reality

[Lori]

... in response to Wait a minute...., posted by Mars on Mar 14, 2002

Yeah, I am taking him over there alot. He is coming around now. Time is what it takes, and I have all the time in the world.

[jim in the pi]

... in response to reality, posted by Lori on Mar 14, 2002

lori,
i think we all go thru times of homesickness, but i dont mean to throw water on a fire, but it seems like he is in pretty bad shape. if his sister is in the states, is that not comfort to him, that he will be able to see her?
also does he have cold feet about the marriage??
maybe he has the trip over here, and now is wondering why marriage?
there are many veit communities in america, just like filipino. it would not be hard for him to disapear into one, and stay here. the ins does't seem to keep up with expired visa's?
i hope the best for you both, maybe he will come around.
the 3-4 j's

[Bear]

... in response to reality, posted by Lori on Mar 14, 2002

I don't think I give Honey much of a chance to be homesick or lonely because I spend as much time with her as I can and I want her to see and do all the things I like about where I from.  When she is home by herself she has manages to chat, build web pages and so forth in addition to her daily functions.  Plus there have been some Filipinas local who have been in contact.  MOF, we have a get together this weekend before our trip to Atlanta where she is going to spend a lot of time with Vilma and a few other Filipinas in Atlanta and visiting from out of town.

But She does cry.  I think its mainly because she was so "belittled" by so many people she was close to she has a hard time believing the "ego building" I praise her with constantly.  And I think she has some serious hormone imbalance at that time of the month.

I think people forget that men can cry too.  I think its not unnatural that he is lonely or scared or worried or misses home or whatever.  I think he does need you to be there for him and let him know what ever his need is you'll provide it.  I know you are concern but it really isn't about you at this point, stick with him and things hopefully will approve.

Bear and Honey

[kevin]

... in response to reality, posted by Lori on Mar 14, 2002

I don't know what Thai's sense of humor is.  But, I'd like to recommend plugging "Mr. Methane" into the search engine and visiting his site.  Perhaps read the entries in his guest book and it would be a fun English reading exercise too.  You might not only help to cheer him, but have him choking with laughter too.  The best remedy to combat the blues.

- Kevin

[Ray]

... in response to reality, posted by Lori on Mar 14, 2002

Keep him very busy. Drag him around town to all the tourist spots, shopping malls, whatever, so he doesn't have time to feel lonely. It works!

Maybe a part-time job would help him take his mind off of home. Also, make him laugh any way you can and as often as you can. You can do it Lori. Maybe Dave H could help you with some material? :-)

Ray

[Howard]

... in response to Howard gives good advice..., posted by Ray on Mar 14, 2002

... You mean those Purple G-String pics floating around the internet?  LOL  Was THAT the kind of material you were thinking of?  LOL

H

[Lori]

... in response to Material?..., posted by Howard on Mar 14, 2002

Talk about culture shock!!! I think the purple g-string would put him right over the edge!! haha

[Ray]

... in response to Material?..., posted by Howard on Mar 14, 2002

Well Howard, that's not exactly the kind of material I had in mind... ROFL!

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Material?..., posted by Ray on Mar 15, 2002

Ray,

Maybe I should jump in my car and head to Lori and Thai's place. Me "table topping" in my pruple G-string should clear away those tears of saddness and relace them with tears of laughter. It works for my wife. Of course, I might freeze my azz off up there! ;o))

Dave H.

[Bob S]

... in response to Howard's Right!, posted by Dave H on Mar 15, 2002

Instead of torturing us with that mental image, maybe you can organize a road trip to bring Lori and Thai out here to Little Saigon in Westminster, CA ( http://www.beachcalifornia.com/saigon.html ) for a week to let him more slowly and comfortably adjust to life in crazy America.
Maybe it would give him courage to know that there are literally hundreds of thousands of people just like him who went through that overwhelming feeling of culture shock and isolation from all that is familiar just like what he is going through now.

[Lori]

... in response to Oh! Oh! Must claw out eyes!, posted by Bob S on Mar 15, 2002

I will go to little saigon before I die!!

[Dave H]

... in response to Oh! Oh! Must claw out eyes!, posted by Bob S on Mar 15, 2002

Hey Bob,

To clarify that mental image a little more, just watch the movie "The Full Monty" and focus on Dave. That would be pretty close. ;o)))

I like your Little Saigon road trip idea. )

Dancin' Dave H.

[Howard]

... in response to The Full Monty!, posted by Dave H on Mar 15, 2002

nm

[Dave H]

... in response to I think I'm gonna be ILL!  LOL n/t, posted by Howard on Mar 15, 2002

Hi H,

It's getting late...the wife is working. I have to go practice my moves in the mirror before I go to bed. ;o))) Have to be ready for tomorrow. Filipinas seem to like the song "I'm Horny" by Vinyl. Great tune to preform for the ladies to! Although most Filipinas seem think it's about horns growing out of your head. =:o)))

Dave H.

[Ray]

... in response to Howard's Right!, posted by Dave H on Mar 15, 2002

Dave, didn't you mention that you were looking for a part time job? I think you just found it! :-)

Ray