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Author Topic: Can poor girls from SA be spoiled rotten?  (Read 9104 times)
JimmySTLOUIS
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« on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

So maybe you have been to S.A and you see the poverty. You have seen how some people work so hard just to eat and have a roof over their head.

So (like me) maybe you think that girls from these type family cant be spoiled and lazy right? I mean surely they must be able to see what a good opportunity coming to the USA would be right?
I mean there is no way that these poor girls could already be very spoiled right?
You have seen their house and they dont owm much so how could they be spoiled?

Well let me say that you can be spoiled at any income level. My wife is a lot of great things but hard working....... ahh no.

And guess what boys? She is not the only one. She has a cousin who comes from an even poorer family and she is way more spoiled.

When I think of spoiled I think of a rich parent who gives the kid everything and anything they want. But there seems to be other levels to this. I never dreamed that a poor family would just let the kids do nothing, teach them nothing about work, make them do no work around the house, no cooking, no cleaning etc.

Another thing to remember that even lower middle class (by SA standards) have maids. Thats right boys MAIDS!!!!

So guess what happens when they meet a "RICH" guy like you. Yes you - you are RICH!!!! (in case you didnt know it)

Now i know there are super hard working girls from SA.

Oh another thing I have learned - going to school is the "in" thing to do. Everyone is a student. The school business in Lima is a huge business. The schools are not even that good but they are a big business.
I know getting an education is important. It justs seems to me that there are a lot of professional students. Also you learn that some people only go to school a few nights - hours a week and that is a FULL TIME student to them


OK - I am done with my rant. Can anyone tell I am in a bad mood???

TE AMO PERU anyway!!!!!!

jim

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thundernco
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« Reply #1 on: July 24, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Can poor girls from SA be spoiled rotten..., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Jul 23, 2005

Jaja, sorry.  Reality is a bit different than the fantasy we create in our heads.  If she's a great gal overall and she loves you, things will change and adjustments will be made by both to ensure a good marriage.  Good luck -TNC
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Fuzzyone
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« Reply #2 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Can poor girls from SA be spoiled rotten..., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Jul 23, 2005

Jimmy did you just notice that about everyone having a maid? My ex-wifes family had no money but still had a maid I could not believe my eyes. It was even a bigger shock when my ex came here and could not clean or cook and could care less if she ever did. As mentioned before she is a employee at walmart and has to clean which I know hurts her right to the bone.
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Frank O
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« Reply #3 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Can poor girls from SA be spoiled rotten..., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Jul 23, 2005

Same thing over there. Everyone is EDUCATED but no one works. You have "attorneys" that have NEVER practiced law etc. It's VERY important to them to have an education but actaully WORK?! Well that's a WHOLE other thing. Also I spoiled my ex in a bad way. Apparently the average income per month in Ukraine is like $75 to $100 a month. Well I wanted her to live confortably, I mean she WAS my WIFE right? Can't have her live unconfortably. Well I was sending her a little over $300 month. $100 more than her father earned per month, they were middle class. Well that RUINED her. A young 20 year old with THAT kind of money?! Well she partied her cute little A$$ & wound up ruining our whole marriage. Oh well. Live & learn. I always figured people form these "poor" countries would APPRECIATE what we are willing to do for them. It sometimes doesn't even SINK IN that we are spending a lot of $$ to FLY AROUND THE WORLD for basically a fricking date to get to know them when the MEN in their country wouldn't even pay a cab to go visit them.
Anyways you put me in a BAD MOOD!!! LOL!!!
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Heat
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« Reply #4 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Can poor girls from SA be spoiled rotten..., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Jul 23, 2005

Jimmy,

You are not going to like what I am about to tell you.  
But.. You married a child bride.  

At 19 she is just a kid.  You are pushing forty.

You had better lay down the law now or she will walk all over you.  

This is not going to get better it's going to get worse.
Start now or pay down the road.

Did you bring her here on a fiancé visa?  Did you do a
pre nup?  Things you might want to think about.

But you better crack the whip.  Now Amigo.

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thundernco
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« Reply #5 on: July 24, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Tough Love or Heat knows Best......., posted by Heat on Jul 23, 2005

Yep, the sooner the better because it won't get any better unless you do.  BTW, it may get a little worse before it gets better. -TNC
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papi
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« Reply #6 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Tough Love or Heat knows Best......., posted by Heat on Jul 23, 2005

good advice but i would imagine easier said than done...especially if the girl does not have it in her. sounds like he is going to have to live with her or try an exchange
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Frank O
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« Reply #7 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Tough Love or Heat knows Best......., posted by Heat on Jul 23, 2005

It sounds like you are in a VERY similar situation to what I was in. I married a YOUNG one as well. I paid for it DEARLY. I'm not even talking financially I'm talking EMOTIONALLY, she broke my heart man. I really DID love with & would have died for her. She simply was NOT ready to marry. She was a young naive girl who THOUGHT she was SO wise & knew it all. Now she has NOTHING & is pregnant to boot with another mans child who she probably doesn't even know who he is. Very sad man. Sounds like you are in HOT HOT water man. All I can say it like was just stated you might be in for a heck of a LOT WORSE. I wish you THE BEST man but I'm still smarting over what I've gone through. I truly do wish you don't go through what I just did. I would NOT wish that upon ANYONE.
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JimmySTLOUIS
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« Reply #8 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Tough Love or Heat knows Best......., posted by Heat on Jul 23, 2005

FYI
shes 20 and I wont turn 38 for two more weeks

so HA HA!!!  Wink

TE AMO PERU!!!

jim

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Heat
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« Reply #9 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Re: Tough Love or Heat knows Best......., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Jul 23, 2005

Huh?

OK, you are still pushing forty and she's still a kid.

You asked for advice and then you don't seem mature enough to respond.

Have at dude.  Sounds like to me your problems have just started. I wouldn't start laughing at everybody yet.

The game is not over.

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Fuzzyone
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« Reply #10 on: July 24, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Re: Re: Tough Love or Heat knows Best......, posted by Heat on Jul 23, 2005

Heat
 
   I think he will realize his error some day when he comes back here to tell everyone he made a big mistake but that is ok, I was in that same boat and it is funny but it also was a girl from Peru. I think almost a 20 year difference here in the U.S. can be real bad especially if the woman is immuture.
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Jake
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« Reply #11 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Re: Re: Tough Love or Heat knows Best......, posted by Heat on Jul 23, 2005

Heat these guys would not date a girl in there own country .... because of all the advertising that you can marry a lady 20 years younger or more .... they get sucked into  it . What in the world would a 19 year old have in commom with a guy pushing 40 ......... they just create there own heart aches ...yea looks good when you are down there ... but when there feet hits the US soil ...funny  how things change .

My lady is actually begging me to move to Brazil ... she would live anywhere in Brazil if I choose to move there ..

Mike sayd hello , to bad you could not have joined us . It would been a real good laugh for the day ... Maybe next time ... will even invite Papi .....

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papi
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« Reply #12 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Tough Love or Heat knows Bes..., posted by Jake on Jul 23, 2005

how old is your novia? she looks young
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Jake
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« Reply #13 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Tough Love or Heat knows..., posted by papi on Jul 23, 2005

believe it or not , she will be 30 in October . the photo I sent to you she was 29 ....... I met her when she was 27 . I tryed a few of those 20-21 year old  and there was just way to many problems for me in the future . Also In Brazil the really pour have no maids . SO that is one area I do not have to worry about ...
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papi
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« Reply #14 on: July 23, 2005, 04:00:00 AM »

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Tough Love or Heat k..., posted by Jake on Jul 23, 2005

no way 29, send some more pics
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