Money Honey

[Spanky]

[This message has been edited by Spanky]

There is this peculiar money thing going on with my wife. As any other gringo here with a stateside bride, I have a Colombian file full of receipts: "Visa", "Barranquilla Boda", "Western Union money transfers", "Dentista"...all of which matters not to her. I don't think she has any idea. I'm not sure how it translates, but i have this idea that my wife thinks i'm cheap.  

When she finally arrived last June, we received several belated gifts from my large family. One was a $200 Target gift card from a brother. My wife finally used it last night. She bought a wonderful bathroom decor set. For four full months she carried this thing around. It was HERS. I'm no expert but i thought that wedding gifts had a dual ownership. Maybe i'm wrong. One day last month we were in Targets. I bought a "MASH' 6th season" CD Set. She wanted me to use her gift card and give her the $35 in cash, but she then changed her mind. I don't think she wanted to sell shares to this coveted card.

My wife got a new summer wardrobe during her first month here. We are working on the fall line now. I give her money to go shopping with one sister-in-law. My wife doesn't ask for much, but she has expensive tastes. We just bought a new house this month. We looked at plenty. Her favorite was $50K more then the second most expensive house we viewed. She seems attracted to every set of the most expensive livingroom furniture in each store we shop even before she becomes aware of the prices.

I own two small businesses. My wife helps with each. She cleans and organizes the house very well. She still wants to get a job. The very expensive furniture set i bought worried her. She felt i spent too much.  Whatever i give her she doesn't see as hers. Maybe one day i'll show her my Colombia file so she can get an idea of what's been invested in our relationship.

This morning she filed her "Target" receipt into her own private slot. When i asked what that was she remarked: "Its mine; not yours-ok?".

[Calipro]

... in response to Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

Rein in your wife's crazy spending and quit letting her walk all over you.

I would be nice if the guys than have actually brought a woman here could help the others out by giving good advice instead just being a poster child of what NOT to do in a latin-american relationship.

[Spanky]

... in response to Quit being a door matt......., posted by Calipro on Oct 17, 2005

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Wow! what do we have here? the site HERO? (-: and look at clones he has like the one below clinging onto his every word. It looks like our hero, Caliahole, is now infatuated with Spanky! apparently he is not used to a little confrontation. Mommy did not love him, daddy often reprimanded him, and teacher historically scolded him. Tsk! tsk! Now it is I, Spanky who must guide young fry through this fine message board with literal aspects of spelling and comprehension. The post wasn't about my wife's "spending problems" at all (4 months to spend her $200 gift card) dear amigo, but rather that her financial outlook is a little peculiar. What someone needs to point out to Caliahole is that we are all grown men here. In life, there are problems. Every little mishap in a relationship is not necessarily a red flag for little fry to chime in with his TV makeover logic and point out the friggin' obvious.  Cierto hombres?

[Calipro]

... in response to Re to: Superhero Caliahole, posted by Spanky on Oct 17, 2005

Hey I´m not trying to be confrontation.

You're the one calling me an a-hole and I wasn't even talking to. I understand that the things I said about giving women money has touched a nerve with you. But it's about time that you wise up.

I don't dislike you Spanky hell I don't even know you. But, you and I both know that any man that calls another man names over the internet he's a punk. It's like the guy flipping you off while he is driving away. He's a pussy plain and simple. But, I don't have to tell you that.

Personally I think your post was a cry for help and I'm here to give you a badly needed dose of tuff love brother.

Quit letting your old lady rule the roost. Get some backbone and quit letting her use you as a money bag.

Now get back there and straighten your old lady out. If you keep it up, the word will get out that we gringos are nothing but a bunch of pussy whipped bastards.

So just chill out Spanky. I can see you have problems and I don't want to kick you when you are down.

[papi]

... in response to Quit being a door matt......., posted by Calipro on Oct 17, 2005

CP, you should write a How To book on Cali. seriously! call it:

CaliPro's Guide To Cali - Finding Love in Latin America!

Have sections on MOB, immigration, hotels, safety, agencies, shopping malls, restaurants, etc, etc. I will be happy to assist as long as you agree to dedicate the book to El Papi..hehe. I think the 2 gringos wrote a book - maybe something fresh on cali would be a hit and probably beats the agency business. but dont look at me for a sponsor - the trust fund ran dry..haha and I have had my fill of romance businesses

[Beattledog]

... in response to Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

Purchase her a goat so that she can mow the lawn, a mule for transportation, a clothesline for a clothes dryer, a washboard to wash the clothes, , tiller for the garden, seeds to plant the garden, etc.

Beattledog

[papi]

... in response to Re: Money Honey, posted by Beattledog on Oct 16, 2005

my ex-novia was happy when i brought home a chicken yet alas i was making good money back then and spoiled her but she is still a good kid. i think she married here - she refused to go back to cali

[Calipro]

... in response to Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

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You didn't follow rule number one.

Did you?  DID YOU?

I knew it when you gave your pithy response (a-hole) to a post I made about giving women cash before you actually bed them.

The problem is you paid to much for it right from the very start and now you are trapped in a long lease in a high rent district.

There are two courses of action. Run like hell and let the courts come after you for the rest of the least payments until someone else leases it. Or get a second job and hang on for dear life until the lease expires. Anyway you look at it you are probably going to have to move.

Anyway we´re sorry we got to you to late. There is only so much us credit counslers can do.

OH I almost forgot! You could try and sublease.

Anybody here want to take over payments?

What does your wife look like? I hear Papi is in the market for a model type. hehehe!!

[Spanky]

... in response to Let me guess........, posted by Calipro on Oct 16, 2005

Calia-hole assumes i married early i guess. He is babbling about some lease???  I don't know how he arrives at his facts, but isn't it great having a fellow member to lean on for advice in style, romance, and finance...friggin'Ricky Martin and Alan Greenspan all rolled into one?

I see you didn't learn from your buddy Papi's spelling errors either. Its "too" not "to". Also, try "counselors" vs "counslers".

[Calipro]

... in response to Re: yeah...guess away , posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

You're not the only one on this board that has woman problems.

We already determined that being a good speller was in no way an indicator of true intellegence (on another board).

And now we find out that being a good speller doesn't preclude you from having marital problems either. LOL !!!

OK! OK!

You could probably beat me in a game of scrabble. What a nerd....hehehe !!!!

[papi]

... in response to Re: yeah...guess away , posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

Spankster, dont go bringing me into your issues with CP. I feel that he has a good handle on the project - I dont know you except that you have an issue with your wife thinking you are cheap. cheers

[Brazilophile]

... in response to Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

My former Calena novia was very similar.  She had no conception of how to handle money. She spent until her money ran out.  Budgeting, saving, prioritizing were completely foreign to her.  I showed her comparison shopping (BEFORE buying) and she said she had never known about that.  None of her friends or family had ever compared the price of something in different stores in order to get the best bargain.  She also had no inkling of how her behavior and decisions imposed costs on me.  She seemed to be aware of or concerned with only herself.  Her lack of awareness of the monetary consequences of her decisions was a factor in my deciding to end our relationship.

My current noiva is as cost conscious as I am.  

"Whatever i give her she doesn't see as hers."

I think that is an EXCELLENT sign!  It means that she sees her ownership in your house and relationship coming fom the effort she puts into it and not from entitlement.  That is an outstanding attitude to have in a spouse!

[Spanky]

... in response to Re: Money Honey, posted by Brazilophile on Oct 16, 2005

Iteresting observation. My sister-in-law is a great teacher in the ways of bargain shopping.

[Snoopy]

... in response to Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005


There you go: dump you wife and marry her sister.

JUST JOKING!!!!

Peace.

[CelticUrge]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by Snoopy on Oct 16, 2005

Well, he started out in the right family, just needed to fine tune and make a move on the sister.