Hope your not be a loser someday Bear

[febtember]

Bear I just wish you the best of luck in your marriage.Hope Honey is the right woman for you.
I was kinda shock when you special mention some of the people in this board about being loser.Why you say that?I just wish  that your not one of them if ever someday.
I know God have special plan for Howard,Kevin,my favorite Humabdos,and all those you have mention "loser".God rewards them for they always humble thereself.
I been together with my husband 6 months ago and been married 4 months already.We both very happy being together and have no single disagreement also,but I cannot bragg and tell to everybody in this board that we have a succesful marriage(please dont get me wrong,I myself can tell I have very successful marriage but cannot tell everybody) not until we both grow very old and still together till death.I still don't know what future bring us.
I meet my husband in penpal route ,everybody know's it.I'm blessed and lucky to have him.I'm blessed because I live in farm and isolated area far from complications and troubles and have arnold(i'm the only creature here being proud of arnold) and kitty cats and ginger our dog with goaty and 7 bunny's.I alway's thankful to God for all the graces he give me.
I keep praying to Good Lord that he may give us more years together,good health and more harvest heheheh....Our love grow everyday.I love my  farm laborer husband more and more.

[Howard]

... in response to Hope your not be a loser someday Bear, posted by febtember on Jan 7, 2002

Raquel,

I have been meaning to post and tell you how much I enjoy your posts, but as you might have guessed I am in my own private little world right now.  I know that Art meant no disrespect, it was simply a poor choice of words that I will razz him about for a very long time!!!  Then again, I did make a bad Mormon joke once, so maybe he was just getting even with me :c)  LOL!

Your sincerity touches me.  Your husband is a very lucky man!  You are very lucky and truely blessed to ahve found each other!

Thanks for sticking up for us "Losers" ;c)

BTW:  I love it when you talk about Arnold the pig :c)

Your story is a happy one that we desperately need on here.  I pray that it continues to be, but with your very realisitic attitude about marriage and obvious love for your husband, I don't think you'll have an problems that the two of you can't work out :c)

I tip my hat to you, Raquel :c)

Howard aka "Loser"

[greg]

... in response to Hope your not be a loser someday Bear, posted by febtember on Jan 7, 2002

Don't mind Mr Bear(Grrrrrrrr) hehe. He don't know what he got, his Honey been in RP for a long time, just recently arrived in America. Any Pinay can be a good GaL in the Philippines, but the Guy doesn't know what kinda Woman he got until she has spent time in the good ole America. I agree with You 100% it's wrong to label a Guy "Looser" just becuz he picked the wrong Pinay. We are taking a chance bringing these Women here, we can be either lucky or unlucky. It's always a pleasure to read your Posts smile. It's good to hear a Pinay speak her mind hehehe, greg

[Humabdos]

... in response to Hope your not be a loser someday Bear, posted by febtember on Jan 7, 2002

Thanks for sticking up for me raquel! Your my favorite poster too!  Greg, Arnold, kitty, and d rabbits are very lucky to have you!  Humabdos

[tomtneal]

... in response to Re: Hope your not be a loser someday Bea..., posted by Humabdos on Jan 7, 2002

Humabdos
Hey maybe you should get a dog instead of a wife,it can hunt food for you and also protect you from them bad guy's when you get your Nipa hut
just kidding
tneal

[Humabdos]

... in response to Re: Re: Hope your not be a loser someday..., posted by tomtneal on Jan 7, 2002

I have a dog Tom but she's not much of a hunter or a guard dog. My lucky Gecko's will keep them bad guys away. ;-)
Humabdos

[Bear]

... in response to Hope your not be a loser someday Bear, posted by febtember on Jan 7, 2002

I did not call anyone a "loser".  I said "the losers at this game".  I do not think anyone here is a loser - a couple of strange ones (me included) but no losers.  Secondly, I am the only one on this board who as been trying to keep Howard and Ayesa together while everyone else is telling them to quit trying, even to the point of giving up several days of my vacation in the Philippines and some of my funds to try and get them back together.  Read my trip reports starting on Nov 14th.  And for Howards sake I did not post everything and I still think they should get back together.

It seems a lot of posters on this board like to point out the problems after they failed but few plan out their successes.  Its always easy to blame someone else or something else but in reality its always you who makes your life successful.  But in fact those who come here to PL and M-A are trying hard not to make the same mistakes or to avoid the mistakes they or others have made.  I think it is commentable - I did it too.  So I will tell people what I think and pray for the best.  Marriage should not be considered lightly because it is meant to be forever and if something I say hurts or makes someone look at their situation over then I apologize for the hurt but not the opinion.

Bear

[shadow]

... in response to Reread what I said, posted by Bear on Jan 7, 2002

you're saying Howard should continue on a fruitless mission? To keep sending money, devoting his time, love, and compassion to a relationship that is obviously and completely one sided and hopeless???

Sorry, I disagree. Although I don't think I ever expressed to Howard that I thought he should "quit trying", there comes a time when you have to cut your losses and move on. It seems obvious that nothing he does is going to change the outcome, it ultimately will end sooner or later. Why would you possibly want him to suffer any more?

You're right that marriage should not be taken lightly.

I am planning my success.

How's this.

First time caught in a lie, it's over.

Second time hour+ late for meeting in same day, it's over.

Third time in a week I hear "I have a problem" (I need money because my uncle's cousin's wife's sister is sick), it's over.

Actually, as you are probably thinking, maybe I am planning my failure after all. Because this would surely have eliminated 90% of the ones I have met in just the first few days. It sure would have saved me a ton of heartache had I adopted this policy several years ago.

If only there more like Feb!!!  

Larry.

[Bear]

... in response to Sooo..., Bear,, posted by shadow on Jan 8, 2002

If you believe if enuff you can make it happen.

Bear

[shadow]

... in response to Re: Sooo..., Bear,, posted by Bear on Jan 8, 2002

And should continue to torture himself forever???  He's already had a year+ of hell, how much more should he have to endure?

Sorry, Bear, on this one I think you're in a fantasy world.

Larry.

[Dave H]

... in response to Howard DIDN'T BELIEVE!?!?!??, posted by shadow on Jan 11, 2002

Hey Larry,

That sure is a long time. LOL It's easy to get caught up in doing the "right" thing and end up in a lifetime of "Hell on Earth." I hear these couples every time I'm in a store be-itching at each other. I'm sure that Bear must have been overjoyed to be released from the bondage of his ex...I know I was. I just wish I'd done it 5 years earlier. She didn't get better, only worse. It's better to end it before innocent children are brought into the picture, in an attempt to "save" the marriage. They usually just end up as cannon fodder in an adult war.

Dave H.

[shadow]

... in response to Forever...., posted by Dave H on Jan 13, 2002

Sometimes, when things are not so good, and there is little hope of improvement, actioon must be taken to change the course, or it just goes on with everyone involved unhappy. Life is too short to stay in an unhappy situation without hope of change or gain.

Larry.

[Jay]

... in response to Sooo..., Bear,, posted by shadow on Jan 8, 2002

Hi Larry,

I think you should eliminate #2. Being late is a Filipino thing. Have you ever heard of "Philippine time"? My wife call's it "Manyana habit's". I have it real bad from growing up there. She has very little (although some) of it.

Also number 1 is probably unatainable, but try it if you want.

Jay

[shadow]

... in response to Re: Sooo..., Bear,, posted by Jay on Jan 8, 2002

Yes, being late is a Filipino thing. However, if they don't respect me enough to be within an hour most of the time they are certainly not the woman I want. I wouldn't dream of making them wait for an hour+ twice a day! If they don't care enough to try to be on time regularly, there are many other things I would rather be doing than wasting my time waiting on them.

#1 is probably nearly unattainable, you are correct. But in my book, honesty is important in ANY relationship. If you can't trust them enough to believe what they are telling you, what have you got?  Doesn't sound like a very good foundation for a relationship.

My point is, if they can't be honest and dependable, why would ANY of you guys want anything to do with them in the first place??? Personally, I'm not that desperate for company.

Larry.

[Taliman]

... in response to Re: Re: Sooo..., Bear,, posted by shadow on Jan 8, 2002

You want honest and dependable get a dog...LOL

Seriously, U Americans are so in a rush and can't wait for even a minute everything
in your society must be "NOW"....Oh...be right back need to get the popcorn out of the micowave
then need to check my instant messages...LOL

Sorry I'm just too giddy today since my wife is on the plane......;0)