Questions For Ken C

[mdante99]

Hi Ken:

In one of your posts below you alluded that you know eight AM/RW couples, and in your opinion at least six of them are heading for a divorce.

Could you kindly elaborate?

How long have they been married? Are there any regional differences in the women that you have noted?

What do you think has been the causes of discord?

Your experience appears to be in direct contrast to RW here who stated that she also knows eight AM/RW couples; but she thinks only one has serious problems.

I think both of you are very astute observers, and your observations would be very valuable to everyone else here.

Thanks.

Mark

[KenC]

... in response to Questions For Ken C, posted by mdante99 on Dec 23, 2001

Mark,
I always knew you were not good with statistics.  LOL. I said I knew of 6 couples of which 4 seemed doomed.  I have to admit that after writing this list, it is worse than I first thought.  Here is my very subjective opinion.

#1 He is in his late 20’s, college educated, low level management job, no ambition and very limited experience with women.  She is mid 20’s, from a Ukrainian village, not very smart, very ambitious and a very hard worker.  Both are attractive.  They were married in Ukraine 3 years ago.  She has been very unfaithful and openly disrespectful to his lack of ambition.  They live a rather frugal lifestyle and it is only a matter of time before this one is over.  

#2 He is in his mid 40’s, has a respectful profession, divorced after a long-term marriage, not attractive and little women skills.  She is in her mid 30’s, with a daughter, from a Russian city, rather dumb, uneducated, no English skills and attractive.  They live a very frugal lifestyle, which doesn’t make sense with his job.  They fell in love on his first trip, K-1, quick marriage and seem to rather happy.

#3 He is in his late 40’s, unattractive, crude, divorced, and has a weird personality.  She is in her late 30’s, so so looking, teenage son, and from Ukrainian village.  They live a decent lifestyle.  Very volatile relationship and it may well be over by now.

#4 He is in his mid 20’s, handsome, ambitious, hard working, good women skills, Ukrainian born and mature for his age.  She is a beautiful 21 yo Ukrainian spoiled princess.  They were never married but live together.  She is a total user and with her looks she will find her next victim soon, if not already.

#5 He is in his late 20’s, college educated, hard worker, good women skills and ambitious.  She is Russian, limited English skills and in her early 20’s.  They fell in love of his first trip, K-1 and a quick marriage.  She is having a very difficult time adjusting to America.  Volatile relationship that may not make it too much further.

#6 He is in his late 30’s and is hard working.  She is in her mid 20’s and Ukrainian.  They have a new baby together.  She is very insecure with her husband, but they appear to be rather happy.  I don’t have a lot of information about this couple, as they are acquaintances of Lena’s.

KenC

[mdante99]

... in response to Re: Questions For Ken C, posted by KenC on Dec 23, 2001

Ken, you seem to have a good insight.

One thing I noticed, that in your sampling, a good number of the AM are in their twenties.

I always thought that this pursuit was  more common for middle aged divorced men; may be I am wrong.

Mark

[KenC]

... in response to Thanks Ken, posted by mdante99 on Dec 23, 2001

Mark,
I think the ages of my examples may be scewed because of Lena's age as many of them have come through her acquaintances.  I do find it interesting that most of these couples feel into what is considered by some as an "acceptable age difference" and they didn't work out.
KenC

[Jack]

... in response to Re: Thanks Ken, posted by KenC on Dec 23, 2001

hummphhh, must be the maturity of the men that helps these plus 15 years age difference marriages work, what ya think Ken?

[KenC]

... in response to Thanks Ken, posted by Jack on Dec 23, 2001

n/t