Money Honey

[Spanky]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by CelticUrge on Oct 16, 2005

I'm talking about

[Patrick]

... in response to Re: Money Honey, posted by Brazilophile on Oct 16, 2005

I have sort of the opposite problem most people seem to have.  My wife's too cheap!  She'll spend two hours comparison shopping to save $5.  I dread shopping with her.   I also caught her a few days ago saving gift wrapping paper to re-use.  But all in all, I prefer her the way she is to having a professional shopper for a wife.

Perhaps Calipro is right in a sense about the guy paying too much from the start.  I'm not saying this was Spanky's problem, but guys who use money to attract a woman are going to have problems.  That's what a lot of guys do when they want a hottie way out of their league after they find out the offer of a green card doesn't impress her.

Now how many of you guys out there reeading this are going to  admit to showing off photos of your car and house?  The next step after the woman yawns at the photos is to take her shopping.

[valleydude]

... in response to Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by Patrick on Oct 16, 2005

I have never sent a picture of my car or anything else material to impress a girl, but there are a couple of exceptions to the rule.

When I was involved with the Venezuelan it used to drive me a little nuts because she would not take any of my money. I wasn't throwing it around, but I did want to send a couple of bucks for phone cards after I made a visit and things became serious. We had a "talk all you want" plan that was out of Venezuela and I brought down a prepaid VISA on my trip for her to use in order to help pay for it. The calling plan was 20 dollars a month and 6 months after we broke up it still had 40 dollars on it. She even sent me 100 dollars after the break up to pay for it.

After I began to get serious with her I did send a picture of where I live. I also sent a picture of my car at this time too. It was not to impress her, but just give her an idea of my everyday life. It was just kind of: "This is where I am when I call you and we talk" thingy. You know, give her a visual.

On the other hand, I have probably written to and called 100's of girls and have only sent money twice and I would do it again. For me, my limit is 100 dollars if I think I will really like the girl and really considering visiting her. I think it is the best test one can do. Let me say, I do not do this all the time, like I said, 2x without meeting first. Both times I really liked the girl. Once I said I would send 100 dollars. I sent $120. I checked it all out and it was legit. She needed a hundred and the extra 20 was to see what she did with it. I hoped she would be thankful for the extra and buy a phone card or two. I don't regret sending it at all and I got to see what was important to her.

The second time was very recent. I am talking to a girl and she calls me all the time on her dime. So much so, that I began thinking that I should send her a couple of bucks. I finally sent her a hundred bucks and I do not regret it. Besides that, I actually feel good about it. Quie honestly if a girl spends all her money calling me and things don't work out, I am going to feel bad. Now, if things don't work out when we meet, I am cool with it.

I am on the letter writting side of things and I think it is important in certain situations to let the girl know that you are serious about meeting her and this lets them know. "Rule #1" stuck in my mind at this point both times, and I seriously doubted doing this, but for us letter writters I think it is a good gauge. However; only after you have thought it all over and the end result is that it is something you want to do. The knowledge that you get about the girl afterwards is the reward. Do not expect anything except to learn about the girl in the experience and do it out of sincereity. It gives me a guage and that 100 dollars will save me what it costs in phone calls until I make the next trip and discover this in person. It also warrants whether or not she is worth the trip.

On a side note: I don't even mention where I live and talk about the things that I like. It kind of sucks that I have to watch this, but I do. They must think I am a totally boring guy with no life, but how can I say, "Yeah we went down to Hollywood last night" without these girls thinking glitz and glamour?

All in all, sending a couple of bucks is a good gauge for me if there is a possibility, because if she handles it well then I am not concerned about her jetting off with the guy in a Ferrari. If I was in another state I don't think I would do it because I can hold my own in about any other state, but SoCal is a totally different ballgame when it comes to cash.

Ok, I think I may have gotten off topic a few paragraphs ago.

V-Dude

[CelticUrge]

... in response to Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by Patrick on Oct 16, 2005

Patrick:

I've posted several times that photos are a great asset for conversations and getting to know someone, but the content makes a huge difference. Family, friends, trip to the store are GOOD. Large house, expensive car, boat or yacht, and expensive assets in general BAD. That invites exactly the same situation we went south to avoid. If you show it some, not all, will attempt to extract it, and you deserve the scam that you invited. Like offering "bait" to the hungry wolves.

[Snoopy]

... in response to Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by Patrick on Oct 16, 2005


"...you guys out there reeading this are going to admit to showing off photos of your car..."

I show them a photo of my LOADED SUV doing a "wheely", and they say, "Ay nooo."

http://www.kens-bikeworld.co.uk/assets/images/autogen/a_donkey.jpg

[Spanky]

... in response to Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by Patrick on Oct 16, 2005

I agree. Basing a relationship that relies on what you have instead of what you are inside is the beginning of the end.

[Calipro]

... in response to good call!, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

LOL !!!

[soltero]

... in response to Re: Money Honey, posted by Brazilophile on Oct 16, 2005

That's an excellent quality if she sees those things as "theirs" and not "his" and still wants her own. That is a very important distinction.

[stefang]

... in response to Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

"The thing that made me laugh out loud was the part where you would determine whether he should go back to Cali or head to the Phillipines. You sounded like a big-league scout telling a ball player if he had the stuff to go to the bigs or was destined for minor league ball in Modesto."

As CaliPro and Utopiacowboy pointed out below you wanted a big league Latina now you got to pay the price, she is the starting pitcher and expensive to keep otherwise plenty of other guys out there may offer a better price.

[Spanky]

... in response to Re: Money Honey, posted by stefang on Oct 16, 2005

That's a good point. Some women can be bought. My wife comes from a upper-middle class family (if this term translates into Colombia). Her father owns a furniture store/factory. She didn't live in wealth, but she got what she needed-private schools, college. She is constantly comparing our prices to Colombia's saying, "no lo creo how much they want for this!" She is always pointing out how much less things are in Colombia. She is much more then that though. She values family and her religion. She love me. I have no worries.

[Calipro]

... in response to Re: Re: Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

Keep telling yourself that Spanky! hehehe!!

We all know you are in trouble. Not because of your whining posts about how much your wife spends but because you get pissed when guys start talking about fools that attract women with their money. LOL!!!

[Gringo Loco]

... in response to Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

I think it is great! let her have some athority. After all you took her away from everything she had her whole life. Make her feel comfortable with the things what you have show her that they are also hers.

But make sure you share all aspects of the busines and finances with her so she knows this is no easy task and money doesn't grow trees.

The more you make her feel like she is a part of everything you have . The more she will share with you. If she doesn't then be open about how you feel. Ask her if she thinks you are cheap. Explain to her why you are sucessful.... for that reason exactly.

Good Luck!
And oh yeah! One more thing! Establish a little budget for this shopping spree! Don't want this to get outta hand.

Regards, Mike
www.yourlatinwife.com
mike@yourlatinwife.com

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Money Honey, posted by Gringo Loco on Oct 16, 2005

My wife screwd up her finances so much and it would cost me a lot of money in late fees, bank overdraft , ect. I bought her a used Jeep Cherokee and she complained for 2 months because i had the title in my name, that she wined so much i told her fine, i will put the car in your name, but it is now your responsability to handle everything about the car. Well, of course she did not factor in insurance, taxes, upkeep ect, that all these bills came due and she needed tires, oil changes and frion in the AC , well i said not my problem, its your car not mine, REMEMBER. She learned a hard and expensive lesson because she had to spend the money she worked for and was used to spending on crap, makeup, and toys that she had to spend it on the car. She now knows a little more the cost of things. I hated to get hardass with her, but some of these women do not understand anything else.

[papi]

... in response to Re: Money Honey, posted by Gringo Loco on Oct 16, 2005

When my first novia came to live with me in Michigan a few years back, she arrived with a couple pairs of jeans and some sandals, which are not going to fly in Detroit in February.  I spent an absolute fortune on her between clothes, medical, entertainment, family in Colombia, etc. etc., etc.  I did not keep a file – I don’t want to know what I spent but I don’t regret it either - I just wish that there had been more chemistry. It was too easy - she had a visa and i pulled the trigger

[doombug]

... in response to Money Honey, posted by Spanky on Oct 16, 2005

"Its mine; not yours-ok?"

Sounds like she's got our national anthem down pat--and so soon.