Filipina versus Chinese women

[palio]

Hello everybody.  I have been lurking here for a few months and finally feel ready to jump in.  This is my first post.

     I am a very fit 52 year old Caucasian living in Hawaii, dovorced 10 years now, 2 teenage kids.  My kids are getting older, getting their own friends.  They still very much need me but I finally feel like I have the space to look for a new wife.

     I have been perusing the Asian sites and the thing that is immediately obvious is that in terms of sheer numbers of available women you have two choices; Filipinas or Chinese.

    I am just in the initial stage of cultivating some penpals, so far mostly Filipina.

    Would anybody on this board be willing to take the trouble to draw some broad strokes to compare and contrast these two groups?\
So far my observations are that Filipinas are simpler, more religious, more enthusiastic, less calculating.

    Any insights from any of you folks who have "been there, done that" will be most appreciated.
   
    Thanks!

    Tom

[Bryan]

... in response to Filipina versus Chinese women, posted by palio on Feb 17, 2002

Communication is the single most important factor in considering a mate so language is top priority. If you cant speak chinese i would be looking to the Filapinas most of whom have a better grasp of english then the Chinese. Theres alot of obstacles that need to be overcome when considering this path so communication is  that much more important. Symbolic interaction suggest that as a culture we think with the language in which we speak so i would think that being with somone who speaks the same language as you will help overcome cultural differences as well as dealing with interpersonal issues.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Filipina versus Chinese women, posted by palio on Feb 17, 2002

I think you're making a big mistake saying one group of people are more "more religious, more enthusiastic, less calculating" or more or less anything, than any other. In any nationality you'll find a complete range from sweet, hardworking, moralistic individuals, to conniving, scammers and everything in-between. The biggest difference between Filipinas and Chinese lies in culture, language, religion and world view. Since the Philippines was so closely related to the US in the last century, these things are more American-like. Most Philipinas can speak English quite well, are Catholic (or at least Christian) and have a long, positive history of inermarriage with Americans, etc. China, on the other hand, has been so isolated from the US in that same century. Most speak little or no English, probably have little knowledge or awareness of Western semitic religions (Christianity Judeism, and Islam) and have no tradition of intermarriage with Westerners. It's likely that here's a considerable pressure from friends and family to not marry a foreigner.

All of that being said, it's your choice. There are huge numbers of potential spouses in both countries so there should be no problem meeting interested parties. Much of your success with Chinese will depend on whether or not you can accept her culture, including food, language, friends, attitudes, etc. You'll want to live in an area where there are Chinese things - like Hawaii. With Filipinas, though, you can move to someplace like rural Illinois (Hi Feptember) and she'll probably  adapt to life in the US more easily.

One more little detail that you may want to consider. Chinese homes are generally the domain of the women in their society. Men usually have little to say in the management of the household. If that is agreeable to you, as it is to many men (I'd include myself in that group) then you'll be able to interface with typical Chinese home life. If you tend to be somewhat of a control freak, you'll probably run into problems with a Chinese wife quicker than some others.

Of course, the usual dislaimers apply. This is just my opinion. People are people everywhere and you can usually find whatever you're looking for given enough persistence.

-- Jeff S.