YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!

[MArkUSA]

Well I recieved the worst news one can get today and I would like to share a letter I sent my friend mkendrick from this board..

NOW THIS IS ALL TRUE!
And I could use any help that anyone is offering !

Thanx Guys/Gals for all the help in past and the future!

THE LETTER~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Mark...

Well what I am about to tell you is 100% True and fact.

I just got off the phone with Michelle's Aunt Albina.

What I hadnt told anyone is that for the last 2 weeks Michelle
has been in the hospital with Anemia and recieving blood transfusions

She went down hill very fast ..
I talk to her at the hospital during the first week but she was too weak too come to the nurse station this week..

She died 2pm yesterday in Cebu Hospital.

I am heartbroken and tore up...
and yes I have even been crying ..

I dont know what else to say ..
Michelle and I have corresponded/chat /phone/mail for almost a year now and I had 49 days until I would see her when i got off the plane and now I will only be able too visit her grave sight in Oslob.

Mark....

WHEW!  And this is real and I have no doubt in my mind!

Everyone always worry about scam and crap like that ..
Well I believe and know with all my heart that this is reality.

No doubt in my mind at all.. at this very moment her mother is making funeral arrangements ( I called and talked to her) She was a bucket of tears...)

Her Aunt Frans(lives in USA last 18 yrs) words(statement)to me
"We
felt those precious short times that you and Michelle
corresponded each other was the happiest of her life.
They told me every 4:00 P.M. Cebu time she was always
looking forward to chat with you and checked her
emails and even early in the morning before school.
She was always in every chance by the computer and
always excited to recieve some emails from you. She
was indeed counting the days and can't hardly wait to
see you in February. But, all her good plans were in
vain and her life was cut so short...too short. No man
had ever made her feel so special but you...for you
are the only man in her life that made her  felt so
special. YOU ARE THE ONLY MAN WHO DID NICE THINGS FOR
HER., We are very thankful for you...you are her
special Angel while she was still with us. It's just
too bad that you and her didn't meant to be together
on this earth. I myself felt very sad that sometimes
we just never get everything in life. What else can I
say? I'm crying when I was writing this letter to you.
I'm very sorry that you already have made some plans,
booked some tickets and you and Michelle's dreams to
be together had been curtailed by unexpected
circumstances. I don't know what else to tell you my
friend. For the past couple of  months or so that I
have been talking to you
& I have made good friendship in you. Once in a while
a friend is found who's a friend from the start. Once
in a while a friendship is made that really warms the
heart and I felt that you and Michelle's friendship is
very much like that and more. Once in a while a
friendship is formed to last a lifetime through. I
felt it really does happen just once in a while. It
happened for you and Michelle. She was lucky to have
met you even in the last few days of her life. Also, I
feel lucky to have made friends with you. Good friends
are hard to come by and we have found that on you.
Thanks to the Lord! The very first things that came
out from  Michelle's mouth while she was in the
hospital..Albina said, was how about Mark? She was so
worried about you and thought about you a lot. Mark,
I'm very sorry for all of these. I know you have
already have gone through a long way of preparing to
go to Cebu and supposed to see Michelle and it
wouldn't happen now. On Michelle's behalf, I am very
sorry...so sorry that it has to happen to you.
Sometimes I asked,,,Why, why & why? But the answer
it's hard very hard to explain in this point in time.

I must tell you though that honestly...I felt it's a
blessing to have found you as a friend as well.

Lastly, I didn't know what else to tell you. But, may
God bless us all and hope this NEW YEAR 2002 will
bring us happiness and hopes for  a better year.

God Bless us always,
Fran  """""""""""""""""""

Ok I have shared this with you Mark..

Not sure why?

Now I am in a real predicament...
I have passport plane tickets(non-refundable) and have taken time off from work!

AND I STILL AM DETERMINED TO MEET SOMEONE REAL TO SPEND ENTERNITY WITH

So I am still going I think to Cebu...
What have I got to lose!

Mark I have such a short bit of time too entertain corresponding with prospects thru the mail... to meet in Cebu Feb20th - Mar2 2002

So you said that your wife has few friends that are indeed sincere.

I would appreciate any help you can provide in establishing a connection to a few of these ladies email/phone/pics...

Here is a website with all the info about me and tons of pics.
Incase anyone would want to correspond
filipinos. 8m. com
But explain to anyone the importance of my time constraints.

Well I will end this email to you and hope that you are able to possibly point me in the right direction of happiness ..

One last final thought ..
This has been a bit tragic for me and i am a adult man and I work in nursing and I am able to handle death with a little bit of respect and maturity..

I love Michelle in my own little way ...
and I can only imagine what may of been ...
but I have a goal ...

To find that someone special to warm my heart as much as I warm theirs! Unfortantely! I have to start looking again!

Thanx
Mark

MArkUSA

PS. Parts of this letter will be used to express my needs for help!
   In  a few forums since I have a very short time to accomplish things. And I am looking for quality thoughts and wisdom at the moment to direct me in my undertakings. I hope you dont mind so dont be shocked when you see this on PL Forum. I just couldnt see my self
writing this information over and over  asking for help.

SO IF YOU ARE READING THIS AND CAN HELP A SINCERE CARING PERSON!
I would much appreciate any that you offer!

God bless !

[yorktr]

... in response to YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by MArkUSA on Jan 1, 2002

Mark;
Take the trip; visit the cemetery.
Spend some time there in deep mourning. Afterwards, use the trip as an opportunity to better understand the Philippines.
Don't EXPECT to meet somebody new, but on the other hand, if you tell anyone you meet about what happened, you may attract even more ladies. Here's why:
How romantic to make the pilgimage to the cemetery; it is a wonderful story of love. Also, while nobody would expect you to be emotionally available at this time, this could be a really endearing characterisitic in a fellow for those ladies who always are reading romantic novels.
Who knows, Michelle herself may be able to help from the other side...
You'll probably have to make another trip in the future to meet new ladies, but this trip can really be useful for you even though the original purpose has sadly changed...

[BrianN]

... in response to Here's an approach..., posted by yorktr on Jan 3, 2002

Then it will happen naturally, on his own terms.  I really don't think this is anything that can be engineered from afar... or set up in time.  It'll just start to happen once he gets there, if he still goes.

Just my thoughts.

[panther]

... in response to YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by MArkUSA on Jan 1, 2002

I feel very sad for your fiancee.  She was going to be so happy with you and her new life.  To come so close to a happier life and then die is so tragic.  I would be devastated and would need a period of grieving before thinking about pursuing other relationships.

[Bear]

... in response to YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by MArkUSA on Jan 1, 2002

then you have my condolences but I find it sad because it appears to me that the feelings you claim weren't quite there on your part.  When my first fiancee died it took me 3 years to be able to date again.

Bear

[BrianN]

... in response to If this is real...., posted by Bear on Jan 2, 2002

Bear,
I'm sure that the reality of it all will finally sink in when he gets off the plane in pi.  

If I was in his shoes, I don't know if I could have the guts to even get on the plane, and would probably just burn the tickets.  I can't imagine corresponding that long.. (and never even meeting the girl).. then to have all the hopes and dreams destroyed so quickly.  I'd probably be a pile of total dog@#$(*.

It takes a lot of guts for a person to go through all of that, then try to go anyway.  But in order to keep ones sanity, I'd figure the only thing that might be LEFT, is to go... and see what happens.

Only... I still don't know if I could even get off the plane, with the mental images that were painted for so many months, of meeting her in the airport, only this time... they won't be, in reality.

That's a tough one for anybody.

[MArkUSA]

... in response to If this is real...., posted by Bear on Jan 2, 2002

Bear ..
I knew someone would confront the fact that I am hiding and burying what feelings I had for Michelle for the time being ..

But I am smart and reasonable man ..
I loved Michelle ..for who she was thru her words and the softness of her voice ..
and her thoughts nmost of all..
The physical part that never developed would of ripped my heart out if that was the case ..
but it isnt and i am a mature person ..

And I do have a life too continue on with ..
Michelle was my dream that turned into a nightmare ..
All I want is some reality now ..

Hope you understand and thanx for your conscern..

Mark

[may10]

... in response to YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by MArkUSA on Jan 1, 2002

Hearts are made to bear the worst of pain and the ultimate of joy.

Someone dying doesn't mean their leaving our lives, for hearts are boundless and people that come and matter in our lives have places in our hearts.....and in times when we miss them the most, we can go deep into our hearts and touch them where they are forever.

For now, human as we are,  hearts need to cry, too.

And then, when the time is right, love will come knocking in your heart again.

My prayers are with you.

[MArkUSA]

... in response to YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by MArkUSA on Jan 1, 2002

Well I didnt expect this much outpouring of sympthy...

It has touched my heart as Michelle Had done..
Yes I have had a rough few days and have done much thinking... And I have read all the wonderful posts and concerns..

My email box shows the same kind of Caring by the amount of emails I recieved..

Lets get one thing straight for those who may doubt the truth of this... ITS A FACT THAT MY HEART HURTS AT THIS MOMENT Thats Truth Enough........
As I said I have done much thinking and have come too the conclusion that I want to still go and see Michelles grave sight and family...

And I ask for help finding a sincere friend from Cebu ..
who I may chat with and start to become good friends with..
Reason being I feel that Michelle would want me too continue too look for happiness as she knew I was in search of ..

Now I am not rushing anything just looking to make friends and see were it goes from there ..
I would like to have some friends to spend time with when I am there..
So Don2222 if you are reading this please hit me up..
I would like too talk to you ..

I also expressed these feelings to Aunt Fran and she thought having some friends to visit upon my arrival would be good ..
For I might only think of Michelle the whole time..
Now as I said before I am a Nurse and handle death alot different than most..

So I am goin to follow my instincts and still go and hopefully make some wonderful friends along the way ..
Who knows maybe Michelle will be there looking over me guiding me in the right direction..
Thank you all so very much ..
This forum showed alot of dignity and respect with the reponses I recievd

God Bless you all
Take Care

Mark W Overly
MArkUSA

[Alvin]

... in response to YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by MArkUSA on Jan 1, 2002

Always remember that good things come to those who wait.  Take time to grieve over your loss.  
Alvin, Hazel and Caryl

[Windmill Boy]

... in response to YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by MArkUSA on Jan 1, 2002

Hello Mark

I am  glad  you were  able  to  share  this recent tragedy  with us  on  the  board.  It  was  shocking  for  us  to  read  and  I  can  only  imagine  the  turmoil  you  are  experiencing.  

I hope  that  you  are  able  to  take  solice  and comfort  in knowing that  you  really  did  make  an  incredible  impact of happyness  and  joy in  Michelles  life.  and  don't  forgrt  the  seconhand  impact  her  happyness  made  on  those  around  her  also.

I  think  by  your  occupational  nature (nurse), that you   must  be  a  very  giving  person.  Since you  are  apparently  locked into  your  trip to  the  phillipines  go  and  go  with  a  happy  heart if  possible. Meet  with  her  family give  them  strength.  talk  about  the  fun  moments  you had  with  her  online  and  find  out  about  how  she  was  prior  to  meeting  you.   I  hope  you  are  able  to  find some closure for  yourself through this if  possible.

Take  some  time  to get  away  from  the family though   and  explore  the  islands.  have some  fun  do some  diving,  try  new  and  different  foods.  just  soak  up the  environment  and  try to understand what circumstances  made  her  who  she  was  and  why she  was  so  special  to you.  If  you  meet  someone  else  special  this  trip  fantastic,  but  don't  put  the  added  stress  on to yourself  of  having  to  start  a  new search  for someone else  right now.  

May God  be  with  you  and  give  you peace, tranquility, and understanding  during  these difficult  days that  are  ahead of  you.

Windmill Boy

[Jeff S]

... in response to YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by MArkUSA on Jan 1, 2002

Gee, Mark:
What a story. I know it has to hurt, even though you guys hadn't met. Deepest condolences.
-- Jeff S.

[Howard]

... in response to YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by MArkUSA on Jan 1, 2002

Mark,

I don't know what to say.  Please accept my sincere condolences.  I can't even imagine what you are going through right now.  I am very sorry.

I know that your not necessarily thinking with a clear head right now, but please think about slowing down in your pursuit of another young lady.  I'm sure that you want something good to come out of this tragedy, that that must be what you're thinking.  But, being hasty and trying to fit a new relationship into your truncated schedule, might be a recipe for disaster.  If you feel you must go, then go.  I completely understand the hassle of working all of the details out so that you can go to the Philippines.  I can relate to not wanting to waste the time or money you have invested in this trip, but you might be setting yourself, and someone else, for a fall.  If your plan is just to meet some young ladies, on a trip that is already paid for, with no other expectations than visiting the Philippines, you might be able to salvage something out of these tragic circumstances.  But, I'm sure you have already thought of all of this.

I am very sorry.  If there is anything I can do, if you would like to talk, please don't hesitate to look me up or e-mail me!

I wish there was something I could do or say to make you feel better.

Sincerely

H

[Eman]

... in response to Re: YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by Howard on Jan 2, 2002

Mark - I can only echo Howard's sentiments. Check your heart and make double sure you are ready for this trip. Be patient and give yourself time for grief. You were so close before, that means you can get there again, but not necessarily on a schedule of your own choosing.

[yc]

... in response to YOUR HELP IS NEEDEDPlease look!, posted by MArkUSA on Jan 1, 2002

Hello Mark,

I do not know what to say.  When things like this happen they really come when we least expect it.  I am very sorry and is sadden by your lost.  I know this will not offer much consolation to you.  But try not to think of times you and her will not have together.  Just cherish the time the two of you did share together.  They are just as precious if not more so.  Nobody knows why God in his infinite wisdom allow these things like this to happen to good people.  Maybe the answer lays in the fact that it is because you and her are good people, that he allowed this to happen.  Good people are the ones best able to weather something like this without becoming bitter at life.  Also try to see it from your Michelle's view.  Her last days on this earth were filled happiness and joy.  The reason for that was you.  God allowed you to be an instrument of joy for her.  The two of you had in a short time what most people never find in a lifetime.  In a sense, I almost envy you.  You had found what I am still seeking.

Take care and God Bless!!!