My Trip Report (long read)

[Dan Las Vegas]

... in response to Re: My Trip Report   (long read), posted by jim c on Nov 26, 2005

Great Post jim!!! I needed a good laugh today. Sounds like life is good in Cartagena.

Dan

[WS244]

... in response to Re: My Trip Report   (long read), posted by jim c on Nov 26, 2005

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Actually both chiquita's were doing "the woman's test" with the good old excuse of going to the mans room to see if he would make a pass at her.  This one move identifies her whole game plan, attack or retreat.  

Most men go south for a partner, but unfortuneately equate looks and sex to a partner, so it is no surprise  there are so many failures, both before and after the fact.

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: Re: My Trip Report   (long read), posted by WS244 on Nov 26, 2005

women are smart and are always testing men.
JK

[colgre]

... in response to Re: My Trip Report   (long read), posted by jim c on Nov 26, 2005

How many times have we seen this exact same pattern and it always has the same ending...

[Montrealer]

... in response to Re: My Trip Report   (long read), posted by jim c on Nov 26, 2005

Wow, I think someones a bit bitter and at the age of 61 needs to move out of his moms basement and stop playing video games.

Funny post none-the-less.

[jim c]

... in response to Re: Re: My Trip Report   (long read), posted by Montrealer on Nov 26, 2005

Hi Clone

  Actually I am living in my Penthouse on the ocean in Cartagena. I spend most of my days restoring the other three Houses I own in the historic district of the walled city. I must confess though that I often play Zelda with my 20 year old secretary who adores the game  (but not in the basement).

   I am glad you can at least appreciate the humor in my post. That was my intention. Of course everyones situation is different and I am sure that like the Brit I met who proposed three days after meeting a Calena you are an adult and know what you want. Enjoy the plaudits of the confused and desperate.  Your actions must be correct otherwise their perceptions would be incorrect. The fate of those who ignore history,is to repeat it.

   It takes only a little self control to learn about another person and create bonds of affection based on who that person really is. NOT who you want them to be. This board is full of guys who have moved too fast. (myself included) Take a little advice. It is better to be safe than sorry.  The Cartagena Hooker (formerly known as the grump)jimc

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: My Trip Report   (long read), posted by Montrealer on Nov 26, 2005

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I think I violated every rule in the PL book but here I am two years later, still married to the woman of my dreams. You have to trust your own instincts because you're the one who is going to have to deal with the consequences, not the PL posters. In my case I was right to trust my wife because she has time and time again proved her honesty and trustworthiness to me. Don't let the negativity get you down, you seem like a sensible guy.

[Jamie]

... in response to Not everyone, posted by utopiacowboy on Nov 26, 2005

I bet by 80 you’ll be divorced smart man

[jediknight]

... in response to Re: Re: My Trip Report   (long read), posted by Montrealer on Nov 26, 2005

montrealer,no one wants to rain on your parade but even though some of the posts and advice here may seem harsh, cynical at times, the reasons are to make you aware that guys here have seen many guys get taken advantage of by women all because they rushed into it and gave too much in the beginning.

no one is saying that is the case with you because we don't know the both of you but at the very least what these posts hope to do is make you think, maybe even slow you down a little. many times guys fly down with such enthusiasm that they don't see things clearly. for whatever reason they put pressure on themselves to find someone on the first trip thinking that if they return empty handed they have failed. believe it or not we are on your side and don't want to see you go through what many others have gone through as far as being taken, unfortunately it happens. there is no formula to this process, everyone will proceed differently and what works for me or others may or may not work for you. bottom line is, proceed with caution. good luck
JK

[Montrealer]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: My Trip Report   (long read), posted by jediknight on Nov 26, 2005

Thanks for your words.  I realize that different things work for different people.  Trust me when I say that I am proceeding with caution.  I went down with no expectations but with much hope.

As far as the debit card, I only left it because everything seemed to be going great, and because of what people on this board suggested.  I figured it would be a worthwhile test considering what people have warned me and others about on this forum.  And just to let you know, she has yet to use it.  She took a babysitting job so she could have money to buy things instead of using my money.

[soltero]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: My Trip Report   (long r..., posted by Montrealer on Nov 26, 2005

Many here through no (or some) fault of their own are a little bitter and rightly so. Maybe "realistic" with a lean toward the negative. Alot of this is just time and chance whether they care to admit it or not. Much of that advice that may appear bitter is just experience, but it doesn't have to be yours. Listen to it, but don't let it suck the air out of your hope. Good luck, and I hope you have found what we are all looking for.

[soltero]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: My Trip Report   (long read), posted by jediknight on Nov 26, 2005

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Fair and impartial food for thought...Excellent advice, Obi-Wan...

[Dan Las Vegas]

... in response to My Trip Report   (long read), posted by Montrealer on Nov 24, 2005

great post!!!  Good luck with your novia

Dan

[fathertime]

... in response to My Trip Report   (long read), posted by Montrealer on Nov 24, 2005

I found your report inspiring and it shows again how crucial knowing spanish is.  Thanks for all the details and pics.  
Buen Suerte
Fathertime

[jediknight]

... in response to My Trip Report   (long read), posted by Montrealer on Nov 24, 2005

the pictures are great. my fav is the "more content look" she is cute and you both look happy, good for you.
hi fives all around.

thanks for sharing your experience, this should inspire those that haven't traveled to colombia. btw, i think you mentioned that you are getting a divorce from a latina, is this correct? and is this how you learned spanish or did you go a different route?

also, did you guys discuss your previous marriage and why it didn't work? also, did she tell you why things didn't work with her ex after 5 years? perhaps age had something to do with it but i'm curious if it was the usual story of him cheating on her. anyway good luck
JK