... in response to Re: I need your help, posted by terry on Apr 4, 2002certainly not enough to make an informed opinion or give advice. Their situation could be any of the following:
1. The husband is an idiot and doesn't know how to file for AOS.
2. The husband is a control freak and wants to keep his wife's status uncertain as a measure of control over her.
3. After all the costs of bringing her over and getting married, he simply doesn't have the money now to file, and she doesn't understand that money doesn't grow on trees here.
4. They are having deeper serious marriage/adjustment problems and he is thinking more about filing for divorce rather than filing for AOS.
Whatever the problem, I'd say their deeper issue is one of communication. If she won't say WHY he won't file for her status, if she doesn't understand _his_ position, she needs to start by sitting down with her husband and talking with him, not just talking at him.