Update

[paulw]

Hi Guys

Quick update. I´ve just met 3 girls today from the agency Amor De Cartagena in Plaza de Santo Domingo in the centre of Cartagena. They were ok except one. She sat there like a sack of potatoes and hardly said a word. She was very hard work but you have to take the bad with the good. I could not wait to get rid of her!

The girl I like the best is the waitress. We just had a conversation and she asked if they were all my girlfriends!! I told her the truth that I am looking for a girlfriend / wife in Colombia bla bla bla. I asked if she had a boyfriend e.t.c and she said no and I asked her for her number. She said she will give it me later after my fourth appointment as I had to tell her that I was meeting a fourth girl here today also!!

Later

[JaySlo]

... in response to Update, posted by paulw on Sep 12, 2005

Just be sure to let her know you still want to get to know her. Even if she says no, let her know you respect that but will not give up. Play your honesty card, you have been above board with her and let her know you will continue to do so. Most important is that you control the situation. If she feels she can make you wait NOW (or control you) without really knowing you, just think of the future my man. If she isn't ready to give you her number real soon, the word is proxima! Too many fish in the sea. You have to sing that last sentence!

[beenthere]

... in response to Update, posted by paulw on Sep 12, 2005

very curious as to why she wouldn't give you the number right then and there??  Hopefully she's not blowing you off, but maybe you shouldn't have told her you had another date at that same restaurant.  You should have called the girl and set it up somewhere else.  I doubt if the waitress really wants to see you courting yet ANOTHER girl in front of her, and even worse with her waiting on you...I'd wager to say that the waitress probably isn't interested due to that fact...If she was REALLY interested she would have given you the number immediately.
Hopefully you can post up and prove me wrong...

Good luck!

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Re: Update, posted by beenthere on Sep 12, 2005

Beenthere:

I'll bet the waitress really IS interested, but she didn't want to make herself seam TOO "easy".  She wanted to make him sweat a little bit.

After all, she's got to watch him parade these other chicas in front of her, he's in total control.  The least she can do is make him wait for a phone number, which gives her control.  She wins either way.

Plus it gives her time to decide if she even wants to give her number to him, depending on what she observes with how he "behaves himself" with the last girl.  She may decide not to give the number to him, even if she is legitimately interested.

Mis dos pesos...

[Cali James]

... in response to Re: Re: Update, posted by Looking4Wife on Sep 12, 2005

[This message has been edited by Cali James]


I disagree, she sounds lukewarm at best. I'll give you my number later could very well be just an "out" so she doesn't have to confront the guy with a flat out "no".  Many Colombianas don't like direct confrontation, they'll frequently make an excuse that might seem like a maybe but it really means "no way".  I don't pretend to be an expert on all Colombian women but it seems to me the worst thing a gringo can do is waste time on lukewarm women and maybes.  If a Colombiana is interested in you it will be obvious even for the inexperienced.  Guys on vacations with limited time, should just ignore women who give off these vibes.  This isn't the good ol' USA, a gringo in Latin America has choices and options....

[beenthere]

... in response to Re: Re: Update, posted by Looking4Wife on Sep 12, 2005

These aren't American women, they don't think that way...believe me, if she was interested, she would have given him her number IMMEDIATELY...

[Beattledog]

... in response to Update, posted by paulw on Sep 12, 2005

That is great. Everyone is excited to receive the updates from you on a continual basis.   You are doing great

Beattledog

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Update, posted by paulw on Sep 12, 2005

Thanks for the play-by-play update.  This is much more interesting than Chris Berman on ESPN :-)

[Snoopy]

... in response to Re: Update, posted by Looking4Wife on Sep 12, 2005

SHE! --- COULD! --- GO! --- ALL! --- THE! --- WAY!!!

[paulw]

... in response to Re: Re: Update, posted by Snoopy on Sep 12, 2005

The fourth date went very well. She was very pretty and had a sweet personality. We got on quite well and I made her laugh a few time in my limited spanish. I toook this girls number and said I would call her.

We said our goodbyes and I turned around to look for the waitress to get the bill (and hopefully number). I found her sat behind me with another waiter. She did not look to happy as she took my money for the bill and spoke very very fast in Spanish (that made a couple of the other waiters laugh)which I did not understand but I understood her last word as she spoke it in English. BYE - I did not get the number!

[beenthere]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Update, posted by paulw on Sep 13, 2005

hate to say I told you so, but...

[pablo]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Update, posted by beenthere on Sep 13, 2005


It appears that she did not like how your fourth cita went, and was probably eavesdropping.  If you are really interested in her I bet if you went back a few times SOLO to that restaurant she might soften up enough to give you another chance.  At least you already know one of her character traits...un poco celosa.

[Cali James]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Update, posted by pablo on Sep 13, 2005

[This message has been edited by Cali James]

Hey Pablo, I'm with Beenthere on this one.  I doubt the woman was much interested to begin with.   If she was truly interested, I think she would have given her number on the spot.  It seems to me that when you're in Colombia, the land of plenty, pursuing women who are less than excited to go out with you, is a waste of the most precious resource you have in Colombia, that being time.  Guys need to learn to deprogram the kind of thought processes they've learned while dating gringas.  A guy has many more choices, oppurtunities and even control in Colombia than back home.  Guys IMO should be pursuing women who show genuine interest in them and ignore all women who give off the kind of vibes illustrated in this story.

[pablo]

... in response to Update, posted by Cali James on Sep 14, 2005


Hi James,

I agree with everything you said.  I was just thinking that since Paulw does have some time on his hands and if he was really interested in that lady he still has a chance with her.  He's probably already figured out that there are many options for a guy here in Colombia unlike back in the States and I imagine England, where Paul is from.  Who wants to mess with an overly jealous Latina playing games?

BTW, IBM's rock! :-)

[Cali James]

... in response to Re: Update, posted by pablo on Sep 14, 2005

Hey Paul, glad you like your Thinkpad. I think you got a good price.  BTW, we sold our PC division recently including Thinkpads to China, it's no longer IBM but called LENOVA.