... in response to Re: Depends on what you're looking for., posted by Bubba on Dec 18, 2002Interesting point I guess, but I suppose my goal was to find a nice girl to marry and have a nice wife for longer than two years. But I guess your thinking it might work out so it's worth the risk?
I don't think I would like this idea because this whole process from start to finish is long, expensive, and at least in my case, emotionally difficult.
The thought of having to go through the entire process all over again makes me feel more ill than I already do. To think what I had to go through since day one makes me feel sick to my stomach how all of this has ended.
I guess if you have been single for awhile, and you really cannot or do not want to find an AW, and so there really aren't any other choices left, then yes, RW are an alternative. But an extremely risky one at that, I would strongly suggest that if you are going to make this sort of commitment, and spend this kind of money to find a girl and be with her, than I would spend the extra 2K or so to hire a PI over there and see what kind of girl she really is. Have phones tapped, have them watched, and hire a guy to flirt with her to see if she will cheat on you.
If she is telling you on the phone everything you want to hear, and makes good excuses for whatever, better to be sure about this girl rather than make a HUGE mistake and bring the wrong one over here. If I did do this all over again, I would of had Natasha checked out, and with the help of someone else I would most likely have realized just who Natasha is.
If the girl does not cheat on you for the 6-8 months while being engaged, great, you have a nice girl from which to start, but if she does, then you can get rid of her before it's too late. Plus if you know what she is saying to her friends, you could see if she is talking bad about you, etc.
This venture is just too risky in my opinion, but if you do take the risk, minimize it as much as you can, hire a PI to at least check this girl out a little bit. I wish I had done that, I wish I had not been so trusting, Natasha was the only girl I have ever trusted, and she is the only girl who has ever betrayad me, and the emotional hurt of betrayal suprises me as to how much it actually hurts.
David
