grind my valves and fit new camshaft next weekend.

[T P Cornholio]

... in response to Re: Are you blinkers sluggish?, posted by Pordzhik on Apr 26, 2003

It is located under "Performance" on the previous given link.  Also, don't get one of those 3/4 cams, spend the money and get a complete one -- you'll be glad you did.

[Pordzhik]

... in response to Then be sure to get the Camshaft Rotatio..., posted by T P Cornholio on Apr 26, 2003

A 3/4 cam? I'll remember that if I get a mis-fire on number one pot!

[svanos1]

... in response to Red flags and blinkers, posted by Pordzhik on Apr 24, 2003

I want to emphasize something.  I have been in contact with my wife since last September.  During that time, and 3 visits to see her (first one on Nov 20), she NEVER did anything to arouse any suspicion in me.  She was there every minute and every time I called (unless she was at the gym where she went 3 nights a week for 1.5 hours with lady friends).

Also, she is almost 35 years old and while very beautiful, she is not tall and slinky like many of the photos I have seen on the internet like at AFA, Scanna, and others.  Anyone can see that her son is very well raised, and she did it all.

Also, remember that she did not try to hide from me the fact that she went on two foreign vacations.  Early on, while we were emailing each other many photos, she sent me photos and labeled them 'me in Cyprus last May'.  It just didn't hit me then.

She explained to me how, when she was at the hotel in Egypt (where she went alone), there was a man-made beach behind the hotel (back past the swimming pool) on the Red Sea.  It was relatively small and only for use of people staying at that hotel.  She said that people laid on the sand fairly close to each other, and it was there that she started talking to another Russian lady laying close to her, and they became friends and 'stuck together' for the remainder of their trip.

I totally believe in my wife's sincerity and I feel a little ashamed now for being so upset and for doubting her.  However, I can say that the talk we had a few days after her arrival very much served to ease my mind.  All she told me was not so pleasurable, but I feel she was telling me 90% the truth.  That is plenty enough.

I can tell that this woman loves me very much - it is obvious in every thing she does and in her eyes.  She also has worries about me.  I have a recent ex-wife and a 7 year old son, and for example, my ex called last night telling me she could not find clothes she had sent to my house.  My wife was upset with me for spending more than 30 seconds talking to her.  She asked me with tears in her eyes 'Stevie, please tell me true.  Swear on my grandfather's grave and your father's grave that you have no feelings for this woman.'.

What she doesn't understand is how the 'system' here can 'castrate' a man, and that this makes a man feel very angry.  That is all that I feel.  By the way, this ex wife of mine is Russian and I got married to her (when she was 23) in 1993.  I could write a book about this relationship, but basically I should have never married this girl and had gone so far as to purchase her an airplane ticket to go home at the end of our 90 days fiance visa period.  I ended up marrying her on the 90th day (because she begged and felt sorry for her) and it was the biggest mistake I ever made.  I would strongly advise men to avoid (especially in today's generation) younger Russian girls, or at least to be VERY VERY careful.  My wife seconds this very strongly.

And for CAL, based on my understanding of what he is saying, I would drop this girl like a hot potato (and look for someone older).

If anyone is interested, I can post photos of us on the internet and provide a link.  But I hesitate a little about this because my wife is more 'private' than I am.  Do other guys here think that posting photos (to the public) is somehow being 'too public'?  Part of me wants to share them with others (to put faces on the story), and part of me doesn't.  Do you guys ever have this same feeling?

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: Red flags and blinkers, posted by svanos1 on Apr 25, 2003

to wind up on Bozo's home made porn site. See http://www.planet-love.com/wwwboard/latin/messages/41385.html

This is the third time I've seen that happen with pictures posted on P/L or LWL (actualy, this one's pretty mild compared to one of the earlier ones). Better to email them privatly to people you trust. (ain't it a shame that the 'bad apples' have to spoil things for the rest of us?)

[thesearch]

... in response to Re: Red flags and blinkers, posted by svanos1 on Apr 25, 2003

Sure I would like to seet the photo's However, if you have a doubt what so ever (as you do) -- listen to that and do not post them. Just my advice.

[vagn]

... in response to Re: Red flags and blinkers, posted by svanos1 on Apr 25, 2003

You and your wife (and kids) better agree
on posting before doing so.

Do they read this board?

[svanos1]

... in response to Re: photos, posted by vagn on Apr 25, 2003

No, my wife doesn't read this forum (thank goodness!)  I would just tell her that I wanted some friends to be able to see a few photos of us and get her agreement to that.  Kids are too young to consult.

[Scaught]

... in response to Red flags and blinkers, posted by Pordzhik on Apr 24, 2003

Yes, it's an age-old problem-- blinded by love (or whatever you want to call it). However, I wouldn't put these two cases in the same basket.

Both cases do deal with issues of trust, but I think that Cal's Olga, from what I understand to be the facts of the case, cannot be trusted, and if she thinks that Cal believes her story about the personal ad designed to check up on him, she will have no respect for him. I don't see any future with a woman like that. And like many have said, with so many good women out there, why give her the time of day? I hope Cal will focus on the other possibilities that he has been corresponding with, stop communicating with Olga, and be strong. I'd write her a "Dear Olga" letter, with words like: "Dear Olga: Unfortunately, I cannot spend my valuable time corresponding with people who have difficulty being honest with me, especially since I am looking for a woman sincerely interested in marriage. I am sure you understand. Good luck with your future endeavors, Cal."

Svanos' wife, I think, is an entirely different story. I don't see that she did anything wrong-- we have a right to make other people's lives before they met us an open book? Please don't ask me to explain some months or even entire years from my life! You won't get far. She said more than enough to explain a few lost months. She has been completely on the level regarding issues between each other (unlike Cal's case), which is what really counts. I see Svanos and his wife having a long-lasting, healthy and loving relationship. We'd be all very lucky to have a woman like her.

So I wouldn't put these two situations in the same boat (my 2 centimes).

[thesearch]

... in response to Cal's and Svanos' Cases are Different, posted by Scaught on Apr 24, 2003

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[Pordzhik]

... in response to Cal's and Svanos' Cases are Different, posted by Scaught on Apr 24, 2003

It's a case of guys being strong and willing to write off a few months of writing and contact and continue the search over again, something any newbie should be prepared for.

Anybody who is not prepared to let go at the signs of red flags is asking for trouble.

Two foriegn holidays? 400 dollar loans? Single parent RW? It just don't add up does it?

I mean I live in one of the most affluent towns in western Europe and I cannot afford to loan 400 dollars, except to family members.

Besides take everything you read here with a pinch of salt, as the archives will reveal.

[thesearch]

... in response to I agree somewhat, posted by Pordzhik on Apr 24, 2003

- my mind would be asking  ----   If she really needed the money, why would she spend it on expensive vacations?

[Pordzhik]

... in response to On the other hand, posted by thesearch on Apr 25, 2003

A strange one this for sure!

First thing we all surmise is that if an FSU woman has been abroad, then it must of been paid for by a foreign man, a man who's chased and woo'ed and likely had his way, is this something Svanos should be upsetting himself about? And what had he been doing a couple of years ago? And has he been entirely truefull with this lady?

I wonder, if this woman had something really sinister to hide, why even tell him of the trips and show him the photos?

Whatever the story, he chose this woman and fetched her to America, then he should accept her for who she is (is now) and how she relates to him.

I guess we've all got them skeletons in our cupboards that are better left alone.