When to stop using an agency

[Montrealer]

So I'm a newbie going to BAQ for the first time.  I have signed up with an agency for service.  www.latin-wife.com  and all I can say is good things about them and there service.  After using there services for the past month, I have established a good line of communication with 4 women with whom I email almost daily, chat on MSN regularly, and speak to on phone about 1-2 times a week.

Now I am going to BAQ for the first time in a couple weeks and wonder if I need the agencies help anymore.  Since I have no intention of doing group dates, do not need there translator services nor do I want to meet any other women really.  Do I need to stay in touch with them once I arrive.  Are there any other services that I should keep tham around for.

And I know what some of you pros are going to say.  Its your first time going.  I should meet as many women as possible.  But I do not wish to meet so many women that I forget thier names.  And then if I do like them, only I will only have a chance to go on a few dates with them.  I would much rather devote my time to a few women, and risk the chance of leaving empty handed.

So to you pros, can you recomend any reason to continue using services offered by the agency if I have made my choices as to whom I wish to develop a relationship with.

Quick facts about me:  27 years old, divorced, 1 kid not living with me, serious about a relationship and marriage.

[Spanky]

... in response to When to stop using an agency, posted by Montrealer on Oct 23, 2005

[This message has been edited by Spanky]

wow! 27??? you've got to be the youngest dude here. At 27 i wasn't even thinking about marriage. Have these women seen you? like a photo or on webcam? If you're an average Joe or better like say,a younger Jack Nicholson, than 4 women will be enough. I wouldn't bother buying any more time with online agencies now.  If, however, you look more like a Danny Devito, then Baq's Best agency would need to become a frequent stop. They are one block from El Prado hotel.

[Montrealer]

... in response to Young Man!  Listen up!, posted by Spanky on Oct 24, 2005

Well spankster, these women have seen photos of me.  I attached 4 photos to my profile taken the same day I sent my profile (about a month ago).  I signed up for www.latin-wife.com's service called "discover latin women interested in you" and received a quick response from about 20 women.  Some stated they did not have an intrest in me, and I assume that was because of me saying divorced, with kid and a smoker.  It threw up red flags for some.  But about 15 of those 20 replied positively, then it allowed me to be more selective as to which ones I wanted to know better.  And to prove to you how serious I am about commitment and the quality (brains and beauty) of woman I seek, I will tell you that one of them is even older than me.

Some people don't just look at marriage as something to pass the time Spanky, but some people see it as a commitment.  Even though I hope to find my girl this trip and schedule our wedding by my next trip, I will only do so if I feel a strong bond and feel evey intention of spending the rest of my life with this person.  If I don't feel it, then I'll be more than happy waiting.

I'm only using a service as its the easiest way to meet latinas.  And to tell you I love latinas.  And plus I've got to save all the french women for Papi.

And the rush at my age is also because my dishes are piling up.  J/K

I talk too much.

[papi]

... in response to Re: Listening with all 3 ears, posted by Montrealer on Oct 25, 2005

I have met a lot of guys who connected on the first trip – call it beginners luck.  Don’t listen to all this talk about it being necessary to take things slow.  However, it is not a bad suggestion for that matter either.  Marriage is a longterm commitment and that initial puppy love can change once you start living together.  My thoughts would be to bring her to Canada and live together before tying the knot but that is your call.  Still, I really think you are making a big mistake giving up on local women so soon and at such a young age.  There are some good ladies in Canada – give it some thought.  We will be here in 5 to 10 years if all else fails

[Calipro]

... in response to Young Man!  Listen up!, posted by Spanky on Oct 24, 2005

Spanky Devito hehehe!!!

Who says recounting ones anecdotal experiances has little value. The're good for a laugh. LOL !!!

[papi]

... in response to Young Man!  Listen up!, posted by Spanky on Oct 24, 2005

i am a fan of BB too even though they are not the most professional outfit in Colombia, they get a ton of chicas but lots of flakes and no shows. He has gotten great advice here - i never had a clue when I started. However, the best advice he got came from me - stay home and date more Frenchies and comeback in 5-10 years if all else fails or maybe take a vacation to Cuba (being that he can go from Canada)

[caslug]

... in response to When to stop using an agency, posted by Montrealer on Oct 23, 2005

i think if you're using agencies to get emails, then it's an expensive way of getting them(you can use the standard internet dating sites for $10/month and write to hundreds/thousands) you response rate will be anywhere between 10-30%.  Also, i think an added benefit is that the gals on the regular dating sites are not looking for foreigners(they're looking for ANY guy).  Being a foreigner to them is a bonus NOT a requirement.  I had tremendous success with the dating sites.  

BUT i do see the benefit of the introduction sites because you get to MEET them in person easier.  I remember when i used LWC in my trip(to get dates) i've met 10 girls/date in 5 days.  Great way to meet a many in a short time, it was for me worth $35/day and that included the apartment.  While when i use the internet sites i get maybe 10 girls per city per trip(2-3 week average).  Also, if you're spanish is good and you're somewhat outgoing, you'll find you'll meet one girl per week just walk in around or going to places on your own.  of course if you're locked down with a date 24/7 then you won't experience this.  

KEEP in mind that many girls(starting at 18 and up) in COL have kids.  NOT all but many, especially if they're from a middle class or below social level.  So if you don't want a girl with kids, you should ask that right away, most will tell you when you ask who do you live with.  typically answer, my mom, my brother and my daughter/son.

[papi]

... in response to When to stop using an agency, posted by Montrealer on Oct 23, 2005


Here is my advice, if things dont pan out with your dates:

1. I assume you purchased email addresses from Jamie at an affordable rate.  Since he gets new girls, I would review his site before your trip to see if there are any other women that catch your eye.  If so, contact Jamie and negotiate an appointment rather than the pricier tour option.  I believe on his website, he lists $75 for the first appointment and $35 thereafter and can meet you at your hotel with the ladies.

2. If your dates do not float your boat, go to www.barranquillasbest.com but do NOT contact them in the US.  Go visit their offices with $100-$200US and you should be able to negotiate meeting several ladies, it is Latin America and they will deal if you show them green.  You will need to go through the books because they get lots of new ladies weekly and not all are on the site.  I can get you contact info in Colombia, which i dont believe is listed.  

3. Go to the mall, gym or clubs

[JimmySTLOUIS]

... in response to When to stop using an agency, posted by Montrealer on Oct 23, 2005

I only used an agency to get the e-mails and that was it.
So I am no agency expert at all.

I think so far you are on the right track. Just hang loose and see how it goes. Just remember no matter how bad (or good) you are with the AW - you WILL find sucess in SA.

Dont rush into anything. My first trip I went only to see one girl who is now my wife. I still made 4-5 trips before I asked her to marry me.

Go into this with your eyes open and have some fun too!

TE AMO PERU!!!!

jim

[pablo]

... in response to When to stop using an agency, posted by Montrealer on Oct 23, 2005

Hi, this is Bueller posting from Pablo's Place.

 If you are a newbie going for the first time, I think you should assume that you WILL leave empty-handed unless something really unusual happens.

 You're 27 and apparently speak Spanish, so you have time on your side and can be more independent. If it were me, I'd go in to at least say hi to the agency folks, then go see if there is any real in-person chemistry with your four lady friends (be prepared for a letdown). It can't hurt to at least have the agency folks in your corner if you've never visited before, as long as they don't try to make a captive out of you.

 If things don't pan out with your lady friends, you might take a look around and see how you like BAQ, and if all things being equal it's the place you want to return to every year to visit when you're married. I think it's important to find a city and culture that you can really love and get into, if you're going to be married to someone from there. Of course, if you get "bolted" first, you won't care where she's from. My impression of Medellin so far is that I absolutely would look forward to returning regularly if I married someone from here, though I still want to check out Manizales, Armenia and Bucaramanga.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: When to stop using an agency, posted by pablo on Oct 23, 2005

I agree that it is a plus if you like the city your wife is from. My soon to be Ex is from cali,and for a long time was the only city i knew and thought it was just ok then. After going to many other cities i would really only go back to cali to see my good friend Pete as there are places i like a lot better in colombia. I too really like Medellin, but being a coastal guy, that is a turnoff for me not having the beach. Barranquilla is a nice city if you like it hot, and i do. I am a no frills type guy (JIMMY BUFFETT) style and so the coastal region relally puts me in a nice frame of mind. But i agree that if you like your girls city, you will enjoy her family, ect, much more.

[FanMan]

... in response to When to stop using an agency, posted by Montrealer on Oct 23, 2005

Just out of curiosity, what made you choose the city of Barranquilla?

[Montrealer]

... in response to Re: When to stop using an agency......Qu..., posted by FanMan on Oct 23, 2005

I did a google search for similar agencies, and I liked the look of the site I found the best (latin-wife.com), as well as the women from there seemed more beautiful and much more sincere, at least to my tastes, than other cities.

[Joeylikey]

... in response to When to stop using an agency, posted by Montrealer on Oct 23, 2005

Have fun on your own. Agencies are O.K. but if you feel comfortable on youw own then go for it. Agencies are only good for a couple of times.