Your kids and your new novia/wife.

[Canadaman]

I am as some people know a widower with 2 children aged 6 and 8 years old( a boy and a girl).

Has any men that are widowed or divorced with small children relay how their new novia or wife got along with your kids at first and later on down the road.

Any cultural or other dificulty between your kids , novia and you. I know everyone is different but any stories would be informative.

Jeff

[mudd]

... in response to Your kids and your new novia/wife., posted by Canadaman on Aug 8, 2005

from what I have found out, and this is my own personal experience, ( I have a 9 year old girl and 13 year old boy)  the girls who will date a man with kids already, usually has a niece or nephew in her family, and has been exposed to kids, either they love them, or they don’t. in my own personal experience, girls who wont date a man with kids already are either a little selfish, self centered, and don’t want to compete with the kids in the house, and they are also afraid that the kids are spoiled brats, and the father will side with the kids over the new wife.

Let’s face it, if your kids are well behaved, not rude or spoiled brats, then any girl with a mother instinct and good family values won’t have a problem with them. But don’t take sides in an argument, your new wife has to be equal with the kids in the house, or it’s not fair, and if one or the other is getting preferential treatment, it will soon lead to really big problems. also remember, just because you have kids already, your new wife  will probably want one or two of her own, so make it very clear, if you want more or not.
hope i helped

[thundernco]

... in response to Your kids and your new novia/wife., posted by Canadaman on Aug 8, 2005

I only know well of one couple.  My friend divorced his wife many years ago and has a few children in the pre-teen and teen years, boys and girls.  After trying unsiccesfully in Cali, he headed down to Peru and has met a wonderful Peruana.  She treats his kids with love and respect from what he tells me.  I've actually spoken to his late teen daughter and she says they get along quite well.  Only hitch is, she wants a child from him and he doesn't.  Good luck to you -TNC

[Canadaman]

... in response to Your kids and your new novia/wife., posted by Canadaman on Aug 8, 2005

Thanks for the great response UtopiaCowboy.

I had my first date last night since my wife died nearly 14 months ago.

She said that she could never treat kids that were not hers very well since she would not love them. That is after asking too many questions about the Life Insurance settlement I received. This woman was a cold woman, at least I finished my steak but I skipped desert so I could get out of there.

It was waiter check please !!!!

A friend of mine set up this date to get me out of the house. I told her thanks for the help but no more blind dates please.

[david hagar]

... in response to Re: Your kids and your new novia/wife., posted by Canadaman on Aug 8, 2005

Be very careful. My wife was killed in a single car accident over 11 years. My children were in their teeenage years at the time.  The woman came after me like vultures. I have never remarried, but I am looking for that very special woman

Beattledog

[Hoda]

... in response to Re: Your kids and your new novia/wife., posted by Canadaman on Aug 8, 2005


I'm happy to hear to that you kicked this witch to the curb, with the quickness :-) This was a "friend" that set you up with this, this, this, err, umm...woman?!!! Brother, get your affairs settled at home.....

Then get on a Jet!!!!! I just can't fathom, how COLD someone can be in asking about a Life Insurance settlement....ON A FIRST DATE!!!! I've seen & heard of some shit...but this woman takes the cake!

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Your kids and your new novia/wife., posted by Canadaman on Aug 8, 2005

My two girls were both Daddy's girls and they were fairly old (18 and 20) when I got married to my wife. There's a bit of a rivalry there and I can only describe their relationship as one of mutual toleration. OTOH, my sons were 12 and 14 and they have a good relationship with their stepmother. She cooks for them and makes sure that their favorite foods and sodas are in the house and they like the attention. Maybe the fact that they're boys helps too - any extra mothering that they get they seem to appreciate. So I would describe the relationship between my wife and them as quite good. My youngest son spends about 50% of his time at our house.

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Your kids and your new novia/wife., posted by utopiacowboy on Aug 8, 2005

I agree with Cowboy

My wife did not like my daughter and always told me she wanted other children, but not a girl.

Damn boys are spolied rotten in colombia and IMHO every last one of them needs there ARSE KICKED every third day of there life until they straighten up

My advice, never date a latin woman with a son, you will pull your hair our trying to compete with the little rugrat