Lets take a census

[tomtneal]

With all the bad stuff posted lateley about all the  scams from women from the PI lets count those who are happy and the ones who got scammed,myself i am very happily married for well over 3 years now,she has her pink card and still loves me and i love her,i never had a pen pal or introduction i just went
tneal

[Don J]

... in response to Lets take a census, posted by tomtneal on Jan 6, 2002

I met my wife by mistake, a Good friend of mine met his now wife through a penpal service. When he explained to me how they met and what his intentions where I like many people became very suspect of his girls motives. I then decided to do a little internet research about this whole MOB thing. After a while I started to adjust to his relationship and I emailed his lady friend a Holiday greeting, she received it and tried to email me back but I never received it. She tried several times to email with no avail. Then I ran across an email address on a chat board of a young lady who lived in the same city as my friends girl. I emailed her and aked her if she would be so kind as to email me back to check my ISP. About 10 days went by when I received her response, she apologized for taking so long and asked me to email her again (if I wished) to tell her about life back here in the US. So I emailed her back, explained where I was from and what life was like in Wisconsin. One thing lead to another and pretty soon we are finding out a good friend of hers is married to a Police officer in my home town, then she has a mutual friend of my buddies lady friend and so on and so on. Well, emails turned to phone calls and then my buddy met her on his trip to visit his lady and suddenly it seemed obvious that I would have to make the trip over to see her. Well by the time I made the trip we had corresponded for several months and it seemed so natural when we finaly met face to face that I asked her to marry me, she said yes (obviously) and after about 4 months of INS paper shuffling she had her Visa in hand.

I wanted her to quit her job and spend some time with her family before I came to bring her home with me which I believe was a good idea.

We will be married 2 years on January 25th, and I truly do love her a little more each day I am with her. She has been a blessing from God and I Thank him everyday for bringing her into my life.

No penpals, no intro services, just one girl who's email address I stumbled onto and Look Where I Am Now!............

Happier then a Pig in Sheeeeeeeeeeeesh....... I better go now. )))))))))

Don J

[Howard]

... in response to Lets take a census, posted by tomtneal on Jan 6, 2002

Guys

OUCH!  I go away for a few days and BAM!... I am branded a loser!  That hurts that I could fall so quickly from grace :c)  LOL

For the record, I met my wife through an internet penpal site.  We corresponded heavily for a year, before we decided that there was enough there to take another step.  I visited for a few weeks with her and her family in Southern Leyte and returned to the US engaged.  It took almost a year to get the K-1 through and to get her here so that we could marry.  We began to have communication problems within the first three months of the marriage and they never got better, no matter what I did or tried to do.

Shortly after our first anniversary, her father became gravely ill and she felt she needed to go home to care for hime and spend time with him, fearing she would never see him again alive.  Of Course, I supported that decision and financed her trip and paid his hospital bill.  He did recover, but had to have a leg amputated.  At least he's alive.

When it came time to return from that trip, my wife decided that she could not.  She was basicly hiding from her family in Manila until Art (Bear) decided to see what he could dig up for me while on a trip to try and get Marissa's K-3 pushed through.  Art found her and appealed to her that whatever was going on, she owed me an explaination.  We talked, she confessed the things I have been sharing oover the past several weeks and made the commitment to try and work things out.  Her version of "working things out" is doing anything she can to get a divorce from me.  Not quite what I had in mind!  Over a two week period she made it very, very clear that she had no interest in continuing our marriage.  With no other alternative, I have retained a lawyer and have filed a Complaint for Annulment.  My lawyer says it all should be over in about sixty days.  Two years to get in to the relationship and two months to get out.  Ahhhhhh... the American legal system... ain't it grand?  

As you all know, before Art's help, it seemed pretty obvious that my marriage was over in September.  In November, I started to look over my options and see what was out there, in the way of decent available people looking for the same.  Before my marriage, I had done quite well hookin' up on the net.  The problem was that I just wasn't meeting anyone that I thought felt the same committment to a marriage that I did, but I was meeting nice women.  Let me tell you, the difference I see in the few years I was off the market I astounding!  Naively, I figured that the more people that were online in comparison to almost five years ago, the more quality people available.  Ummmm... WRONG!  It's very discouraging out there!  No one has the slightest concept of reality.  Everyone wants a meal ticket and a super model!  Fortunately for me I am neither :c)  LOL!

After much soul searching--it's been going on alot longer than a few months--I have decided to re-consider my position on re-tracing my footsteps and meeting someone from the Philippines again.  I still am not positive what I will do, but I am exploring my options.  I have never once doubted the ideal with "Mail Order Brides", I only knew that my expirience had been less than positive.  But so many of you are so darn happy, I feel I must look harder at trying again.  Unless there's something I missing, I'm not a whole lot different than anyone here--although, I'm not nearly as handsome as Tim!  LOL--and if you guys found the loves of your lives, maybe mine is still waiting to be discovered.  We'll see.  I promise to keep everyone informed :c)

That's my story... Unfortunately, I'm stuck with it :c)

Regards,

Howard

[Fuzzy]

... in response to Hands up... Who's a loser?, posted by Howard on Jan 8, 2002

Howard

 I think it took a real man to come forward with what happened to you. Anyone that thinks you are a loser, is a loser in my book.As of right now I am in the same shoes that you were in so I know it is real hard but in the end you will do fine. Don't let any clowns give you crap because you live and learn. I have made alot of mistakes myself but I learn and that is the most important thing!!!

[shadow]

... in response to Re: I do not think you are a loser!, posted by Fuzzy on Jan 11, 2002

In Gillette, Wyoming, where I lived for several years, everybody took to calling me Fuzzy. One day I was walking down the street with my dog in the blowing cold snow, (It does that there) and this ladies voice from behind me sceams "Fuzzy, get back here right now!" I turn around, and there is this not unattractive woman standing in a bathrobe staring at me. As I was reeling my chin up off the pavement I noticed this little dog which was behind my dog where I couldn't see him.  

Larry.

[Dingo/Taliman]

... in response to Hands up... Who's a loser?, posted by Howard on Jan 8, 2002

Howard  you said  "We corresponded heavily for a year,
before we decided that there was enough there to take another step"

Are you sure you don't want to edit that because before you said
something like "Ayessa's mom may have written most of her letters"

This would make a big difference.

Dingo

[Howard]

... in response to Re: Hands up... Who's a loser?, posted by Dingo/Taliman on Jan 8, 2002

D~

Yes, Ayesa's mother wrote the letters, but at that time I did not know that.  I was just giving the blow by blow and timeline for those you who might not know it.  At that time I thought absolutely that I was corresponding with my wife.  If I had any sign that I wasn't I never would've made the committment to go and meet her and get the process moving, as far as a K-1, the next logical step at that time.

H

[Taliman]

... in response to True... But..., posted by Howard on Jan 9, 2002

Thanks for clarifying Howard !
Dingo

[Willy]

... in response to Lets take a census, posted by tomtneal on Jan 6, 2002

Very happy here, married since April 18 2001..GREAT!! Not really a pen-pal, just met on a message board and started emailing, phone calls and snail. Made 2 trips there, and I miss it! Regards to everyone, Hi Shadow, long time,
Willy

[BrianN]

... in response to Re: Lets take a census, posted by Willy on Jan 8, 2002

That's the worst part of it all, if there was one.  Missing it, the life, culture, heat, san miguel... Such nice people.  Wonderful place... it grows on you, and it's very  difficult to come home.

Good thing those choices were never in my own hands, coming back home that is.

[shadow]

... in response to Lets take a census, posted by tomtneal on Jan 6, 2002

on more than one occasion.  Met them through intro services.  Never again this way.  Larry.

[Taliman]

... in response to Scammed..., posted by shadow on Jan 7, 2002

I've met some of the niceset sweetest girls through some introduction services (penpal) Web magazines.
Also some not so nice.  Don't limit your options rather people should be realistic about who you are getting
involved with.  The lady at the "bar" could turn out to be a gem while the lady at "church" could run you ragged.
You just never now.

[shadow]

... in response to Re: Scammed..., posted by Taliman on Jan 8, 2002

I agree. I've met some bar girls that were nice, and am still friends with one I met the first time I went there. Wish I had got hooked up with her instead of the other ones. Oh well, hindsight.

I have met several through the sites that weren't so bad, although not the one for me. The odds, though, seemed to be drastically different between the site girls and the ones you meet just by being there. This is part of the reason for my conclusion that the best way by far to do this is to live there.

Larry.

P.S. Congats on the new arrival!!!!  

[Taliman]

... in response to Re: Re: Scammed..., posted by shadow on Jan 9, 2002

Living there would be cool.
For me though I would need a job and doubt I could find one.
No Job  = no food LOL.

Guess who's sleeping soundly in the bedroom?
Dingo

[shadow]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Scammed..., posted by Taliman on Jan 9, 2002

You lucky dog!!!  

Trick is you have to MAKE a job for yourself there.

Larry.