Ok, now i'm in trouble.

[dexion]

Welp,

I took the plunge and advertised myself. I am now receiving friendly letters from women. I would like, if it is not too much trouble a bit of advice on a first letter. So far all of them have email addresses so I was planning on sending email. But, I am unsure of what to say in a first letter. I've checked the black lists and am prepared to start writing back tomorrow. Any advice would be appreciated.

dex

[Anastassia]

... in response to Ok, now i'm in trouble., posted by dexion on May 23, 2002

Hello Dex!

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Pluses:
1. you will establish good communication at once, she will understand you very well and there won't be any misunderstandings
2. She will realize that you care about her already because you want her to feel comfortable reading your letter
3. This will make her want to reply to you more.
4. this will make her 'open up' more replying back to you
5. you shouldn't worry about using primitive language, you can express yourself fully, don't have to be afraid that the meaning won't be conveyed right.

All this is ofcourse if she doesn't know English that well, I know some RW who receive letters in English and speand weeks translating that themselves, well that's great, they are learning and willing to do that, but i think at least at the beginning the solid communication and interest in each other should be established and later after 5 or the 10 letter both of you can  do it on your own.

I can also help you with some ideas and how to compose your letter, what she expects, how to make an impression....

And if your ladies have email and know English then it is just excellent, you don't depend on anybody. :-)

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[KenC]

... in response to Ok, now i'm in trouble., posted by dexion on May 23, 2002

Dex,
Sit down and compose a very good opening letter and send it to all that you are interested in.  The letter should cover the basics about yourself without much emphasis on the financial side of things.  We are a bit conditioned by AW to lead with our house, car and income, which is not what any GOOD RW wants to hear.  Speak to them about how you like to spend your time and what your dreams and hopes are, including what you look for in a future wife.  If you are sincere in wanting to meet the woman of your dreams, let them know that too.  Remember that 90% of the guys that contact RW NEVER go to Russia.  You have to distinguish yourself from that group (assuming that you ARE serious).  The hard part is to be able to do some self analysis of yourself and knowing what it is you really want.  Don't get too deep on the first letter and keep it to a page and a half.  If they are interested, you will have plenty of future corresspondence to get into the details.  Best of luck.
KenC

[juio99]

... in response to Ok, now i'm in trouble., posted by dexion on May 23, 2002

Sorry to be a party pooper here, but this approach is going to get you contacts from all over the FSU.  Then it will be impossible to plan a trip in which you would be able to see several of the ladies because the distances will be so great between cities that you would spend most of your time in transit.  I think it would be better to specify that you only want to hear from ladies in X city.  Or cities X and Y where they are reasonably close.

JR

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Wet Blanket, posted by juio99 on May 24, 2002


I think it is a good approach when you are getting started.

WHy limit yourself at the outset?

One or two will naturally become "clear winners" and then you can plan your trip around seeing that one or two lady, and then do a concentrated campaign in that region to line up others to see.

But, at the outset... why limit yourself to Odessa or Moscow... or anywhere?

He's still new. I think that every letter he writes now is good. It's all education at this point...

[dexion]

... in response to Actually, posted by MarkInTx on May 24, 2002

and writes and writes and writes, man my hand is getting tired.
dex

[dexion]

... in response to Wet Blanket, posted by juio99 on May 24, 2002

i am also taking that approch. I have contaced a Kherson rose. They are only in one city. As for travel, if I need to go several times, so be it. I like to see far away lands. Its only money.
dex

[Jack]

... in response to Wet Blanket, posted by juio99 on May 24, 2002

and you are correct JR. I suspect this guy will be getting replies from all over with over 65% being not so sincere ladies.

Hopefully if he can find one or two real ladies that he has interest in from the same city or region, he will then concentrate on that area.

When you bring in ladies from all over you generally have to commit two days minimum to seeing this lady and that can really effect the number of ladies you can see in a two week time period.

[dexion]

... in response to select regions, posted by Jack on May 24, 2002

I suppose every way has a good and a bad. I hoped to weed out the ones I shouldn't focus on via email, post and especially phone calls. I don't plan to go visit 25 women. I was hoping to have 2-4 um, finalists to meet. This takes time, time I have. I will do this right. But, to start I need to have a large pool to drain first. (IMHO)
dex

[Jack]

... in response to Re: select regions, posted by dexion on May 24, 2002

Yes it seems there are always positive and negative aspects no matter which method, or methods, a fella might use. You seem to have a game plan already set and as such appears I won't be able to offer you much help. Maybe you should consider writing this new Belarus Bride Agency?

[tim360z]

... in response to Ok, now i'm in trouble., posted by dexion on May 23, 2002

You should expect to recieve letters from some women associated with some unethical agencies, after a couple letters,  "Please you to pay for correspondence for your lady...economics here not so good etc etc".  Some women could be non-existent.  Well,  its your money.  Be just a little skeptical.  And depending on the site...maybe some real and genuine womenI dunno.  Need more data.

[dexion]

... in response to Firstly,  Where did you post it?, posted by tim360z on May 24, 2002

At the moment I have recieved quite a few (ugg its bordering on too many) replies. They all have sent pictures and all have email addresses so far. There is no mention of money in any of them (yet anyway.)
dex

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Re: Firstly,  Where did you post it?, posted by dexion on May 24, 2002

Dex,

If you want the guys on the board to help you... you kinda have to help us...

Three of us have asked you where you posted your personal ad... and you have not answered any of us.

Any reason why?

[Jack]

... in response to Again, I ask, posted by MarkInTx on May 24, 2002

I guess we don't deserve an answer to your question, a bit strange don't you think?

[Jack]

... in response to Re: Firstly,  Where did you post it?, posted by dexion on May 24, 2002

You are doing quite well if all the ladies who have written you have sent you there photos.

I do something very similiar to what you have done for a lot of clients. Without fail almost 15% of the ladies who reply just don't include there photos, even though it is stressed in the ad!