Money Honey

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

Get used to it. My wife once told me her money was hers and my money was hers, Many Latin women i have talked to think this way. I do not accept that in my life anymore  but i suppose you need to accept it. Good Luck

[Heat]

... in response to Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

Remember this.  

Whats yours is mine and what is mine is still mine.

That is how a women thinks.

[soltero]

... in response to Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

Don't take this the wrong way, but that comes from not having had much before. She also probably had siblings or other kids in the household with which she had to share items or received hand-me-downs from. Now that she is in a place where she can have her own. She wants to. This may not lead to anything more. She may even insist that she have something that is hers that you don't touch, like a security box or something else with a lock on it or claim a bathroom or space in the house as hers alone. Again, this might just come from having had to share everything she had or not having enough money to consider anything personal. It can get extreme, and if it does, look out, because she might be setting you up for that magical date when she plans on bailing. Don't shoot the messenger, it's always a possibility. There are two ways that you can handle it. Let her have her way until she feels comfortable that you aren't going to take anything from her or set boundaries and explain that you are in it together and you will not accepther hoarding anything because you do not do that with her. Depending on what is causing her to act that way, this can be a very touchy thing for her.

[typher]

... in response to Re: Money Honey, posted by soltero on Oct 16, 2005

I have experienced a little of the same problem with my new wife. I agree with Soltero that they have had to share with their family and have had very little of their own. For me, I want my wife to work so she can learn the value of a dollar and appreciate what I do more. There is nothing worse than a spoiled brat.

Typher

[JaySlo]

... in response to Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by typher on Oct 16, 2005

On the subject of money I'd have to give my wife an A. We view everythings as ours and have complete confidence in each other. She is now knowledgeable about interest rates and how they are calculated. It was funny because she thought I was paying too much interest on a home purchase. I had to pay it off quickly just to get her off my back.
In addition she is very aware of credit and credit scores. I am just in constant amazement on how she is handling the money issue. I truly have a gem, the proverbial Total Package!
The biggest purchase she has made so far was a Movado watch for my birthday and I'm not talking entry level.
What really impressed me about her was that she knew she had alot to learn and trusted me to lead her right direction. I have done everything to strengthen her trust and I spoil her with personal things likes back rubs, flowers, chocolates, and little side trips on the spur of the moment. Disney really made an impression.
Here is the clincher that many miss..My wife is very strong willed in her beliefs. When she was adamant about things that I knew weren't good for life in the US, I didn't cave in and go along with her. She now says she is glad that I had the backbone to stand up to her when she was thinking in Colombian when she first arrived. Now she makes good decisions and we rarely have a disagreement.
I had a plan, I let her know what she would have to learn concerning money. That was a non negotiable. Now she is the best! I'm truly blessed.

[CelticUrge]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by JaySlo on Oct 16, 2005

If you had a plan it certainly shows you were thinking about more than just meeting someone. Congratluations on your success and finding someone who appreciates both yourself and your ability to plan ahead. Enjoy your time together.

[JaySlo]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by CelticUrge on Oct 16, 2005

Thank you. I have had my share of frogs along the way, so I really appreciate what I have.