Bringing filipina to america to meet (long)

[NewB]

I never posted here before, but I am stumped with a problem.

I was wiped out by a nasty divorce. Only the last two years have I gotten my head above water.  I am 45 and swore off relationships with american woman. This is just my opinion, but 'liberated' woman seem more like men in womans bodies than woman. I just am not attracted that way.

Anyhow, I have met a filipina, Anna Marie, from PI online. We have known each other for about one year.  She is everything I always looked for in a lady.  We want to meet, but my passport was blocked because of arrearages over $5K on child support.  I pay $282/month, but once you fall behind you must completely catch up before they will issue a passport. This will take me another two years.

Is there anyway I can bring her to the states to visit? Has anyone had to do this and how?  I was thinking about a vacation to Mexico later in the year. Would meeting there be an option?  

You know, I would be content to be single, but cooresponding with filipinas has changed my attitude toward the fairer sex.  I never had a woman say "I'm sorry" to me before. I don't even remember being appreciatted by a woman before. "Man slamming" at our office is rampant. The first time Anna Marie said, "I am sorry" for a minor offence, it brought a tear to my eye.  I have a lot of respect for filipinas and thier way of life. Face it, marriage in America is a war zone...  

Any (positive) advice on bringing filipina to visit the States would be greatly appreciatted.

[Bear]

... in response to Bringing filipina to america to meet (lo..., posted by NewB on Mar 11, 2002

Where I agree with your AW's "not for you" (or me) comments you had children by her and they are for you.  They, by any standard come first which is one of the ways AW's get you by the b@lls and hold you.  Honestly, it is righteously so too because they children had no choice.

It does appear to me that you can file for an adjustment of your fees though since its causing you great hardship.  Still that is legal hassles away and I know because I fought the fight.  But you can make the hassles all hers with some creative effort and get her to want to allow you to be released from the higher amount just to end the hassles.

Best you can expect is to get an adjustment but say nothing about the foreign gf.  

Marrying a Filipina is expensive and time consuming - it just doesn't happen fast.  Same with divorce when children are involved.

Bear

[NW Jim]

... in response to Bringing filipina to america to meet (lo..., posted by NewB on Mar 11, 2002

NewB,
Did you contribute to your Congressman's last election? I know of a number of cases where if somebody is paying consistently on their debt, even with a $10k debt, they got a Passport issued or re-newed. The right pressure from a Congressman can do wonders.

That being said, you probably want to be in good financial shape before going forward. Many guys will tell that this international marriage process will take $10-$15k, from start to finish.

Best of luck.

[greg]

... in response to Bringing filipina to america to meet (lo..., posted by NewB on Mar 11, 2002

Instead of using that money to take a vacation in Mexico, you can use that money to pay on your child support. Bringing a Foreigner here is no small matter, it takes lots of money and patience. Since your having problems paying only $282 month child support, I don't see how your going to be able to pay thousands of dollars to visit her, pay all the Visa fees, pay to get her here, then have to pay to take care of her in America. Something you need to think about. greg

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Bringing filipina to america to meet..., posted by greg on Mar 11, 2002

Greg,

You're right! Paying off the back child support should be the first priority. If a passport can be blocked, I wouldn't be surprised to see INS holding up the Visa due to unpaid child support.

Dave H.

[greg]

... in response to Is it possible?, posted by Dave H on Mar 11, 2002

HI DaveH..I'm glad that your posting more now smile. I missed reading your posts, keep them coming. )))) greg

[Dave H]

... in response to Bringing filipina to america to meet (lo..., posted by NewB on Mar 11, 2002

Hi NewB,

My condolences on your current situation and past relationship.

I don't know much about your situation so please be patient with me while I throw things at out there. ;o)) You probably know that it is difficult for the average Filipina to get a tourist visa to the US. Thus, your Mexican vacation idea, which might be a good alternative. If your friend has any medical training, such as a RN, LPN, or med tech, a work visa can often be obtained quite easily. I'm sure you probably have already looked for ways to pay off the arrears child support more quickly. Being wiped out financially (been there) pretty much eliminates much chance of a loan. Some guys where I worked, were able to get some of their money from the retirement system, due to extreme hardship.

A long shot from the I-129F

5. What documents do you need to prove you can
legally marry?

C. Copies of evidence that you and your fiancé(e)
have personally met within the last two years,
or if you have never met within the last two
years, provide a detailed explanation and
evidence of the extreme hardship or
customary, cultural or social practices which
have prohibited your meeting; and

I dunno how INS would classify your situation...sounds like 'extreme hardship' to me.

Good Luck!

Dave H.

[Ray]

... in response to Bringing filipina to america to meet (lo..., posted by NewB on Mar 11, 2002

Hello Mr B. Welcome to Planet Love!

It is possible for a single lady from the Philippines to get a visitors visa for the U.S., but it is highly unlikely. Essentially, she will have to prove to the interviewing officer that she will return after her visit. Without knowing all the details, I would put her chances at somewhere around one in ten thousand of getting a visa.

Meeting her in Mexico or anywhere in the world would satisfy the requirements for petitioning her on a fiancée visa later on, but the absolute best way to do this is to go meet her and her family in her hometown. It is against Filipino custom for a single woman to travel alone to meet a man, but it depends on the family and her age and a hundred other factors if she would be comfortable with that option.

You asked about “bringing” her here, so I assume that you intend to pay for the trip. I think I will agree with Michael B and suggest that you catch up on your child support before you even think about a new wife or spending money to meet a woman, no matter how sweet and special she is. It is my opinion that your children should ALWAYS come first. I don’t know all the circumstances of your relationship with your children, but that would be my general advice to most guys.

If you and your Filipina friend have a strong bond at this stage, then perhaps she will understand your situation and wait for you to take care of your existing family first. If not, then maybe it just wasn’t meant to be.

I do wish you luck,

Ray

[RCA]

... in response to Bringing filipina to america to meet (lo..., posted by NewB on Mar 11, 2002

We don't know your finacial situation, but can you borrow from your bank enough money to payoff the arrears ?

[Michael B]

... in response to Bringing filipina to america to meet (lo..., posted by NewB on Mar 11, 2002

Not what you want to hear, but don't you think that if they won't even give you a passport, they probably won't let you sponsor an alien (wife or fiancee) either.