Stories of Peru

[Heat]

... in response to Stories of Peru, posted by RexB on Dec 3, 2005

You are engaged to a women you only know for a few days and can only communicate in broken English-Spanish?  

I think you are going way too fast.

Big mistake

[Ray]

... in response to wait a secound.........................., posted by Heat on Dec 4, 2005

Heat,

I’m really curious why you are busting this guy’s balls. From what he posted, he seems to be doing this in a fairly rational manner and certainly doesn’t sound like one of the “Ugly Americans” who deserve a kick in the ass to wake them up from their Fantasy Land adventure.

Here’s some key points that I got from this guy’s post:

1. He’s been South 5 times, 3 times to Peru

2. He’s in Spanish classes and making a genuine effort to learn the language

3. He went with the attitude that this trip was for a vacation and he had backup plans

4. She speaks English

5. They have been corresponding and communicating for a year and a half

6. He met her family and spent time with them in her home town

Isn’t this guy doing most of what the “experts” are always advising the new guys to do? What is he supposed to do to get your approval? Should he stay home until he is fluent in Spanish with translator certification? Should he continue writing and communicating with her for another 5-10 years? Should he get her drunk and force her to have sex with him so he can see if he likes it? :-)

So he fell in love with a woman that he has known for over a year and a half and they are engaged to be married. Now they can concentrate exclusively on each other to be sure about their commitment BEFORE they are married. He didn’t marry her on the spot while he was there, did he? He didn’t sign over his house and car, did he? They are ENGAGED and he spent a measly hundred bucks for a ring.

I don’t understand what you expect of this guy Heat. Can’t you cut him some slack and save your energy for attacking the REAL bozos and the Democrats? OOPS! Sorry about that guys :-)

Peace,

Ray

[Heat]

... in response to What mistake?, posted by Ray on Dec 5, 2005

So he fell in love with a woman that he has known for over a year and a half and they are engaged to be married[[

Ahhh..... I may be wrong Ray but I read that he has know her for about a week.  I do not call writing and mumbling in broken Spanish and English on the phone really knowing each other.

I can tell you after living down in south America for many years that a good girl would never stay the night in a hotel with some strange gringo.

For her to do that means that she is a low class women IMHO.

I say she is a bad girl and he is way too quick about getting engaged.

But you are right he can  just walk away.

I would run from this bad girl.

Peace to you my friend.

[Ray]

... in response to She spent the night with a stranger?, posted by Heat on Dec 6, 2005

Heat,

I think you need to back down on this one buddy. Criticizing a guy for not following your rules is one thing, but I think insulting his fiancée is out of line. “Low class woman”? “Bad girl”?

Come on Heat, Rex and his fiancée are not the enemy here…

Ray

[mudd]

... in response to wait a secound.........................., posted by Heat on Dec 4, 2005

yep, another race car driver of at 180 mph. now would you get engaged to a girl here within a week? and what kind of girl with any clue would say yes?  writing for over a year is a good start, but maybe novia would be better.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: wait a secound........................., posted by mudd on Dec 4, 2005

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I had only been writing my wife for two months before we met for the first time. During that meeting we became engaged and three months later we were married. It's been over two years and it is the best thing I ever did. Yes, you should keep your eyes open and watch what you're doing but when you've found a good thing, grab it. There is something to be said for going slow but sometimes you just know what you've got. I knew what I had and I still know what I have. The hottest chick in the universe.

[mudd]

... in response to Why not?, posted by utopiacowboy on Dec 4, 2005

Your story is the exception, how many guys do you think got engaged within a week, got married soon after and are now divorced, lots. Most, you will never hear the story because they feel stupid or ashamed for getting burned or  poor judgment and or thinking with the little head instead of the big head. their are exceptions, but not many.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Why not?, posted by mudd on Dec 4, 2005

Before I started communicating my wife, I had been corresponding with a Mexicana and I met her in Mexico for a long weekend. We had a good time together but I wasn't sure. We corresponded for another six weeks or so and I met her a second time. There was a lot that I liked about her but I wasn't absolutely sold on her. I needed to be sure that I was doing the right thing so that's why I met her the second time. After the second time I was sure that even though I really liked her, she just wasn't the one for me. So, in this case, I did exercise caution and went slowly to be sure I was making the right decision. With my wife, it just wasn't like that at all. I couldn't imagine a life without her and I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. So it depends.

[Spanky]

... in response to Why not?, posted by utopiacowboy on Dec 4, 2005

got any pics? you may have settled for the second hottest CITU (-:

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Why not?, posted by Spanky on Dec 4, 2005

When she is old and gray, my wife will still be the hottest chick in the universe. She just does it for me and I can't get enough of her.

[mudd]

... in response to Not to me, Senor, posted by utopiacowboy on Dec 4, 2005

Once in a great while, you meet a girl who just "does it for you" in every way, looks, personality, heart, soul ECT.

If you’re lucky, you get the chance to date her, and if you’re extremely lucky, you marry her. That my friend is what love is all about. You are truly lucky if you found the one that does it  for you.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Why not?, posted by Spanky on Dec 4, 2005

When she is old and gray, my wife will still be the hottest chick in the universe. She just does it for me and I can't get enough of her.

[WS244]

... in response to Re: wait a secound........................., posted by mudd on Dec 4, 2005

With that kind of statement from a 37 year old, i'd say there is a sense  of hope in the younger generation hope afterall.

[mudd]

... in response to Re: Re: wait a secound....................., posted by WS244 on Dec 4, 2005

Probably not :-)  I was like RexB when I 1st started this mess years ago, met a Colombian, rushed it before I found out what she was really like. got a good lesson in how Colombian girls can keep things hidden for awhile, but it all comes out eventually. So now, a few years older and hopefully wiser, I won’t make the same mistake again.

[WS244]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: wait a secound................., posted by mudd on Dec 4, 2005

The "spin" is women are different in other countries, in reality women are women, the only difference being  most of these women have a real  incentive to "spin" the gringos in to a better life for themselves and their kids.