My quest so far

[DarthMaul]

[This message has been edited by DarthMaul]

Kinda long but since I am a noob I figured I well let who ever is interested in what I have done so far in my quest

1)   Bought a name and phone number from www.latinsocialnetwork.com the email address was disabled so I called the cell number (Cali Colombia) and an older lady picked up and told me that this cell no longer belongs to her

2)   Bought 3 email-address from www.international-interductions.com wrote all three girls and got back 1 line responses from each... never heard from them again

3)   So I met this girl from Santiago Dominican Republic on www.amigos.com and we instant messaged each other a lot... she was going to modeling school and she set me some of her pictures (same ones from amigos website + one) she is really hot... I sent her mines and the fireworks began... she is 20 I am 29... I tried to impress her with the fact that I am a software engineer for a really big, well known, worldwide software company but she didn't seem to know much about it or even care (oh well) and well we continue to IM each other everyday that week 2-3 hours at a time until our first phone conversation that Saturday morning. During our IM conversation she seemed very nice but she didn't trust me much, she kept asking me if I had a girlfriend or will I meet someone and forget about her, during our first conversation on the phone it was more of that. I planned on going to the movies (Fantastic Four) that night with a friend and she insisted that it was with a girl (it was a girl, only a friend though, but I told her it was a guy and she didn't believe me). That Sunday I was going to the movies again (War of the Worlds) and again she didn't believe me and kept saying that I have a girl and she even wanted me to IM or email her when I got home so she can see what time I was in since I told her it was an early showing and I would be home by 7:30 (yikes). Anyway during our Sunday conversation she told me that she had allergies to a waxing that she had for a shoot and had little bumps all over her body (that scared me right away... don't know if it is permanent or what), she also continually tried to teach me proper Spanish (I am Latin but I was born in the States, so I don't think my poor Spanish will be improving anytime soon) this was another turn off... I didn't sign in on IM at all yesterday to avoid her so that I can think this over... she emailed me and I replied with the I am afraid of the whole fact that she doesn't trust me (a cop out really) but I do really think she is too complicated...

I plan on traveling in late September to meet some Latinas... not sure where... I almost thought of going to see the Dominican girl in Santiago... but I am not yet convinced that there are many there that look like her... there seem to be more like her, from my limited experience in surfing the internet, in Colombia... so that is where I might be headed too

[Frank O]

... in response to My quest so far, posted by DarthMaul on Jul 19, 2005

at least that's what everyone said to me when my marriage when thi $hit.

[Bueller]

... in response to I would think 20 yrs old is a red flag, posted by Frank O on Jul 20, 2005

That's one profession, along with actress, singer, and lawyer, that you should probably stay away from if a happy marriage is what you are after. LA has plenty of women who look like models, who aren't, if you know what I mean.

 Hmm...a really big, well known, worldwide software company in Redmond? Now there you got me; can't think of one. :-)

[Frank O]

... in response to I would think being a model is another, posted by Bueller on Jul 20, 2005

I mentioned to him on an e mail the as soon as I see the word "model" I run like Forrest Gump. The FIRST lady I met in this "game" was a "model" so I learned REALLY fast. So I guess from most's perspective he ALREADY has TWO red flags, 1.) 20 years old    #2.) a "model"  & perhaps #3.) she's DOUBTING HIM sort of lack of trust there.

[Bueller]

... in response to Re: I would think being a model is anoth..., posted by Frank O on Jul 20, 2005

...although the first two are enough. Jealousy often comes from what the person who feels it would do if no one were looking.

[Frank O]

... in response to Yes, I would think jealosy is yet anothe..., posted by Bueller on Jul 20, 2005

because it hits TOO CLOSE TO HOME FOR ME!!! EVERYONE kept telling my wife that I JUST HAD To be sleeping around & cheating on her. Well I wasn't. I had 1 fricking year of NO SEX & NO LOVE because I was waiting for her. Meanwhile back at the farm....well she went out & did what everyone told her I WAS DOING. Meanwhile of course she was SO jealous of me when she had NOTHING to be jealous of. I was REALLY blown away when the singer in my band, a hot 21 year old told me "Frank I REALLY admire you because you had PLENTY of opportunites to screw so many girls & I actually saw you turn them down & stay faithful to Diana. I will always RESPECT that. You REALLY are something." Man I didn't even know what to say. In the long run it didn't matter my wife was a whore. I might as well have slept around. I just couldn't violate MY constitution.

[OkieMan]

... in response to I would think 20 yrs old is a red flag, posted by Frank O on Jul 20, 2005

Frank,

How old was your Ukrainian wife when you married her?  Just curious.

                   OkieMan

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: I would think 20 yrs old is a red fl..., posted by OkieMan on Jul 20, 2005

She was 19. Unfortunately the one I married & the one at our 1 year anniversary were not the one & the same. Very hard but she just changed. There WERE NO RED FLAGS till 10 months AFTER our marriage. I had 1 friend who met her in June she helped him in Kiev & Dnepropetrovsk. He told me I had it made etc. He went back in December & told me the same "Frank I did NOT even recognize Diana. The Diana you married is dead & long gone. Bail out while you can."
Of course we were already married so I felt the need to TRY to patch things up & work out through this "tough time". However she had no such desire. She would occacinoally mention about "I'll TRY to be a good wife to you". TRY?! WTF? I need you to BE not to TRY!! LOL!! ANyways I honestly don't think I could have changed anything. Other than just simply NOT marrying her to begin with. That's why I feel PERHAPS 20 is too young. I know that's NOT the case with ALL ladies no matter from where but I seem to feel that IN GENERAL everyon on the board seems to think that. AFter my ugly experience I would venture to say they are right.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: I would think 20 yrs old is a re..., posted by Frank O on Jul 20, 2005

Frank,

After going through 2 divorces with 2 american women; I will tell you that I am not necessarily convinced they "change.  We say that; I've said it myself.  But, something tells me that they just appear to change.  Actually what I think happens is that you finally see the "other side" of their personality.  You say you did not see the "bad side" until after 10 months.  Well, up to that time, you were certainly in your "honeymoon" phase.  Lots of sex and sweetness.  But, after the new wore off, watch out!!  These women can throw all of us a curve.

                           OkieMan

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: I would think 20 yrs old is ..., posted by OkieMan on Jul 20, 2005

you are right. EVERYONE tells me that. I just don't know I'll be honest.

[DarthMaul]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: I would think 20 yrs old is ..., posted by OkieMan on Jul 20, 2005

Thanks all for the feedback... and some very funny comments and observations ... I will have to really grill this girl some more for sure before I hop on a plan to DR... She does go to the local University there and lives with her parents and one thing that she has said all along that impresses me is that she was concern that I would be bored in Santiago because it isn't a tourist area... she suggested that Puerto Plata was better for tourist... I ask her that I would like to visit Puerto Plata and if she can accompany me... she said that she doens't think she would be able to because of her parents... she said I can visit her anytime but as far as going out she said she can't unless she has her parents permission (sounds good to me it also looks like she is from one of the well-to-do families in Santiago... she has internet at home and yesterday she set up a webcam so we can IM with cameras on... but still who knows... I will be taken the dreaded red flags mentioned here into consideration

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: I would think 20 yrs old..., posted by DarthMaul on Jul 20, 2005

The only way you will know for sure is to meet her yourself.  From my prospective as a man, as well as a parent, if her parents are fairly strict, and if she does not rebel against their wishes, chances are she is a "good girl", and possibly a good marriage prospect.  But, again, you will never know until you meet her AND  her parents!  Just take it a step at a time, and also see other girls.  That way she does not take up all your time, and then you won't end up like I did my last trip to Cali.  Believe me, I have learned my lesson.

                                  OkieMan