Turn Off???

[Gerl]

Hey guys!!!

  Would you feel less love to your girlfriend if she's kindda honest on some  things?..Like some foolishness she have done in the past.Let's face it, we all do have some mistakes done in our past, maybe that was because of curiousity or whatever we want to call it. The issue is not on being intimate with your ex, but it's just a matter of skipping classes..ohhh my this is very shameful.LOL My parents knows it already..LOL
  Of course that was only my PAST..Somehow I learned from those mistakes and learn to value the persons who stood by me during those times..
  Hope he still loves me..:-)))

With all Hopes and Prayers...

Gerl

[shadow]

... in response to Turn Off???, posted by Gerl on Feb 17, 2002

the best policy. I don't care what is in someones past, so long as I don't find out about it from someone else.  Larry.

[Bear]

... in response to Turn Off???, posted by Gerl on Feb 17, 2002

Being honest is more than important.  It shows respect and trust.  But volunteering unnescessary information is risky.  Everyone makes mistakes.  Assuming that you feel that mentioning these things is important means that you wish also to know every detail about your man and that may cause some turn off too.  We all make mistakes.  So if you feel its important for him to know then by all means you had better tell him and if you need to know something about his past then you had better ask but if it doesn't mean anything to the strength of your relationship then forgive yourself and let it go.

Bear

[Bear]

... in response to Re: Turn Off???, posted by Bear on Feb 17, 2002

Oh and Honey says HI!!!.  She is from Davao.

Bear

[Gerl]

... in response to Oppps, posted by Bear on Feb 17, 2002

Bear,

Extend my warmest HELLO to your Honey bro..How is she doing??Hope we'll be friends. She's kindda "KABABAYAN":-))

God Bless

Gerl

[panther]

... in response to Turn Off???, posted by Gerl on Feb 17, 2002

Honesty and communication are keys to a successful relationship.  I think the more you share with each other the more you will be able to learn about each other and grow stronger as a couple. You make mistakes or do some "foolish" things.  That's normal. You are human. I think it is better to be honest and open in your communicaton than present yourself as perfect and have the bubble burst later.  You said you learned from your mistakes so he should be happy that he has found an honest mature woman.

[greg]

... in response to Turn Off???, posted by Gerl on Feb 17, 2002

Its best to be Honest and Truthful about everything. A good Guy is going to Admire You for your Honesty. You know when a Guy later find out that Pinay continue to Lie and Hide things from Him, thats going to make him upset and disappointed in Her. He may even end relationship and find a new Pinay. You must expect Him to be Honest with You also about everything. Don't stay involved in a relationship Blind, you must ask him questions about issues thats bothersome to You. Tsimis and Tambo are bad habits, it will only make the relationship worst. Really a person's Past is the Past, the important thing is giving your new Sweetie a Fresh Start, move on to Positive thinking. You know for a relationship to grow and prosper, they must be able to work together, communication is very important. Btw, what your saying in your Post about skipping classes is mild, its nothing to make a Guy upset about. Mostly what would make a Guy upset with You? Dishonesty, Messing around with other Guys, serious issues. If you get involved with a person that get angry over petty things, then thats not a good person to be involved with. Usually when in Love, both dwell on the good vices of their Mahal. greg

[Howard]

... in response to Turn Off???, posted by Gerl on Feb 17, 2002

G

If honesty makes your guy run, then you're better off without him!

Everyone has skeletons in their closet.  The object is to not let baggage from past relationships cripple the new relationship you are in.  Somtimes it's easier said than done, but WELL worth the effort :c)

If the love you share is true, he will not care about your past, but focus on the relationship the two of you are nurturing.  If he can't get past your skipping school--is he a Grade School Principal?  LOL--something TOTALLY innocent like that, odds are there are bigger issues.

In time everything comes out in the wash :c)

I'm sure your guy will realize what he has soon enough :c)

Keep the Faith

H

[Jeff S]

... in response to Turn Off???, posted by Gerl on Feb 17, 2002

Hi Gerl:
Good question! I don't believe there is a requirement to blab everything about each other to each other, in a relationship. This is particularly true about things from the past that you've changed and won't happen again. Some people feel this is dishonest, but if that's not you are today, why bring it up? If it's something you're stuck with or can come back and haunt you like addiction or a past crime, your partner needs to know but if it's a behaviour you put behind you, and have truely ;earned from teh experience and changed, you shouldn't feel like it's compulsory to blab about yourself, nor should your partner feel you have to reveal all. What he should be interested in is what you are today, your maturity and ability to handle life, not what you were long ago or the mistakes you made as a child. Who didn't fall down a few times when learning to walk? Well, guess what, we all fell down a few times learning to be mature adults too. Just my 2 cents worth. Your mileage may vary.

-- Jeff S.

[Ray]

... in response to Re: Turn Off???, posted by Jeff S on Feb 17, 2002

Good post Jeff!

It's best to focus on the present and the future. Some things are best left in the past.

Ray

[greg]

... in response to Re: Turn Off???, posted by Jeff S on Feb 17, 2002

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