Ok guys, I decided a few days ago, after Ted correctly observed that lots of what was being said had nothing to do with latinas, we were just giving opinions on stuff like politics something I do, and even worse in my mind playing gotcha if someone seemed to be doing something stupid instead of being helpful.
So, I think, lets get back to talking about Calenas. I think the best way to do it is a series of posts with real stories of how guys including myself have screwed up proceeding to some stories of how guys have done it right in my opinion.
I even stated a post on my ex girlfriend of a year ago, trying to explain why she was so hard to read, it was that she really was or was trying to be what she purported to be most of the time, but then there was a big part that did not fit, which eventually emerged to kill the deal. I lost the post after 30 minutes, frustrated the hell out of me. But, as Soltero has told me, do it first on word, then post. You will never lose it plus you will have it there to use as part of that book I think you need to write. Thanks AMIGO, once again very good practical input. And if someone who knows you well thinks you have a book in you, well, it makes you think, he MIGHT be right. It’s ego inflating at least.
AND, I have a better idea of what to do right now. - STORIES IN PROGRESS – Things that are happening right now. We don't know how it will turn out yet. And we can ask questions mid-stream if we want, or more exciting, MAYBE WE CAN EVEN AFFECT THE OUTCOME if we come up with something useful. REAL TIME BOY MEETS GIRL IN COLOMBIA. SOUND INTERESTING? If you say no, I have to do a HODA on you. You are dead and stinking.
OK, the motivation. Two guys show up here last night. They will stay 10 days but one, my friend Charlie will do a side trip to Barranquilla for a few days to meet a woman in person he has been writing. I posted about that and I thought it was probably a mittake to do,now IO do not.
OK, I have know Charlie about 5.5 years, Ever since I first took my Calena ex back to San Jose and we started having get-togethers at my house every month or so with gringos, Colombiana wives, girlfriends, other friends, or anybody interested. Charlie’s story is unusual. I will brief it with to me he is a guy for whom a high stress big $$ lifestyle did not work and did not make him happy so he has chosen what I will call an "under the radar" lifestyle that I think does make him happy. But it is not as simple as with most of us. I get on guys. You can be here NEXT SATURDAY if you really wanted to. Who me? What about my job? Hey, take a vacation, a leave of absence with out pay. Quit, you could do that. Money? You probably waste more than you need to be here, You don't have the money? Borrow it. You will get in debt? Sell something. In short, you don't HAVE TO wait.. Once you ADMIT that you might take a shorter term approach, instead of waiting five years, or quitting next week, you might figure out how to be here in lets say, three months, IF you are SERIOUS. If not, you are doing mind f- - ks. The guy who lurks forever never gets his butt on a plane, always has a reason to not have what he wants now, and maybe dies never having lived his life. LIFE IS NOW. WE DO NOT KNOW HOW MUCH TIME WE HAVE. DON'T PUT OFF YOR HAPPINESS.
So Charlie, for whom it IS more difficult, lines up his ducks to get here. Then he is thrilled. We have been talking two weeks about him coming. He is soaring, It’s like somebody just let him out of jail, the self imposed jail of his chosen lifestyle, but a hard one to change. Making it THAT MUCH MORE EXCITING to change, it seems Charlie is like a kid in a candy store and he hasn't even got to the candy store yet, All he did was drive in from the airport in the rain last night and hang out four hours with us last night and he is thrilled to be here. So, with that attitude, you think he will have a good time. You better believe it.
He shows me the girl in Barranquilla on a web site. They have been writing, She writes a lot and is always anxious to hear from him. She is very pretty and looks very sweet and sincere. She is very anxious to meet him. I changed my mind, Go for it; it looks real good. And I am a guy who knocks writing because I have seen a lot of disappointment after the meeting, But I must admit a lot of success also. Jimmy St Louis, I thought he was setting himself up for a fall. Wrong! They are thrilled with each other, Seemingly happily married. Congratulations Jimmy! I have not posted much re you, because I am more Cali oriented, but I followed. You did well guy. Another friend of mine from San Jose, met a girl on the internet. He came to Cali and met, It worked, they have been married five years. They seem very happy.Charlie say ONCE you have DECIDED to come its OK to write,before that you are just jerking the girl around.A huge number o guys write and never come.In have heard stories of a girl getting mails from 100 guys and nobody ever coming here.Thats not an exclusive group.If she is even answering you she is probably new at it.
SO, I think we will get some good Charlie stories. He says I am so happy to just be here, even if nothing else happpens, How can he go wrong?
The other guy who came, Charlie’s friend, is even MORE interesting. This just could be really AMAZING. I will call him Ted. I don't want to intrude to where he would be recognized, at least not without his permission. He meets a girl last night that he had been mailing. It looks real good. It could be the one. Just like that, it COULD be that simple.
Here’s a little of the story. He has been here, several times before, He just broke up with a girl from here. He found the new girl on CALI VIP. OK, I need to clear something re Cali VIP. I have given Mike a bad time in the past, so I THINK I should be allowed to say some good things without being called a shill. Basically, I took someone else’s side of a story - a friend of mine who had a dispute with Mike. I do not know what the facts really are, but there are two sides to the story. I took one, and gave Mike a bad time.
I did just what I criticize others for doing here. I played gotcha with someone. Any bad rumors, I spread them. Negative story, I told it. It really is not like me to do that, if you know me, but I did. And of course Mike did not appreciate it and let me know he did not. When my friend Jesse met him he liked him, and knowing me for years was
amazed we could fight over things. It was so unlike me. That perhaps was the beginning of me taking another look at my behavior. When I heard Mike had found the woman he wanted to marry, exactly why he said he was doing this, I was truly happy for him, but didn't get around to apologizing and congratulating him until last week. Mike was very gracious about it. We will have lunch next week when he returns. Only one objection Mike, the lunch is on me. It’s always on you, and I am the one who owes you the lunch on this deal.
OK, I have said some good things on Cali Vip before. Like I love the house, I stayed there twenty-one days in 1999 and 2000. And now Mike has fixed it up a lot. He has added computers, refrigerators, and ac in every room. So, at $100 a night, which was what I paid in 1999, it’s an even better deal. AND, I thought that was good six years ago. You need to remember some things on costs. A hotel will charge you tax on the room rate. I think you will pay 12%. I think you will pay for laundry, phone calls, and probably get no or little food. I tell people that when I merely rent them a room. So, add to that the services of an agency, introductions, translations, and a good place to meet. I loved it because if the girl was late or did not show I could be lying by the pool or working out in the gym. I didn’t need to look at my watch in some office thinking, “Where is she?” It's ust much more comfortable. Even at my place agencies will send the girl over here to me guys. Remember, you pay the taxi. Be happy you didn't have to do the trip too. Expect to pay 3,000 to 10,000 pesos EACH way depending on where she lives. Don't be the cheap ass here. They cannot afford to pay for a taxi. OK, two other good things about Cali VIP. My girl friend was very impressed with the on-line English lessons they provide for their girls. As she was studying it, she kept saying, “Thank you Cali Vip.”
BUT, much more important, Ted, the guy I am telling you about, finds a girl on the Cali Vip exclusive gallery. Now I am not a big write advocate, but if you are going to do that, it a REAL PLUS if you have seen 50 pictures of her. At least you know what you are getting. In this case the girl looks even better. They are REALLY hitting it off,They both seem thrilled with each other.I am thinking it looks like there is a good chance here 2 people just found each other It could be trhast simple.I hasve seen it before but not for awhile.It seems most guy around here are not looking for a wife anymore,but mybe just to play. She just showed up here this morning with the cutest little girl. IT COULD BE that simple.
OK, I need to cook breakfast. I am it on the weekends.
This is fun. Reminds me how exited I was the first time I came here
I weill keep you posted on both of these guys,because I am exciterd for trhem.ASnd we can use somne good news.Sometimes we just don’t haerv the outcome.Guys quit posting after they find the right woman.
Pete
