Pls share Your found and was found by Love

[greg]

and Happness abroad stories. Even if You have posted it countless times. SJ and Others can You repeat your successful story? Very encouraging. BTW, I corresponded with my Mahal for over a year while she was working in Hong Kong before we finally met in the Philippines back in Dec 1999, I thank God for giving her the strength to allow our Son to follow me to America without herself. God Bless Her sweet heart. How about You DaveH, RaY, HumB, Larry, Bear, Others...Thank You, greg

[SJ]

... in response to Pls share Your found and was found by Lo..., posted by greg on Feb 22, 2002

Ours is probably not unique, but without a doubt successful.I had written to maybe 80-100 ladies thru Oneandonly.com. Went that route because their not an agency and was easy to create a search profile. I'd send maybe 5-10 letters a week. I was pleasently surprised when I got a response from one lady in paricular, whose response was simple but struck a chord. I wrote back, but then heard nothing for a week or so. I then got another letter with an apology that she had been sick and just did not have the strength to stop at cafe after work to write. We then began a daily e-mail exchange. After about a month I offered to call, she ok'd and I called on a Friday. We then went the next 9 months with daily phone calls. When she went to a second shift, I'd wake up to call her at 3am. I couldn't go a day without hearing her voice and likewise for her. Then finally the trip to Cebu. She knew why I was there. There was no other I was going to meet, not even a thought. There was no doubt. Filed K-1 in Nov. 2000. Went thru NSC at their peak slow time so it took 100 days for approval. We were one of the last to go thru embassy interview. I say we because I went to Manila to go thru it with her. Wasn't asked a single question, just stamp, stamp and "Congratulations".
 Annaliza arrived in Seattle on June 11, 2001 and we married on July 27, one year to the day from our first letter exchange.
     There was no way to prepare myself for what was to come. I had researched, studied and explored every possible scenerio and what to expect, but, not one moment of homesickness, not one tampo(well, maybe a couple of small ones :-) ) In her is a dedication, commitment, devotion and love that I've never experienced and honestly will take me some time to fully accept and appreciate, but I will. I'm with my partner, buddy and best friend. Everyday is a new appreciation in what had become things I took for granted or never noticed before. I learned quickly not to say "It can't get any better than this" because she constantly shows me it can and it does. I'm surprised I haven't had a speeding ticket yet, but I'm sure it will happen. My only excuse will be "But Officer, I'm just in a hurry to be with my wife"  SJ and Annaliza

[kevin]

... in response to Re: Pls share Your found and was found b..., posted by SJ on Feb 23, 2002

I hope Loren can heed this story.  You know, reading today's string about her and her attitude on Mag-Anak really brought me down.  But love is a beautiful thing, no matter how it originates, and no tyrant can ever prevent that from happening.  Love can originate in any possible conceivable way.  If it originates via overseas/international personals, but it truly is love, so be it!  It is beautiful and sacred, not immoral because of the means.  I really felt down because of the picture painted that all white/western guys who prefer pinays for thier mahals are somehow bad and immoral.  I think that is complete BS.  Everybody, no matter who you are, has their preference for a partner.  In seeking a partner, if that is what the motive for seeking is about, it should not be inhibited.  Some guys like blondes.  Some guys like brunettes.  Some guys like redheads.  And some guys like Filipinas.  For a white guy to persue romance (I should really say "love") with a Filipina, there should be nothing condemnable about that.  If the motive is love, then that is an honorable motive.

Personally, recently I met two pinays (in the same month) right here in the good ole US of A, whom I liked enough to become my girlfriends.  They just did not feel the same and I have to accept that.  I'm not a beautiful guy, and these gals did not have an overwhelming incentive to use me as a vehicle to stay in the United States.  Although rejection hurts (it's part of life), I can accept that.  It is certainly much better than somebody pretending because she stands to gain a great benefit from me as the means.  When I think back, my ex-wife in the beginning used to always say "Pogi oy!".  But in the end, she always said "Pangit!".

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.  I have hope and faith that someday, a very special woman will be very happy to be my beholder.  Likewise, I've seen gals in my life that I found totally unattractive, with men that seemed and acted to really love them.  No matter what, whether somebody regards me as handsome or ugly, or even whether I regard a gal as pretty or ugly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  I'm overweight and that can't be denied.  Recently I met a gal who was on the chunky side too.  In my eyes, I found her to be very beautiful.  The stereotypical guy might have preferred an hourglass figure.  Nonetheless, it was not a two-way click.  So I accept that and strive onward.

- Kevin