Personal Stats

[mackyinc]

I have read the stats from the goverment on divorce rates, but does anyone have any sense of what is the success rate of marriages to to women from Columbia. I am thinking maybe people who have used the board for a nuber of yaers or tour operators. I am very interested but a little gun shy, I have been married twice to american women.

[Bob S]

... in response to Personal Stats, posted by mackyinc on Nov 21, 2005

Not easy to track down such numbers.  Here is a rough sampling of various countries, but I don't see too many Latin American coutries listed (just a few).
http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsWorld.shtml
One can reasonably assume that countries closely related by culture and geography probably have similar rates.
And different numbers here:
http://www.aneki.com/divorce.html
http://www.article-dir.com/dir/16/115/Divorce-country-by-country.html
From http://www.divorcereform.org/cor.html :
"There are no reliable statistics on interracial divorces"

Of some personal interest to myself and other lurkers from the Asian board:
"Asian families stay together" from http://www.divorcereform.org/mel/rasian.html
And more on Asian-American rates of marriage to non-Asians:
http://www.asian-nation.org/interracial.shtml
(which toward the end has some usual PC nonsense about how evil Whitey is raping these pureblood innocent Asian girls by marrying them yadda yadda yadda.)

Anyway, that's all I could find this morning.  Not much help, really.  I'd say, even if you split the difference between Latin Am. divorce rates and N. American divorce rates and figure that's your chance, it's still better than a purely N. American chance of a happy lasting marriage.

[Ray]

... in response to Stats, posted by Bob S on Nov 22, 2005

Hi Bob,

The U.S. Census Bureau publishes some divorce statistics and comparisons with some other countries. Patrick has listed some of their results on Planet-Love along with statistics from some other sources, but they may be a little difficult to find because he has them buried. I ran across this by accident a while back. The charts are broken down by region.

http://www.planet-love.com/faq/maritalstatus/latin/
http://www.planet-love.com/faq/maritalstatus/russian/
http://www.planet-love.com/faq/maritalstatus/caribbean/
http://www.planet-love.com/faq/maritalstatus/asian/
http://www.planet-love.com/faq/maritalstatus/african/

Ray

[oakham]

... in response to Personal Stats, posted by mackyinc on Nov 21, 2005

divorce is high....don't kid yourself......talk to 10 guys who married latinas from any latin country and you'll see at least 5 out of the 10 are divorced....and of the ones still married 2 of 5 unhappy....smell the coffee...divorce is high here and in latin america and europe and russia and philipines....its worldwide phenomenon.... sign of the times

[littlebhuddha]

... in response to Re: Personal Stats, posted by oakham on Nov 21, 2005

I know a total of 8 gringo-colombiana couples that have been married over 2 years. Of the 8 only one relationship has ended in divorce. However they were married for 9 years. I wouldn't consider that unsucessful. Besides it was the gringo's fault. One other couple is having problems. I doubt they will make it. They have been married 2 years and there is a very large age difference. I have been married for two of the happiest years of my life. Two of the other couples have been married over 15 years. With the two exceptions noted above everybody is very much in love and very happy. To be sure there are ups and downs but that is normal. I do believe that with latinas there is a reluctance to resort to divorce whereas with gringas it is "the morning after pill." A common thread among the sucessful marriages is the reason for the marriage: true love. With one exception these guys didn't go chasing the Barbies at least not after they decided to get serious about finding a life long partner. With one exception they all had engagements of a year or longer; the one exception being me. I knew my wife for 5 days when I proposed; not something I would recommend. I  knew exactly what I was looking for and I had some incredible luck in finding everything I was looking for after only a few days. I don't know the numbers on divorce among colombo-gringo marriages but I would be amazed if it was greater than 25-30%

[Hoda]

... in response to Re: Personal Stats, posted by oakham on Nov 21, 2005


Because they are way out of whack...with the personal stats I can post!

[Ray]

... in response to Re: Personal Stats, posted by oakham on Nov 21, 2005

"...divorce is high here and in latin america and europe and russia and philipines"

With all due respect, I think perhaps you pulled those “facts” out of your arse. If you look at the real statistics, I’m sure that you will find that many of the countries in the areas you mentioned have MUCH lower divorce rates than the U.S. does.

And BTW, there is no divorce in the Philippines :-)

Ray

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Personal Stats, posted by oakham on Nov 21, 2005

Let's see: 5 out of 10 divorced and 2 of the remaining 5 unhappy. So does that leave 2 of the remaining 3 neutral and 1 of the 3 happy? I've been married just over two years and we are extremely happy. I would say that there are a few other happy couples here as well.

[Hoda]

... in response to What an optimist., posted by utopiacowboy on Nov 22, 2005


We're going on three plus years of marriage. Let's not forget almost 2 years of dating/engagement :-)

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Personal Stats, posted by mackyinc on Nov 21, 2005

Immigration attorney Gary Bala posted some empirical information which, I believe, was from his client base.  You may be able to find it on his website.  Try www.GaryBala.com.

[Patrick]

... in response to Personal Stats, posted by mackyinc on Nov 21, 2005

I don't think anyone can provide any meaningful statistics on success rates for this.   The best approach is to remain skeptical and take a "vacation" to somewhere in Latin America with no intentions other than NOT getting married or engaged.  Get your feet wet that way, then start contemplating whether you want to do this or not.

In my case, it took me probably a year to convince myself I would be willing to marry this way, then another year to find my wife.

You should immediately sign up for Spanish 101 (5 units) at Columbus State Community College.  You'll learn some Spanish and perhaps something about Latin American culture.

http://www.cscc.edu/DOCS/SPANDES.HTM

[zack]

... in response to Personal Stats, posted by mackyinc on Nov 21, 2005

[This message has been edited by zack]

The foreign bride concept is too new to be studied and compared fairly. I don't know if anyone is keeping record of this but the general feeling is that marriages to Colombian women have a higher success rate. I highly doubt the divorce rate is higher than the 60% divorce rate here in America. When you include those marriages that result in separation but not divorce, the rate increases to 66%.

Just FYI- I usually don't care about spelling but don't misspell "Colombia". Some people will tar and feather you for that here

[Bueller]

... in response to Re: Personal Stats, posted by zack on Nov 21, 2005

When I was in Medellín, I passed by a shop that sold commercial coffee urns and other things. On some of the items they sold was painted the word "Columbia". I even took a picture to prove that sometimes even Columbians-- er, Colombians, spell it "Columbia".

[zack]

... in response to Not so fast  :-), posted by Bueller on Nov 21, 2005

[This message has been edited by zack]

That's news to me. I've never seen it spelled that way before.

[JaySlo]

... in response to Re: Not so fast  :-), posted by zack on Nov 21, 2005

It is Colombia, and it is possible to find an ignorant person making a mistake. I haven't seen it spelled any other way either.