First time...hmmm

[chris123]

Ok let me first say that i have never tried any of these things and I'm alittle nervous at trying this. You see i have a very strong attraction towards veitnamese women but a relationship can't stand on just physical attraction. So I talked to a few veitnamese women here in the US and found out that they are (from my own experiences) very nice, polite, and feminine. Pretty much everything i want in a woman. So now i beleave i can have a good relationship with a veitnamese woman but i have a few things i need answering. What do veitnamese think of american men? do you know any sites that are actually reliable at setting up veitnamese woman with american men? and lastly do you know any sites that are good for learning more about woman in veitnam(things like culture, etc.)? Thanks in advance for any help.

[Lori]

... in response to First time...hmmm, posted by chris123 on Feb 12, 2002

Madmal is our expert on vietnamese women. I am the expert on the men haha...Here is a few sights that give a bit about the culture
http://vietcatholic.net/culture/content-c.htm

http://www.thingsasian.com/destination/vietnam/topic_people.jsp

http://www.links2go.com/topic/Vietnam

The most imortant question I would ask you is do you think you can handle vietnamese foods? Some of them can be more of a chalange than the language is.

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: vietnamese women, posted by Lori on Feb 13, 2002

nt....

[madmal]

... in response to First time...hmmm, posted by chris123 on Feb 12, 2002

Hi Chris, welcome to the board.
As JeffS said, you can't generalise. But you will find that many Vietnamese women are attracted to American men. The young ones don't have much recollection of the war. Though they have been well indoctrinated by their government.
Young people in Vietnam crave western culture. They love everything American. I see on your profile that you are 19. I can think of a few young ladies in Da Nang that would love to meet a young American. They are friends of my wife.

Yes, nice girls in Vietnam are "nice, polite and feminine".
They are amongst the sweetest women I know.
I don't really know much about sites that list Vietnamese ladies as I met my wife, Doan, on a visit there. I still think you can do very well just visiting a country and chancing it.
Jeff's advice of getting to know some Vietnamese in USA is good. You may save yourself lots of heartache and money by meeting a nice girl there. Or you may make friends with people who can introduce you to some ladies in VN.
The ladies I know in Da Nang have corresponded with men before. But so far it hasn't worked out. They (and they're chaperones) are very good judges of character, and can soon pick a "good man" from a "not good man". By "good man" they mean an honest, won't run off with another woman, will love and care for his family type man. Money doesn't matter, after all we are all extremely wealthy in comparison to most Vietnamese.

There are lots of good sites on the net that deal with VN culture. Most of them are based in California. I've deleted most of the ones I used to visit. A search will find you plenty. There are also some very good books available.
Get out the video of "Heaven and Earth", Oliver Stones 3rd movie in his trilogy. It's the true story of Le-ly Hayslip's life in Vietnam and America. It is a real gem.

mal

[greg]

... in response to Vietnamese women, posted by madmal on Feb 13, 2002

I bought the movie "Heaven and Earth", made me sad so I got rid of it. Yes, a good Vietnam movie for the strong hearted, there are some good Chuck Norris Vietnam movies. Vietnamese women are very Gorgeous. )) greg

[Lori]

... in response to Vietnamese women, posted by madmal on Feb 13, 2002

I have that movie MAL. Boy was that a hard one to watch. But you can learn alot from that movie.
My favorite part is when they come to america, and his mother is showing her what type of foods that have in the refridgerator. VERY FUNNY!!
But like I said it was a hard one to watch. The brutal honesty of it really got to me.

[Jeff S]

... in response to First time...hmmm, posted by chris123 on Feb 12, 2002

Welcome aboard. Click on the Asian link to the left on the board page and it will give you a list of agencies specializing in Asian women. A number of them feature Viet Namese women. Remember agencies aren't matchmakers, they're just introduction services, so likely all they'll do is sell you a name and address. Where you go with it from there is up to you. There are a number of Western/Viet Namese couples around some of whom post here. Madmal and Doan and Lori and Thai come to mind. Mal and Doan are married now and living in Australia, whiel Lori and Thai are engaged and awaiting his visa to come to the USA. You asked: "What do Vietnamese think of American men?" You simply cannot generalize - each individual is different. Many are open to international relationships while others dislike Americans from events that happened less than a generation ago. This is the same anywhere in the world whether it be the Philippines, Russia, Colombia, France, India, or the Congo.

If you live anywhere near southern California, you can get a sampling of Viet Nam culture, food, languages, etc. by visiting Little Saigon in Orange County (between LA and San Diego) It's the largest Viet Namese community outside Viet Nam. Walking down the streen in Little Saigon most days, you see about the same number of westerners as you do big Saigon - few to none.

A survey was taken a while back on this board and it turned out that about 1/2 of the couples on this board were introduced by friends, 1/4th by addresses purchased from agencies, and 1/4 by accidental encounter while visiting that country. So this means probably the most successful way to meet Vietnamese women is to get to know some Vietnamese, get involved in their community and activities and make it known that you're looking for an eligible girl from the old country. You get extra points if you're accepting of a divorced or widowed woman and double extra points if she's a mother. Many countries outside the US are much harder on these women than in the US. Just a few thoughts. Tell us more about yourself.

-- Jeff S.

PS Here's what some of us look like: http://www.geocities.com/jeffsatpl/index.html