... in response to Okieman states nobody helped him!!, posted by Chris F on Oct 3, 2005It all depends on what the meaning of the "help" is! lol!
No! Nobody here helped him based on OKM's definition of help. Now that I know him better, I am not at all surprised he crashed and burned with Latinas. We have pointed out that ALL women, and especially Latinas, go for men who are assertive, confident, have direction in life, are self starters.
What did OKM show us here on PL? A man who can't crack a Spanish book on his own! He needs/wants 100+ other men to hold the book open for him, turn the pages for him, say the words for him, keep the light on the pages for him, wipe the sweat off his brow for him, HOLD HIS HANDS IN EVERYTHING and in the precise way that he thinks he needs his hands to be held!!! "My request for help didn't yield the desired response."!?!?!?!? Good Grief! "I feel more confident with you helping me."!?!?!?!? Double Good Grief!
I can just imagine how Latinas reacted to him. On my first trip I learned that Latinas are expecting us to be decisive in whether we are interested in pursuing them or not. It took me a while to get my mind into that framework since here in North Amnerica, AW punish us for being decisive, but eventually I did. Can you see how a Latina would feel at being interrogated about how she feels about him while he isn't saying anything about how he feels about her? We are the MEN!!! We state confidently how we feel about her, how we want our relationship to be, what our expectations are, what we are going to contribute in order to see that are expectations are realized; she can then accept or reject.
OKM seems to not only be on a different page than us, but in a competely different book altogether!